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About a week ago I posted this.

I’ve been getting horrible messages like this in my ask for months, including:

and my personal favorite

After getting the message saying “Just go kill yourself” I was completely done dealing with this person’s horrible messages and replied with just an “Okay.” and logged off tumblr.

About a week later I logged back on with 17 messages in my ask, most of them from the anon. I scrolled down and at first when I logged off, the anon messaged me things like

I scrolled up more and all of a sudden they started sending me more and more messages like

This was extremely surprising to me. I thought “After all those horrible messages you sent to me for MONTHS about hating me and wanting me dead, you say ‘sorry’ and that you ‘cant be responsible for someone’s suicide’?”

But I guess the lesson goes like this:

DONT TELL ANYONE TO KILL THEMSELVES UNLESS YOU ARE PREPARED FOR WHAT MIGHT ACTUALLY HAPPEN

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ha?

every single person who reblogs this

every

single

person

will get “doot doot” in their ask box

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Why I’m a feminist

Growing up I watched my mum tirelessly clean the house, cook, look after us and work.

Growing up I watched my father come home from a ‘long day at work’ and expect dinner and make a sly comment about how my mother probably did nothing all day.

Growing up I listened to my father yell Not in MY house.

Growing up I watched my father be controlling about my mother’s money, and as I got older, watched him put her down for gambling or buying alcohol when he does the EXACT SAME THING.

Growing up I learnt to hide things I bought when I went shopping because ‘your father would be mad’. Even though it was her hard earned money.

Growing up I watched my father do one small chore and boast about it for weeks anytime my mother complained about being tired from doing ALL of the housework EVERY DAY.

Growing up I witnessed the engrained misogyny that his father was taught be shown in everyday life over and over again. When I was old enough to say something, I went off. You know the response I got, right? Not in MY house, you’re under MY roof. It made me so angry.

I watch how my mother is made to feel like it’s a privilege for her to be ALLOWED to live in a house SHE helped pay for or be a part of a family SHE looked after.

Now that I’m grown up I speak my mind, I call men out when they’re being hypocrites and misogynists.

Why are you so mad? They ask me.

Why are you into all of that feminism crap? They patronise me.

I’ve spent my entire life feeling mad because it’s not right & I was scared of speaking up when I was older because i had no place to go. It was HIS house after all. It’s disgusting that women are told to not take up space and blow men’s ego’s higher, even when they do nothing. That is why I’m a feminist.

Men were/are told they could do anything growing up and were/are praised for fucking doing so much as sneezing but I was constantly made to not feel good enough and found that I had to work 20x harder and get no recognition in comparison to boys who put no effort in and got awarded for it.

I’m a feminist because I’m fucking sick of men walking around like they own the world. That they walk around feeling they are entitled to be lazy and misogynistic and it’s a women’s job to take care of them.

I’m a feminist because my whole life I’ve been told to keep quiet and that I’m ‘just being dramatic’ or asked in the most condescending tone if it’s that time of the month, as if the only time women are angry is THAT time. Women have a ton of shit to be mad about because of men.

I’m a feminist because I’ve had creepy old guys stare at my chest for my entire life, even when I was younger.

I’m a feminist because men feel entitled to unnecessarily invade my personal space on public transport.

I’m a feminist because I’m sick of my main asset being my chest not my brain.

I’m a feminist because even in this day and age I don’t get taken seriously because I’m just ‘another angry women whinging about nothing’.

I’m a feminist because women are not on this earth to please and serve men and it’s about fucking time they know it.

Honestly, if you aren’t mad about this, you haven’t been paying attention.

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What I really want to do when people invade my personal space on public transport.

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sometimes I wanna reply “bitch me too” to my mutuals posts but I’ve never talked 2 them so they might not see it as friendly joking so i just dont

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Please reblog this if fanfiction has been beneficial to your mental health.

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There's NO notes how is this possible?!?

Reblog If You Can Take Off Your Bra Without Taking Your Shirt Off.

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hey

hey friend

dont kill yourself tonight ok

you have a really pretty smile and i know its not always easy to manage one but itd be a bummer if we never had the chance to see it ever again

youre really important and you matter a lot so stay safe and try and have a nice sleep

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If being against child porn, incest and pedophilia makes somebody an asshole, then I’m an asshole :))

reblog if you’re an asshole too :)))))

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ok universe, i’m ready to feel good things. make me feel good things.

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petition to rename the usa ‘south canada’

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How to praise writers and influence fics

I’ve seen a lot of posts recently reminding readers to leave feedback on fics, which is great!!  Writers deserve all the love they can get.  Likes, reblogs, comments, messages, these are the lifeblood of writers.  They are proof that people are reading, that they’re enjoying, and that they want more.  

But maybe readers don’t know what to say.  Maybe you’re new to Tumblr, new to reading fan fiction, shy, or just not sure how to say what you want to say.

Let me start by saying, no matter how popular the blog or how cool you think they are, everyone loves a compliment.  If you’re worried about sounding silly or bothering people, let me assure you- a message will make your writer do a happy dance (depending on the writer, they may actually get up and dance.  I have.)

Here’s the basic ways of communicating with writers on Tumblr:

Likes and kudos- these are great, they’re the high-fives in this world.  They’re the “hey, nice” nod. Reblogs- even better, because they mean exposure.  More people see the story and that makes us really happy.  A reblog with a comment is amazing, especially one that entices others to read.  These make a writer’s day. Comments and messages- these are the thing that keeps us going.  Most of us have anon turned on- and if we don’t, just let us know you want a private reply.  (And, if your writer has anon off, it probably means they’ve been getting hate and deserve extra love.) Recommendations- recs are like coming in to work to find someone baked your favorite cake and left it on your desk.  Recommendations make your writer feel so loved and valued!

So, that’s all good, but what do you actually SAY to writers?  It doesn’t have to be much or take a lot of time.

A simple “This is great/funny/hot!” is wonderful.  "Best fic I’ve read this week!“  "Funny as hell and cute too.”  "You have to read this, it’s awesome!“  "I can’t wait for more of this.”  "I hope you keep going!“  These are great in reblogs and in messages.

Even better is specific feedback.  We love specific feedback, because it tells us what readers liked and what they didn’t.  Want to influence our next fic?  Tell us what you liked about this one and I bet you it will keep showing up!  Specific feedback is just telling the writer what you liked.  It doesn’t have to be long or complicated, either.  (But if you write a lot, we will love you so much.)

Was there a character you liked?  Talk about them:  "I love how you wrote X” “Y was so funny!”  "OMG I wanted to STRANGLE Q!“  "You can really feel X’s frustration.”  "Y has so much depth, they’re a really well-rounded character.“  "R says so much with so few words, it’s amazing.”

What about a part or line you enjoyed?  "That bit in the park- LOVE IT.“  "I have never read a better description of a cup of tea.”  "The way you wrote about his fear, that was heartbreaking.“

Was there a part that made you feel something?  Happy, sad, angry?  "That last sentence killed me, he’s so broken.”  "I wanted to jump around when they finally kissed!“  "This chapter was so tense, my heart was pounding by the end.”

Did the characters or plot or setting remind you of your life?  "I live in Brussels, that’s just how that street looks.“  "When Y talked about R, I knew exactly how he felt.”  "You captured that lost, aimless feeling perfectly; I’ve so been there.“

Are there unanswered questions?  Mention how much you want the answers.  "I can’t wait to find out what’s in the basket!”  "That was a cliffhanger ending, wow.“  "How is she going to explain THAT?”  (some writers are touchy about  predicting, though, so stay away from “I bet he’ll throw that letter out.” or “X is clearly coming back.”)

A few closing notes: be enthusiastic if that’s your style, go crazy with exclamation marks, smileys, caps!  Tell a writer if you’re rereading their work- very little makes us happier than knowing our writing has the staying power for a second, third, sixth, tenth read.  Did a reread give you a new insight or feeling about the fic?  Tell us!  We will be so excited to hear.  And remember, recommendations are wonderful- putting up a random post tagging your favorite writers or fics you’re enjoying will show the writers that they’re writing is more than a flash in the opan and they’ll get some new readers too!

We can’t do this writing thing without you guys.  So thank you so much!  Without readers, we’re just talking to ourselves.  We love and appreciate you for reading- but we need to know you’re doing it.  We need feedback like we need air.  Don’t let your favorite writers suffocate! :)

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‘The Originals’ Season 5 premieres on April 20 at 9pm.

- (X)

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im so ready to be in a relationship so whenever the universe is ready hmu with a keeper

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reblog if ur mom is smart and beautiful

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Brain: I want to write!!!

Me: That’s great! What do you want to write?

Brain: …how dare??…you put me on the spot like this???