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Hi Phati sari!! I have always felt that Khushi's character in ipk is not as well defined as Arnav's was. Her witty personality was completely butchered by the end of the show. So my question is that do you think Khushi is insecure or toxic in any way?

Sometimes I feel khushi is confident and proud of who she is but later in the show her spunk is completely missing. Do you think Khushi seeks validation from Arnav or she feels secure the way she is?

Hello!

I don't see Khushi as insecure or toxic. I think she makes mistakes, and the serial (at times) doesn't hold her accountable for them. I also don't think her personality was butchered throughout the serial. I think she grew. The serial showed us a period of immense change in Khushi and Arnav's lives, and their characters naturally changed as a consequence.

Sometimes people write in and say that Arnav's character was butchered as well, that he used to be so calculating and fun to watch and by the end of the serial those aspects of his character were missing. That he became boring.

We saw Khushi's confidence and spunk when she was standing up to a man who was bullying her. When she was defending herself and those she loved. As the serial progressed, she had to do that less and less with Arnav. She still had those qualities when dealing with Shyam and Sheetal, and even the people involved in the Mrs India contest. She even stood up to Arnav a few times after remarriage.

Similarly, Arnav used to hid his true emotions behind the persona of ASR. He needed it less and less as the serial went on, which is why folks might find him boring later on.

Khushi is pretty secure for someone who was orphaned at 8 years old and bullied by an aunt. That comes from Shashi's love and acceptance. She might become insecure sometimes, but I didn't get the sense that she seeks Arnav's approval above and beyond what one would naturally want from someone they love.

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“If you are done staring me, Can I get Mehta’s file Miss Gupta.” ASR/Khushi.

Hello!

I changed it slightly to be grammatically correct, I hope you don’t mind :)

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Hi! I started watching ipkknd last year and then have been reading all sorts of fanfics ever since. I just wanted to tell you that out of all the Arnavs I've read, Yours is my favourite! So Thank You for writing such beautiful fics ! Hope you're doing well. Love, just a very happy reader. <3

Hi hi hi!

Thank you very much, this is so kind :) I write for me, as in, my primary audience is me, so it's always amazing to hear from people who enjoy the stories or like the characterisation. I know my Arnav is softer than other interpretations, but that's what I want to read!

Thank you for reading my stories and for taking the time to send a message :)

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Hi can you tell me please how to get the English subtitles like I downloaded the mega app but I don't know how to get the English subtitles please answer my question ❓

Hello!

The subtitles are in a folder called subtitles. You need to download the episodes, download the subtitles, and then use some kind of media player (I prefer VLC) to play.

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Dinosaurs didn’t watch Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon? and now they’re extinct.

Coincidence?

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Hello hi bye bye dear Phati Sari! I really like your blog that gives me much needed clarity on ipkknd. I appreciate your POVs that are understanding and empathetic towards each character and no unnecessary hate. Kudos to ya!!

Anyway I always found Khushi's choice of item song and performance tad bit disappointing in the bachelorette party. I did not like 'Namak ishq ka' song for seducing arnav at that point of their relationship (maybe later after remarriage like on arnav's birthday or khushi tryna making up to arnav for her goof ups etc).

I feel Sanaya is a super good dancer and they could've actually done something super sensual and alluring rather than comical and awkward in nature. I just wish they could at least once give khushi a space for expressing her true desire and affection for arnav, that way the consummation scene could have been more electrifyingly aesthetic. 

Do you think this as a missed opportunity to showcase khushi's feminity giving a backseat to her goofy childish-self?

Hello!

Thank you very much! I try really hard to keep things balanced on the blog, so I appreciate your words. I know it annoys a few folks, but I try to remember that this is also the person I want to be in daily life -- a person who recognises that everyone is the hero of their own story, and everyone thinks they are justified in how they behave. I know the characters and their situations aren't real, but they are real enough for the purposes of the blog!

I totally see where you're coming from. There are a few times I get frustrated as well. For example, in Episode 147 where Khushi runs on the spot while screaming because Arnav was in the bathroom with her. From the recap -

Khushi’s reaction was … weird. Maybe it was cute, but in a sixteen-never-been-touched-and-terrified-of-boys way. Yes, she’s eighteen, innocent, pure, virginal, etc etc etc. But Arnav unwrapped her from the fairylights in one of the most sensual moments of her life so far. She was willing to let this man kiss her at his poolside. She’s fallen on top of him, he’s fallen on top of her. He’s pulled her to him and held her flush against his body. The shocked scream made sense to me, and so did instinctively trying to cover herself up. I think she could have been shy, or awkward. She could have even been instantly angry. But the running on the spot was simply weird and made the incident more juvenile than it needed to be.

I understand that Khushi's character is written to be comical and awkward rather than alluring and sensual. Khushi's relationship with intimacy and sensuality is often in keeping with the character, but I definitely think that the creative team sometimes missed the mark completely with how they treated some situations and tracks. The lead-up to the Janmashtami suhaag raat, for example, is awful.

In Khushi's defence at the bachelor party, she clearly did not know the meaning of the song and had just picked something she thought men wanted to see. But I take your point, the sequence could have been more, meant more, had different choices been made.

I think the creative team struggled with a way to allow Khushi to grow up and accept her sensuality given the constraints of 2011-2012 tellywood, and given the inherent misogyny in what they were showing sometimes. Lavanya is allowed to be alluring and sensuous because she's a Certain Type of Woman, and Khushi is Not That Kind of Woman. In fact, she is often expected to be a Girl, not a Woman.

Which. Ew.

Having said all that, this is still one of the most sensuous stories I've seen from the era (and okay, I haven't seen a tonne), the female lead very obviously feels lust, and also features (a technically) pre-martial consummation. While not exactly controversial for the time, it was pushing the proverbial envelope. Which is one of the reasons it was (and continues to be) so popular.

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hii PS!! big fan here!

I started watching ipk in dec last year and its almost may end, I have watched it like thrice already! I know I am late to watch this epic show but better late than never haha!

I came across your blog and I am in love!! you are an amazing writer with great skills!!

can you write about the scene what was going on in asr's mind while the preeto's wedding track when khushi climbs the stairs to take the flower bucket down and then her dupatti flies all over face and ASR comes to rescue her! then they have a big staring moment🥹🥰 just wanna know what goes on in his mind when he intensely stares at her.

and also when they fall from the stairs and the flower petals shower on them and they both sit up and start laughing, I mean what was going on? what made ASR go soft and laugh with her ?

I have my most important exam in a few hours and here I am writing this question lol! but anyways I hope id get my reply by the end of my exams in a week, or not! its completely fine hehe!

just love your work xoxo

Hello!

I don't write stories on request (unless we're doing a request askbox thing, which I haven't done in years).

It's never too late to discover and love a show! Welcome to the #EndlesslyRewatchingIPKKNDClub :) I hope your exams are okay, good luck!!

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Hi Phati Sari, love IpKknd and love love your blog. Below are some general musings from rewatching the show for nth time - 1) Goats are not really house trained. How is Lakshmi ji doing her business in Raizada house. 2) if Raizadas are so rich, how cone Arnav ji is opening doors whenever doorbell rings(specially for Khushi) 3) continuing with rich theme, kind of heartbreaking that new bahus don’t have 300 Rs to buy holi colors.

Welcome, and thank you!

OMG THIS IS WHY ARNAV BITWA AND LAKSHMI-JI DO NOT GET ALONG. His garden is being used in unapproved ways? She not only eats his plants, but then does her business at his private, personal poolside too?!

JP, HP, and OP watch as Arnav-bhaiya is forced to open the door to Khushi-ji, giggling and high-fives all-round because their subtle attempts at match-making are paying off

These Gupta sisters na, they were happy with their 100 Rs colours in Laxmi Nagar and they will be happy with the same here in Raijjada House. Hello, hi, bye bye.

(I do mention the weird post-marriage money situation sometimes, for example in my recap of Episode 206.)

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Hello. Hope you are doing well. I just want to ask you if you have removed the ipkknd episodes link? I just cannot open it.

Hello!

The links in the FAQ still work for me.

I haven't uploaded any of these, so I don't control the access. I just provide the link. I can't do anything if they've stopped working.

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Hi , I just started reading your blog and Tere Bin story, couldnt find the links to next chapter after chapter 8, could you please redirect me there. Really liked reading so far, its very well written and has the perfect mix of angst and longing. Thanks xo!

Hello :)

Thanks for reading Tere Bin! It's currently unfinished, so that's all there is for now.

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Hello phati sari! Hope you are well. I was rewatching ipkknd and in the bachelor party episode, when khushi is dancing, why does Arnav act uninterested (idk if thats the right word), i referring the way he is moving away while she is dancing around him. Assuming that, earlier it was him who asked Khushi to dance (we don’t actually get to hear what he asks her to do). What do you think? Take care byee

Hello!

Yes, Arnav wants it to stop because of the song she chose.

However he might have phrased it, Arnav’s directive to Khushi was essentially ‘seduce me’ – which she did in the only way she knows how: Bollywood-style. She chose a song that's about giving a man oral pleasure and danced in a way that (according to the trash cinema she loves) appeals to men. Her choosing the song as a way to seduce Arnav is funny but bizarre in the extreme because they haven’t even kissed yet and there is she dancing to … that. She clearly doesn’t know what the lyrics mean, she just thinks this is what men like and want to see.

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hey hey, I was wondering where can I watch IPKKND, with English subtitles. I have been search for forever and I can’t seem to find it anywhere 😕

Hello :)

Covered here.

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when do you think arnav realised that he loves kushi? and vise versa. not Lust but something more.

Hello :)

Covered here.

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Param Singh : Ishk Par Zor Nahi

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Hi PS,

Hope you are well. Recently discovered your wonderful blog as I reconnected to my love of IPKKND. I know that you have mentioned in the blog that you have seen a lot of 4Lions Productions. I'm curious if you ever came across Ishk par Zor Nahi on Sony TV also by 4Lions?

It uses a lot of the similar tropes that IPKKND does though I hate the rushed ending (due to the channel pulling the plug) but there are many similar aspects that I loved. Love your blog by the way. Your analyses remind me of all the reasons why I fell in love with IPKKND to begin with. Sending love. X

Hello and welcome!

Thank you for the super kind words :)

I've never watched it, but I discovered there are full episodes on YouTube! (Gosh I love SonyTV for that.) From a quick Google, it follows the same template as most 4Lions daily serials (grumpy business dude with three names falls in love with a bubbly 'believes in love' girl, drama ensues until there is a remarriage).

And 'Mitwa, ishq par zor nahin' was the song for Qubool Hai season 1!!

Sending you all that love right back!

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Hello PS! Hope you are having a great day!

I just wanted to say, i envy how you can be polite and respectful in all responses despite disagreements. It's a skill i need to develop for my job :')

Anyways, not to harp on all the negativity, I wanted to send a cute ask.

I watched the sangeet episode as stress buster; I loved it, Arnav smiling endearingly at her detective-giri and the "baal nahi jhadne chahiye" thing :D Arnav being lowkey embarrassed at the performances of the families was on point (⁠◕⁠ᴗ⁠◕)

And the awkward Salman Khan wala dance ♡ Barun can't dance very well but ig that's the charm of that performance lol

Can I ask, what's your favourite episode among all the wedding ceremonies? From shagun to the actual wedding?

Hi hello!

This is such a fun question, thanks! I think the mehndi ceremony -- love the costumes, the little dance number, Arnav getting henna on his palm :)