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Okay!

Lily is a nice girl who is fun to have around, so this should be a pleasant time for me, too! 💖

It's everyone be nice to lily time

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As someone who was born, raised, and still resides in the land of Dudespeak: gender neutral, or not, if you are knowingly hurting people without intent to change, you suck.

I know it is hard to change. I still struggle with "dude," "man," "bro," and "guys" entering my sentences unconsciously. Even trying does a LOT to make you feel like someone safe and trustworthy, though.

If you want the people around you to feel like you are a safe place in a scary world, especially those who haven't felt safe enough to tell you yet, it is worth the effort.

ok like. at the end of the day "is bro/dude gender neutral" is kind of a moot point. "i use dude gender neutrally!" "i use bro gender neutrally!" ok. cool. i am not gender neutral. i am a woman. you dont need to refer to me with gender neutral terms, as i am not gender neutral. i should be referred to as a woman.

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49th Book I Read in 2025

Title: The Queer Mental Health Workbook

Author: Brendan J. Dunlop

Notes: Really liked this book. Not much of it was new to me though, since I've done CBT before. Still, I highly recommend this one.

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This just reminded me of one of the most relatable things that I have ever read:

Between not knowing how to interact with a lot of people, without coming off as weird, and ADHD making it so hard for me to retain what was said, this scene feels a little too familiar.

Of course, Yumiella here is failing to listen, by choice...

Sorry for being incapable of answering a question without like 900 "It dependssss" prefaces. Unfortunately too many things depend on too many things

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Literal definition of spyware:

Also From Microsoft’s own FAQ: "Note that Recall does not perform content moderation. It will not hide information such as passwords or financial account numbers. 🤡

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i think it's really fun that the most destructive legal action that can be enacted on someone else in the united states is just "extend parental rights to an adult"

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I'm going to frame this in my house

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when you tell a girl her outfit is really cute and she does a little pose thing then smiles, reblog if u agree

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How? How did this happen?!

This didn't happen because I knew the answer, that is for sure.

I made a quiz about some of my favorite animals :)

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No more cigarettes, no more cutting. No more cigarettes, no more cutting. No more cigarettes, no more cutting.

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That's more or less the goal of all the smear campaigns, for sure. Convincing the average person that transgender doesn't mean someone is always like that, but that it is a costume being worn my some evil monster.

Shockingly, I am also a woman when I check the mailbox, feed the cat and use my personal toilet (in my house, which they are not allowed in).

It isn't an evil plan; it is just me.

You know what I find fucking fascinating? The cis people who seem shocked to see a trans woman doing normal things? I don't know how to phrase it, but the example i would give is when I'm on walks with my dog in the forest. Like it feels like they genuinely can't believe I exist outside of inherently sexual contexts. It feels like they all conceive of trans women only presenting as female for like, nights out and orgies or something. Like nah bro, this is my default state of being.

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what nobody tells you about transition is the totality of it. once you dig into gender and start expressing the way you want, you'll start to find the marks of discomfort littered around the rest of your life. you'll notice how you were never living for yourself, just following the guidelines laid out for you.

as soon as you disengage that autopilot, you're on your own. you have to decide what is actually best for you. you have to question every decision you've ever made because they were all made by someone trying to play by the rules, rules whose application will kill you.

in the year-and-change since starting my transition, I have completely changed everything about my presentation, I changed how I talk, how I carry myself, how I interact with people. I changed the company I keep, I moved cities, I abandoned a career path I had been pursuing my entire life. I lost friends, made new ones, started engaging with types of media I had never been interested in before.

there's a life on the other side of transition, and you have to claw it back piece by piece. I will never stop transitioning into who I'm supposed to be because every time I get closer, I realize there's more I still need to change.

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i'm trying to flirt with this noblewoman but she keeps asking me to demonstrate my flawless sword technique and i don't think she realizes how much effort i'm putting in to make my tits bounce while doing so

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convincing this wandering swordmaster (loser, woman) to keep demonstrating her flawless technique to cleave a man from his life for me because her tits bounce really lewdly whenever she does it and she hasn't noticed yet