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The purest form of love, I think, is having someone who wants to learn about you, from you and with you.

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Today I will be financially benefited in a way that will surpass my expectations.

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Sugar bowl affirmations

I promise this works. I said these twice today and chi-ching the sugar bowl ran over, 2k sent to my Paypal. When saying affirmations you must believe and visual they are happening.

1. People love to give me money!

2. I am rich and wonderful.

3. I am now earning a great big income doing what makes me happy.

4. Something wonderful is happening to me today – I can feel it!

5. All my bills are paid up in full and I still have all this money!

6. A lot more money is coming into my life. I deserve it and will use it for my good and others’.

7. All my SD praise me and pay me.

8. Money flows to me like water from a faucet.

9. Money comes to me easily and effortlessly, waking and sleeping.

10.Money is rushing to me from expected and unexpected places.

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And what gives you that mental distance is preparation, mastering the details beforehand. Let people think your Buddha-like detachment comes from some mysterious source. The less they understand you the better.

The 33 Strategies of War (via booksofrobertgreene)

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Save your carefulness for the hours of preparation, but once the fighting begins, empty your mind of doubts.

The 33 Strategies of War (via booksofrobertgreene)

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Conflict is therapeutic.

The 33 Strategies of War (via booksofrobertgreene)

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Leave his texts on read, leave his balls on blue

Put it on airplane mode so none of those calls come through

Here’s a word to my ladies, don’t you give these niggas none

If they can’t make you richer, they can’t make you cum

-Cardi B

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heaux reminders

* you are in control of how much money you make. it is the law of attraction. you are a siren. you are a cash magnet. you are opulent. you are expensive. excuses, negativity, insecurity, and victimhood will never pay your bills.

* stack your fucking money and use allowances towards what is going to give you affluence and net worth. don’t let the internet rush you into splurging on chanel for temporary happiness. it’s only going to keep you from having the lifestyle you’re truly striving for.

* invest in your body and only spend what is going to make you more money. plastic surgery, skincare, gym memberships, and veneers are always going to give you a quadruple return. routine spa days are such a treat to your mental health and prevents burnout. the rest of it can be put on a man’s tab.

* use successful men as your educators. is he an investment banker? you can get thousands of dollars of investment services for free. diversify your portfolio. is he a multi million business owner? use him to start up your own business. is he a tax advisor? you can save thousands in taxes with a wink of an eye. this is advice google can’t give you.

* there’s always money in the club. every man with a credit card is full of potential. just because he says he can’t afford it, doesn’t mean he can’t. it’s up to you to make him fall in love with you, or the next girl. it only takes one.

* make a handwritten schedule and stick to it. this allows you to capitalize the most out of your time. never waste it… use your schedule as your own personal assistant. this helps alleviate the stress of adulting. every day can be contributed towards your success. 

* write down your goals often and always remind yourself of the big picture. create a vision board of your success. visualize it. dream about it. obsess over it. conceptualize it. manifest it into fruition.

* eye contact, confidence, and a smile. eye contact, confidence, and a smile. eye contact, confidence, and a smile.

* your sexual health is important. routine full panel std blood tests are important. gynecologists are your friend. never ever trust a man.

* never make assumptions. just because he hasn’t been spending, doesn’t mean he doesn’t have a stack in his pocket. just because he said no to her, doesn’t mean he will say no to you. you are the dream girl he’s been waiting for.

* always be grateful and always stay gracious. truly appreciate what you have and your capabilities to have even more. you are so blessed and you are so lucky.

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Instagram - roxannesvibe

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Any tips on being a smart hoe for newbies? 🤗💕🍭

Definitely. If we’re talking about general hoeing and hustling, I can definitely give more specific advice depending on the type of hoeing 😉

Save your money. It will be very tempting when you start accumulating a bunch of money to spend it on all of the things you’ve been eyeing but unable to afford but really, save your money! As you become a more experienced hoe you will figure out what you should and shouldn’t spend money on. Like those $800 pair of limited edition Gucci loafers? Don’t buy those, they’ll be out of trends in a few weeks and you’ll be irritated that you bought them.

Be bold as fuck. Never be bashful, shy, embarrassed, etc. Ask for what you want unapologetically. If you want something ask for it or better yet, demand it. The worst that can happen is you don’t get the thing. And you’ll always be glad you did ask. Like as a sugar baby I remember I had just gotten an allowance from a brand new SD but blew through it (save ur $$ lol) and I thought to myself, I need more money. So I called him and said I need another grand and I got it.

Be confident. Walk with your head held high, talk like you’re the most important woman in the room. People will be drawn to you, you’ll make more money. If you act like a classy luxurious hoe, you’ll become one.

If a man does something you don’t like, cut him off. Especially if it involves crossing boundaries that you’ve mentioned you’re not comfortable with. As a stripper if I’m giving a dance, I always mention that I don’t allow touching anywhere but my hips. If a man moves his hands to any other area, I end the dance and keep the money. If a client tried anything I would add him to my no-see list. Trust your gut because it’s always right.

Don’t low ball yourself. Just because one man thinks you’re not worth a certain amount doesn’t mean another man won’t. Don’t put yourself in uncomfortable situations out of desperation for money ever!

Find a gyno you love and see her regularly. Keep your vaginal health in check.

Take (safe) risks. Let’s say you see a potential to make more money half way across the country or the world, go for it. Go on last minute trips to a big city and go out and meet people. Before you know it you’ll have a rich man in every big city that you can hit up.

Always work towards something so you don’t burn out. And if you don’t enjoy what you’re doing whether it’s stripping, escorting, sugaring, etc STOP DOING IT. Once it is no longer enjoyable, change it up or move on to something else.

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How You Know it’s Getting Bad Again

- I get angry over EVERYTHING. No matter how small or “not a big deal” something is, I will blow up and act like it’s the biggest thing in the world.

- I stop responding to messages.

- I will stare off into space for a long period of time and not seem mentally there.

- I will stop smiling and laughing as often.

- I tend to be really emotional and cry over the smallest things.

- I will sleep a lot.

- I will forget to eat or not have an appetite at all.

- I will stop showering as often as I use to and wear the same clothes over and over again.

- I won’t wear makeup like I use to everyday and I won’t care what I physically look like in public anymore.

- I won’t do the things that use to make me happy aka reading, writing, playing video games, socializing with friends, etc.

- I won’t have any energy to do school work even though I really need to do it.

- I become really quiet

I’m sorry, I try to be okay but sometimes it takes over and I can’t help but let it take control once again.

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If you could list the top 5 most important things to do to prepare for going independent what would they be?

1) Photos, they are you BEST advertisement, you want high quality photos and you want a lot of them so it’s indisputable that they are really you. Now pricing totally depends on where you are in the country but Groupon has really great deals on boudoir packages. I got 1200 worth of photos for 700 and they did all my styling and wardrobe which at the time made me want to cry but they have paid off like no other and I’ve realized their value. The better your photos the more “high class” you will look. Also if you’re leaving an agency you want to start fresh so you’ll need a whole new gallery.

2) A good website, this isn’t hard to do at all there are a lot of free escort website builders (they will have ads) or you can pay a fee to get your own domain and no ads, alternatively you can pay someone to build you a custom site but that’s a major investment I would wait until you are progressing to make that step. SELL YOURSELF on that website, make sure all your writing sounds amazing and makes you intriguing , these men are most likely only going to be spending a few hours with you but writing a bit about your hobbies and interests gives them a way to break the ice with conversation, find things in common with you, and build you up in their mind as their fantasy girl before the apt.

3) Boundaries, this is a really vague category because there are SO many boundaries you can set, not just sex wise (but those are important and you should have a list of your set NO NOs in mind). But having boundaries is important if you get someone that tries to press them before even meeting you it’s a sure sign of a bad apt. Last year I carried around THREE FUCKING PHONES a personal line a sugar line and a escort line I put in a lot of time and had to be so careful to not text family from the escort line or call a POT from my personal line. It was a lot of work and stress but I was also making 5 figures a month no problem. Now I just have my personal cell and  my escort email, if a guy won’t respect the fact that I’m email only and presses it, I’ll cut contact. I’m also outcall only, I do not want to deal with the pressures of getting hotel rooms yet I still get at least one email a day asking where my incall is.

4) Set monetary goals/plans. So let’s say you want to make X amount each month, let’s say 5 k minimum and you are charging 500 an hour, so you need just 10 hours a month to make that goal! And at the end of the month you have had one overnight which you have a base fee of 2.5k, three 2 hours, and two 1 hours. Ta da you passed your goal but 1,000 of that is for rent and bills, 600 for maintenance: four mani-pedis, a blow out for your overnight, and a facial, 200 for your personal trainer/gym pass, 500 for eating out and drinks and another 100 for condoms, lube, hair-ties etc. and maybe 300 for new lingerie. 400 for transport if you don’t have a car. And the 400-500 that will inexplicably go missing ( this happens, accept it,  you probably did something dumb with it when you were drunk? ) what are you going to do with the rest? Hide it all under your mattress? you can’t put it all int he bank eventually that will raise a red flag month after month, get a safety deposit box? You have to have this all thought out and honestly I’m still really bad at this.

5) Patience and Emotional Support, starting out indie will go one of two ways, you will have a boom and get a lot of clients and if you’re good be able to keep it up or more than likely you will wait days for emails, I was really lucky, having started with an agency I had a reputation and reviews people were searching for my indie account the second I left my agency but there are still weeks where I get one email if I’m lucky, they’re generally really easy to know the cause of, is it tax season? is christmas coming? People don’t go out to a fancy dinner when they’re broke they go out when they have  extra money. You are the fancy dinner. As for emotional support start gauging who your SW friendly friends are you WILL need people to confide in, if you don’t have any put some of that new found money into seeing a sex worker friendly therapist, it will feel weird paying someone else by the hour in cash but trust me you need someone to talk to through this. EVERYONE bitches about their job and customers but sex workers don’t often get that luxury because of stigma so you need to find a safe outlet, and be very careful about who you trust, like SUPER fucking careful. Starting a tumblr is also a great outlet and resource for online friends, sometimes the anonymity is the only thing you CAN trust…

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Literally horrible, I’ve been there. You wake up in the morning feeling the exact same except slowly going broke!

I wonder how it feels like to split the bill