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When TERFs say "noooo we don't support mutilating intersex people obviously" they're fucking lying. TERFs full-throatedly support a binary model of gonochoristic sex, which is enforced with violence against intersex people. If intersex people weren't being mutilated and killed on a massive scale, we would violate the sex binary by our mere presence and visibility. You can't say "I don't support crushing orphans" while wearing an "I ❤️ the orphan crushing machine" shirt.

When you say we are ~2% of the population, that is AFTER the intersex infanticide, exclusion of certain variations, and expecting parents being urged by doctors to abort fetuses found to be intersex. Not to mention the unaccounted for intersex people, hospitals are not required to track intersex births in plenty of places. Even ontologically evil child abuser John Fucking Money estimated the prevalence of intersexuality to be over 5% of the population during his experiments regarding "fixing" intersex children. If Intersexuality wasn't societally suppressed, we would be an everyday sight. You NEED to understand that if you want to be an ally to us.

The "rarity" of intersex people is engineered. It is visceral evidence of the violence against us, hidden in plain fucking sight.

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90% of discourse on this site would evaporate overnight if people actually took the time to internalize the idea that suffering isn't a competition

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ah yes, the age old question:

am I getting over being sick, or did my baseline get worse

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Hot take it’s not actually accessible if I have to ask an abled body person for help or assistance

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goodnight to people who are unable to run goodnight to people who used to be known for 'running/skipping' everywhere until it became far too painful and dangerous goodnight to people who have a walking gait that shows deformity and 'disturbs others' goodnight to people who have limbs that 'move wrong' goodnight to people who walk with a limp goodnight to people who stumble and fall goodnight to people who use a mobility aid goodnight to people who use elevators goodnight to people who use shower-chairs goodnight to people who use ramps

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Anyone else with chronic pain ever get really absorbed in a project and dissociate from your body while you're working but then you finish and you come back to your body and you're just like AAAAAAAHHH! WHAT'S WRONG?? oh yeah. The horrors. Never mind

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Intersex trans people who's gender matches their SIG but not their AGAB did not have an "easier" time transitioning and are sick of hearing this, by the way.

Intersex trans people are not just like perisex trans people but with a 'head start' on their transition. And most intersex people have had to deal with medical abuse and endless bureaucracy about what should be done about their transition. Intersex trans people have to deal with transphobia AND intersexism. Don't assume an intersex trans person has it better than you, just because they have natal traits you are personally envious of.

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autism "i need my routine and the routine was already ignored yesterday" vs chronic pain/disability "good fucking luck dude. you got no bones today"

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My identity and life experiences are becoming almost comedically difficult to explain to other people. I just realized the transition I've been going through for the better part of a decade is technically more of a detransition because of the "treatments" for my intersex variation and the way that was all handled socially.

Y'all, my life is so fuckin weird

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disabled people deserve more than the bare minimum to live tbh. and i don't mean in the "oh we have extra costs that makes being disabled more expensive" - which is true, but i'm counting those in the budget to live. disabled people also deserve enough money to buy treats, nice clothes, fund their hobbies, take a trip away, and so on. being disabled shouldn't force you into a life of frugality and poverty

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Fae (slang and subculture coining proposal)

Good afternoon, my loves! This idea had been sitting on my brain for a while, and I want to share it with you guys.

In summary, since the word "dolls" is slang term belonging to trans women/transfemmes, I figured that there should be some special affectionate slang term that we intersex women/interfemmes should use for ourselves and each other: "faes".

What does the slang fae mean?

A fae is slang for a beautiful, mystical, ethereal and stunning intersex woman/interfemme. This is meant for intersex women and interfemmes to claim as a way to build confidence and empowerment in acknowledging and embracing our beauty, especially the beauty in intersex womanhood and intersex femininity and intersex queer womanhood and femininity, in a harsh, cruel and nasty world and society that frequently tries to erase, mock, dismiss, laugh at, disrespect and dehumanize us yet also simultaneously and hypocritically objectifying, fetishizing and hyper-sexualizing us.

Since "fae" is short for "fairy", this not only is in reference to fae/fairy mythology from fairy tale folklore but also thus overlaps with intersex women and interfemmes reclaiming the trope and idea of being seen as alluring, fascinating, magical, desirable and intriguing but only reclaiming it for ourselves to take back our agency and autonomy, and not for the sake of appeasing or getting approval from interphobes, intersexists and intermisogynists that erase and dehumanize us while also simultaneously objectifying and fetishizing us (ew!). This also parallels some queer folks reclaiming the word fairy. (refererence: @satyrradio's Alluring Intersex flag, for intersex folks who reclaim the Intersex Allure trope)

This slang and subculture will especially aim to empower and uplift black and brown intersex women and interfemmes of color, intersex women and interfemmes who use nonbinary and gender non-conforming (GNC) gender identities and labels, and autistic, neurodivergent and disabled intersex women and interfemmes (especially as I'm a black/brown mixed race and autistic neurodivergent intersex woman and interfemme who uses gender non-conforming (GNC) and nonbinary gender identities and labels).

Also, I hope there'll be a flag coining for this soon, especially by somebody like either @satyrradio or @brokendollhouse22-blog (whom I hope will see and read this! Please let's make it happen! 💖💖🤞🏽🤞🏽).

Note: Intersex men and intermascs, especially autistic, neurodivergent and disabled intersex men and intermascs and black and brown intersex men and intermascs of color are absolutely welcome to claim the slang fae, as intersex men and intermascs, especially those of color and who are gender non-conforming (GNC) by gender identity and expression are just as likely to face intersexism and interphobia, just as much as intersex women and interfemmes face intersexism, interphobia, intermisogyny and intermisogynoir.

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RE: ShinigamiEyes

It seems my silly little comic has sparked something that I should probably talk about.

I made that comic after seeing a mutual of mine and fellow intersex activist marked as red for discussing intersexism in the trans community. Previously, another mutual of mine had been marked red for having once been assigned female but being transfem (intersex). I had also had previous run-ins with anti-transmasc folks who were marked green. At the same time, I was also upset with how racism and intersexism within the trans community was brushed off with "but I'm trans!" when it was brought up.

I just made it in a spur-of-the-moment anger and honestly didn't expect it to get so much attention. I am, in a way, glad that it did though, since now even I have realized that "hey, maybe an extension that marks people as 'safe' and 'unsafe' isn't a good idea. Maybe humans are inherently biased. Maybe the trans community is a diverse group of people with different opinions on what is and isn't offensive."

If you saw that comic and thought "maybe I can make a *better* Shinigamieyes," don't. It is doomed to fail. The best thing to do is to make your own judgment.

Be nice to other trans and intersex folks. Help eachother out. Don't divide ourselves. That's all.

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disabled people i am so proud of you for setting boundaries & for respecting your body & needs. even when it inconveniences other people. even if it means you need to ask for help a lot more than you’d like to. even if it means repeated rain checks and rescheduling. even if it’s frustrating to able-bodied people. thank you for being kind to yourself.

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nobody:

me: *likes a post*

my ocd: was that post you liked actually good? what if that person is secretly bad and people find out and then you're a bad person by association because you liked their post? what if this post has secret dogwhistles that you don't know about? and by liking it that means you agree with it! reread it 30 times until all the words don't even seem like words anymore and the meaning is mush! what? you can't tell if it is a bad™ post? see, you actually are a bad person because a good person would be able to tell. you are going to hell now! you need to think at least 5 'good' things so you can counteract your eternal damnation!!! now now now now NOW NOW NOW!!!!

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perisex trans people, i am begging you to stop using cafab and camab, these are not your terms, those are for intersex people who were forced through IGM to be forced into society's sex binary, they do not refer to a doctor looking at you as an infant and going "yep, thats a girl, put an F on the birth certificate"

*cafab/camab stand for "coercively assigned female/male at birth"

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"Disabled people can do everything abled people can!1!1!!" I'm gonna have to ask you what you think disabled means