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Convo with My BF's EX

How could you handle talking with your partner's ex who's always trying to get a grip and hold him for so many fucking years?

Let's get the story started. I was having a real good time with my boyfriend for half a year. I trust him as if nothing can break the bond between the two of us. The same with him. We were totally doing great with our relationship. All is smooth. And then, just as I finished my contract to abroad, where he is residing. We talk thru videocalls, international calls.. All things that we could find to reach each other's hello. Little did I know, that nowadays, we kept on fighting with petty things and resolved it easily with kisses and peace. After about 3 months of staying as LDR, we kept on trying to make things work nicely.

Until he told me about his ex bugging him all along. I didn't know my boyfriend was fighting with his own demons and was tryung his best to avoid having convo with his ex of almost 3 years. He suddenly asked me to change my profile photo on an app, the same photo he has on his profile. So I agreed that morning. Random thoughts clinged in. I was telling to myself that maybe he wants the people to know that we are together just by flaunting a little gestures right? And so I followed to change my pic into his pic. He was so sweet the whole day that I am not even aware of his happenings, knowing I am miles away from him. And so after, the night came. He just got home from work. He called and suddenly asked me to save a mobile number from abroad. I was a little hesitant on why he wants me to save it, but still, I did.

Then after, he told me that he think it is his ex, trying to reach him. Telling me he is so fed up that she doesn't want to stop from calling to him, hoping he will come back to her. He already said everything that he is happy and he have me. And so I agreed to chat the ex on an app. My boyfriend just told me to stay calm whatever conversation we might talk about. I said to trust me with it and that I can handle it. And so the talkings begin.

At first, I said my Hello and how are you.. I told her thar my boyfriend just told me she is an ex. I said that I did not chat to fight and that she must understand her boundaries on her freedom talking with my boyfriend. I respect that. You know? No offensive words used. Until the ex just started asking if he is with me in our country (mind you that she is same nationality with me and my boyfriend is a different one). I told her not yet. Then she started to asked on who is she talking with because my bf kept on giving her number to all the girls he was chatting recently. I really don't know why she is telling something like that knowing that I know my bf will never do such things. Then the convo started to heat up as if she was competing the times my bf was with her. I told her to try to understand the situation. She was so immature talking bad about my bf to me?! Are you serious?? Why would you destroy someone you love preciously before to someone he is with now?? But then. I am still calm to tell her not to talk like that. So many good things he had done with this ex but the ex is destroying his life, making it miserable, wherein the first place she is the one who ruined everything. Until now! My mind is screaming to tell her that she needs to move on. I told her that I know my bf's life with her and their past.

How could you say something bad to someone who helped you, reach out a helping hand when you are in need those times, and so kind of giving so much attention, money, and effort you just wasted with another man and get pregnant to that other man?! What a big guts you have to talk bad about that person who cared about you before so much that he had to pick up his self to his own mess when you just did something unforgiveable?! Isn't it unfair that you can not let that person be happy with what he have in his life now?

I mean, she is educated. She is with the same degree I have. She have the same work I have. But she failed before to this person that I am trying to rebuild the broken pieces she left of him. Isn't it unfair that he still cares to see your son from another man just to know if the boy is doing well? (I am not really against seeing the ex and the kid with my boyfriend). I was talking calm and friendly because from my heart it is saying that messing with the past is not good at all. I believe that we must leave our past with peace. But what kind of a human, educated, living like a hell and being happy destroying someone's life with stalking and catching up?? Isn't it enough to just let the person be happy with his present now??

I just don't understand what kind of love she is trying to depict. She was even saying bad stuff with the other exs my bf had before. He is changing his life. And I could aee that. I believe that. And I trust him. I hope that "PUTTING YOUR FEET ON SOMEONE ELSE'S SHOES" will help you to understand that person's situation. I thought that if you don't have that good looks, you must be kind. Sorry for being rude but, the physical isn't that pretty at all as well as the attitude. Years already passed by. Move on. Let go. Live your life. Leave that person alone. The chasing game is over.

Putting your name in disgrace with the mistakes on the past will never resolve on making multiple mistakes in the present. You should know when to run after and when to let go. This is what we called giving respect to people. Blaming other people will never help you to move on. Blame yourself, accept your mistake. Learn to pray. And have a peace of mind.

I am not posting this for myself. I am posting it for everyone to wake up. Your ghost in the past will haunt you forever if you never learn to let go. Let the people's relationship stay still and don't bother to ruin someone's life because of the mess we made in the past.

Just learn to let go. Move on. Accept your mistakes. Pray. And always. . Always... Love and respect yourself..