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JUST LET ME BE.

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Sexism- definitely still a thing. Even in vet school. Which is like... 80% female.

 So every now and then I forget sexism is still a thing and think I won’t come across it because I’m in a female dominated profession but every now and then you have an encounter that like…. slaps you back into reality and reminds you that… yeah. It absolutely still is a thing, and no matter how good you are at something you’ll only ever be seen as a baby machine to some people. I had one of those moments recently in an imaging rotation.

There were three guys and two girls (including me) in my group. Over the week, I started to feel like me and the other girl were getting picked on by the main imaging clinician who I will henceforth refer to as Crusty Old White Dude.Like… he seemed to ask us way harder questions than he asked the guys, and would nitpick us for stuff that he would let slide when the guys did- e.g. I described the serosal detail on an image as “okay” and got dragged over the coals. One of the guys in our group did that multiple times and C.O.W.D doesn’t say shit about it. At first I thought I was maybe overthinking it. But when I was alone with the other girl in the group, she says “Man … C.O.W.D. picks on you so much… it’s seriously pissing me off” and god that was VALIDATING. Like… it’s not just me…. other people can see it too! Hallelujah! Eventually I start to improve over the week to the point where this guy CAN’T pick on me because I’m not giving him anything to pick on me for, so I kind of forget about it until it gets to the end of the week. Now, as a whole, COWD seemed to like our group and he’s telling us all how well we’ve done and how he’d give each and every one of us a job but THEN decides to wreck it by pointing to me and the other girl and saying:

“You two should really consider going into imaging….. it’s something you can make a decent living from all while staying at home” . 

What. The. Fuck. Why is that such a selling point for us and not the guys? So we should go into imaging because in the end we’re definitely gonna be stay at home mums looking after babies? Ugh. Disappointing. 

I messaged multiple friends about this asking for any possible way I could be misinterpreting this. I consider myself a raging feminist ,but I still don’t wanna be that person finding sexism in every little thing. I looked for any excuse for it not to be sexist but there’s no explaining that away. It’s pretty blatant. I think that’s one of the things that really sucks though about that kind of sexism that isn’t outright “hurr durr women bad”.. it’s super hard to call out and makes you doubt yourself and think you’re being over sensitive. Which is really shitty. 

Anyways, don’t really know why I shared this little anecdote, I just needed to rant. Consider this a reminder that you’re not exempt from sexism just because you’re in an industry that is predominantly female. It’s still out there. Hooray. 

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Gender euphoria is a concept that was made to be the opposite of gender dysphoria and describe the strong feeling of happiness that trans people experience when they’re being treated as their true gender. For some people, this feeling can be an indicator of being trans.

Please reblog to support the use of this term!

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natalie portman radiates such a terrifying energy i can’t describe it….. it’s not exactly evil but it’s not warm either…. i feel like she could unhinge her jaw and drag me into the ocean like a kraken but she wouldn’t bc it’s undignified 

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Please read it and reblog people have to hear about what happened today. There are videos of nationalists beating people (teenagers) just because they were walking nearby or throwing firecrackers. These are the people that our president was willing to go side by side during the independence day. We can't rely on the government doing something so please don't sleep on it, let prople know about things happening in Poland right now.

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Reblog this if your blog is a safe haven for ALL non-white, disabled, trans, queer, and/or women, and your ask box is open to anyone who needs it tonight, or anytime, for the next few years.

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Shout out to girls that compliment each other and mean it. That jealousy shit is dead and we don’t have to constantly tear each other down. #spreadgirllove

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Had to find out this morning when checking discord that rabb.it is shutting down soon.

Some alternatives I know about:

-metastream (desktop site and browser extension)

-synaptop (simulated online operating system. desktop)

-togethertube (youtube/vimeo/soundcloud sharing)

-netflixparty (browser extension for netflix streaming and chatting)

-airtime (mobile app. limited)

It won’t be the same but that’s just what i know. Rest in peace Rabbit.

Feel free to comment only if you have any other recommendations

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foods that will poison cats:

alcohol 

chocolate

caffeine

dairy products (adults turn lactose intolerant)

fat trimmings, raw meat, eggs, fish

grapes and raisins

onions and garlic

tuna (when not made for cats)

xylitol (artificial sweetener)

if you have a cat please reblog this

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everyone who reads this post will get some big spicy joy within 24 large minutes (hours)

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A person with an abusive nature will always register you standing up for yourself as an act of betrayal. Betray them.

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every epigraph in The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt

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I fucking miss One Direction

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in your 20’s find a balance between hustle & rest. you don’t need to have a love life or a soulmate figured out. go travel the world. battle your demons. set up a business, find people who value your heart & yours will attract. don’t live in the past, you have so much more to see

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Advice for people in their 20s from someone who’s just entered their 30s....

1. Don’t waste time being fearful: go for that job that you’re certain you’re not gonna get. What’s the worse that can happen? You are rejected, but you gain interview experience. Self-doubt is really a waste of time.

2. Live in the present. Yes, it is important to plan for the future, but it is easy to put off living until it is too late. Make sure that you have no regrets about what you should have done. Do one exciting thing per year.

3. Know your worth. This applies to both work and relationships; never sell yourself short. No job or romance is more important than your self respect. Also, charge for any unique skills/services that you can offer. 

4. Don’t be afraid to leave bad situations. I left a stable but draining teaching job in order to protect my mental health. Even though this was a big risk, it was the best decision I ever made. NOTHING is more important than your mental health. 

5. Most 20 somethings feel that they are underachieving. This is normal - especially in today’s financial climate. Don’t feel bad if you are still living at home and cannot afford to rent/buy. I’m 30 and still living at home, saving to buy.

6. People will disappoint you, but most of the time, it’s not about you. Everybody has their own demons and traumas that make them behave in certain ways. If somebody disrespects you, assert your boundaries and keep it moving. Also, examine if there was anything you could have done to avoid the situation. But DO NOT let it eat away at you.

7. In love, nobody owes you anything. Even if they made a promise, they are their own person…Everybody has the right to change their mind and to leave a situation which is not beneficial for them. This is hurtful and hard to accept, but it is the truth.

8. Learn to enjoy your own company. Your 20s can be a lonely time as your social sphere narrows, due to employment, finances and exhaustion. Use this time to find out more about yourself and do the things that you enjoy. There is something liberating about eating at a restaurant alone. 

9. Be kind, don’t gossip or overshare. I am still working on this one. It is really difficult to be kind and positive in a world full of annoying people. However, your attitude will influence how you are being perceived. If you are unkind, people will laugh at your jokes but they will never trust you. They will never trust you not to treat them as you treat other people. Remove yourself from toxic people, and only share negativity (sadness/anger/depression) with a therapist and one other person that you trust. If you overshare negative feelings, you may be stereotyped as being full of drama. Furthermore, people will want you to stay in a negative place because it’s entertaining and makes them feel better about their own lives. Just don’t do it.

10. You cannot win every battle. Within conflict, it is tempting to try to force others to agree with your perspective. However, most people are set in their ways, and find it difficult to change their views and behaviours. This is especially important when dealing with toxic family members. You may never get the apology and empathy that you seek, so it is important to accept that every battle cannot be won, and gain validation internally, rather than externally.

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PSA: all studyblrs

You don’t need a fancy camera to be a studyblr, you don’t need apple products and editing software. You do not need all of the fancy pens, mild liners, and stationary. You do not need to post several times a day, or go to coffee shops, you do not need to have a lot of followers, you don’t need hundreds of reblogs and likes.

To be a studyblr you must meet the following requirements:

Have a tumblr acount

Be interested in studying, learning, or you just like the pictures

Enjoy it :)

If you have all of that, great! If you don’t, great! How much stuff you have does not make you more or less of one. Just have fun with it

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For anyone who needs to hear it:

Your late teens/20s are a weird time in your life. Don’t panic if you think somebody is more “ahead” than you. The concept of being ahead is nonexistent anyway because life’s not a race and each person has different hurdles to overcome.

It’s totally fine if you’re single. It’s fine if you’re still finishing school. It’s fine if you are still looking for a better job, or for any job at all. It’s fine if you haven’t had sex yet, or haven’t gotten your driver license yet. It’s fine if you haven’t gotten your own place yet. It’s fine if you are still figuring things out, saving money, putting the pieces together. It’s fine.

Don’t feel jealous of or lesser than people your age who have done these things. You don’t know what obstacles they faced to get there and they don’t know what you’ve faced. Don’t undermine the progess you have made.

Because, trust me, you have made progress. Even if it hasn’t materialized yet in the traditional way.

You are still young. Like really young.

You got time.