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hey what does endogenic mean? theres a lot of discourse about it on twitter right now, something about 'sysmeds'?

Oookay... Idk if this is a loaded question or not, but I'll bite.

Endogenics are people who think someone can be part of a system without trauma, with beliefs ranging from "being able to develop a system naturally" to "being able to purposefully create headmates". This is not possible. It is not backed up by any credible source. Systems come from when you have repeated trauma (and a disorganized attachment to the primary caregiver, I believe) before the age of 9.

Sysmeds are what endogenics and their supporters call systems who don't believe them. The term makes us uncomfortable, because it is, ah how do I put this, simultaneously comparing systems to transphobes, kind of implying that being trans and a disorder are similar AND trying to demedicalise a mental disorder. It's just really not a good term.

People fight over this a lot, it seems. I understand why, it's frankly insulting to have a disorder that impacts my life significantly, made into a "fun roleplaying game".

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can you guys make this post popular for no reason i think it’d be funny

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once i get a working laptop it’ll be over for you hoes

genuinely can’t figure out what to use this website for idk why it’s so much harder for me than twitter

i’m sure one day i’ll figure it out

i think it’s more of a social media i need to use on my laptop tbh

tumblr mobile sucks

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genuinely can’t figure out what to use this website for idk why it’s so much harder for me than twitter

i’m sure one day i’ll figure it out

i think it’s more of a social media i need to use on my laptop tbh

tumblr mobile sucks

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I noticed the audio for the video “[AMV] Jon Arbuckle - You’re Gonna Go Far Kid” was taken out so I edited it back in

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GUYS MY MOM SAID IF I GET 40, 000 NOTES SHE'LL GET ME SWORD

PLEASE

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Actually life is beautiful because the sound I make while trying to breathe around hot food sounds like my dog trying to eat an apple. When I yawn my cat tries to put his face in my mouth like a little dentist man and when he yawns I put my finger in his obligate-carnivore trapzone and we both know he will not hurt me. When I do not fold my clothes, they do not hold it against me.

I am demonstrably sad, and lonely, and full of fear. But there are other people who will hold my hand, who will point out the hawk overhead, who will give you That Look in a public place. The other day at a coffee shop a child said "look! It's snowing!" so all of us strangers went to go look out the windows. It wasn't the first snow and it won't be the last but wasn't it lovely like that?

How wonderful to live in a world where birds and frogs both say beep! How wonderful to have an ocean of beautiful sharks with their dinosaur teeth! How wonderful the moon and her changing face, how wonderful the bees and their dancing to communicate, how wonderful shrimp and their forbidden layers of vision! How wonderful, you, and what you will give the world! The way we love things enough to spend entire blogs devoted to them? How people will let me explain my Pokemon team to them? How we will both jump at the scare in the movie, how we laugh so loudly, how it feels to give someone your baking? How wonderful to be alive. I am sorry for forgetting.

This is the process of getting better. With wonderful people and wonderful strangers and wonderful friends: I am getting better, slowly. Thank you, whoever you are. In some way, you've been wonderful, and left a wonderful place in the world to ripple out to me. In some small way - isn't it beautiful - I promise, you've been helping.

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i need new mutuals so rb if you’re in the following fandoms!!:

- being a false prophet

- organ harvesting

- the impossible polyhedron across the river that can contain a human soul

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wheres seasons greasons

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Judith L. Herman, Trauma and Recovery

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Terminology

I am going to do a break down of the various terminology as it is accepted in most Romani academic circles. I realize that this can be very confusing, especially to those outside our ethnicity and culture, and even to those who were raised in our culture, but do not have a full grasp of our language. I must also note that self-identification varies amongst us and many of our own people may not recognize what is considered proper terminology. “Gypsy” - The pejorative term created by the British in the 1500s. The term was created to identify only those who are Romani, most specifically those who we now call UK Romany & the Romanichal. It was never intended to be used as a descriptor for any other ethnic population. It comes from the Old English term for Egyptian, and not Greek. It is a slur. Romani - The term that refers to our entire ethnic population, including the Sinti. It refers to the ethnic population that left Northern India & Pakistan shortly after the invasion of the Persian Muslims who have since settled in Trukey, all of Europe, and the Americas. The term is used to refer to our culture & language in relation to the entire ethnic population: Romani culture, Romani language, Romani people, Romani ethnicity. Romany - The population of Romani who settled in the British Isles sometime in the late 14th century. They have since become two distinct populations self identifying as either Romany or Romanichal. This spelling is typically used to refer only to the ”native” Romani population of the region. It does not inculde more recent Romani immigrants or refugees from continental Europe. Romany is typically prefixed by British, UK, English, or another identifier of where in the region they have settled & lived. Ex: Some Romani families have lived in the UK for one hundred years or more and they have even picked up some words from the Rromanes dialect spoken by the UK Romany.  Sinti - The self-identifier of a sub-ethnic population of the Romani people who live in Germany, Austria, regions of Central Europe, and the United States of America. Many Sinti prefer their identifier over Romani, though they do indeed belong to the Romani ethnic population & their language is a dialect of the Romani language. Rroma - A sub-ethnic group of the Romani population who live throughout Transylvania, Central Europe and Northern Italy. (This is why referring to our entire ethnic population as the Rroma & Sinti tends to be problematic. It is inclusive of only these two very specific Romani sub ethnic populations, when in fact, we have likely over 80 self-identified distinct groups that are considered part of the Romani ethnicity.) Rroma - A Romani woman. The adjective that describes a Romani woman or girl. Ex: I am a Rroma woman, but I belong to the Romani people. Rromni - A Romani woman who is married. A wife. Ex: The Rromni took care of her sick husband. Rrom - A Romani man. The adjective that describes a Romani man or boy. Ex: The old Rrom told us stories about our history. Rromanes - The language of the Romani people. Sometimes referred to as “Romani chib”, which means “Romani tongue”. This includes all dialects of the Romani language spoken in all of Europe, Turkey, South Africa, as well as North, Central & South America. Dom - A sister population of the Romani ethnicity. They are believed to be descendants of similar North Indian & Pakistani ethnic groups. They likely began their diaspora before the people who are today considered the Romani. The Dom live throughout Northern Africa, the Middle East & Central Asia. Domari - The language of the Dom people. Lom - Speculatively related to the Romani in the same way as the Domari: a population of mixed Northern Indian ethnic groups who began their diaspora before the population that is considered the Romani. They settled mostly in the Caucasus Mountains, and largely in Armenia. Lomavren - The language of the Lom people. The Romani, Dom & Lom are related to some degree, but the exact relation is still contested by some. The Dom & Lom are sometimes lumped under the pejorative exonym, “gypsy”, though this term was never ascribed to them until rather recently. When referring to this entire diasporic population from the Indian subcontinent, they should always be termed “The Romani, Dom & Lom”. Of course, order can vary, but the proper terms should be utilized instead of “gypsy”. Single “R” & double “Rr” spellings - Both manner of spellings are correct. Some dialects use a double “Rr” spelling for phonetics purposes, while other use it to distinguish us from Romanians & inhabitants of Rome, Italy. Non-Romani Ethnic Populations: There are several ethnic populations that are wrongly lumped under the slur umbrella that is “gypsy”. Many have no relationship to us & should only be discussed in terms of contact. We are entirely separate ethnic populations. (For those who still have not grasped this concept yet.) Pavee - Commonly known as Irish Travellers, they are a sub-ethnic group of Irish who have lived a nomadic existence for several centuries. They reside in Ireland, and the United Kingdom.  Some self identify as “Irish Gypsies”, though the bastardization of that term from the UK Romany is a rather contentious topic.   Some Pavee have had very close relations with UK Romany, even inter-marrying. However, it is important to note that the Romany & Romani are in no way related to Irish Travellers. We are not only two separate ethnic populations, but we even belong to two separate races.  We each have our own lanaguage & culture.  Shelta - The language of the Pavee. Banjara - An ethnic population living in Northern India. Though we have been genetically linked to the Banjara, the group is not the only Indian ethnicity that comprised of the initial Romani diasporic population. In fact, we have been linked to a wide variety of ethnic populations that live throughout Northern India, Pakistan, and even Eastern Afghanistan. The Banjara are just one of those many ethnicities. The Banjara are not “gypsies” & they are not Romani. They are Banjara. They are Indian. There are many nomadic peoples throughout Europe. The only ones who are Romani are the Romani. The only ones who are “gypsy” are the Romani, most specifically, the Romany. The Yeniche, Quinqui, Scottish Travellers, Norwegian Travellers, any generic nomadic people, nomads of India, Asia, or any other place on Earth are not Romani & they are not “gypsies”. Not even the Lom & Dom are “gypsies”, or Romani, even though they are our sister ethnic populations. The only people who are Romani are the Romani.

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I say this as a trans guy but every trans guy I’ve ever talked to named Dave has been named Dave for one reason and you know what it is