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poobsdiscourse · 3 months ago

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I will be speaking about consent, conabuse, and communication

"ive come to understand it was my now friend @/cannibalcvnt warning me"

So, first point. If you had messages bringing this up, you should've addressed it with Nikolai, not ignored it. He could've admitted it, explained it and it would've been over. Communication is a big thing in relationships. Especially with paraphilias involved! Consent and communication go hand and hand. An animal, can not give verbal consent, thus they cant communicate they want something.

"who’s sixteen years old, and in my opinion, more emotionally susceptible to manipulation. nikolai had aleks location"

Yes, younger people can be manipulated easier, I agree! But in all the screenshots shown, it was both Nikolai and Alek fighting. This is not manipulation. We see both parties throwing insults. What I'd like to comment on, is how we see Alek saying he's planning to kill himself. Seeing as though Nikolai knows the forest Alek plans to do it in, we can tell it's been talked about more than once. In the screenshots, it feels as if Alek is using his suicidal actions to guilt Nikolai. Which, is a form of a manipulation in itself. Now, I understand that telling someone goodbye is not guilting them, but Alek does not just say goodbye, he begins to blame Nikolai and the breakup.

"i’d like to preface that alek, myself, and soldat are all ramcoa complex did systems, who are programmed/have programmed alters, he used this heavily against alek, he used it against soldat, who he claims consented to it."

I am also a programmed system. If abuse was consented to, the other party believes that it's okay. If I consent to something, I will have to personally take back that consent if I no longer wish for it to happen. Conabuse is a big part of the radqueer community, which you yourself have been in, judging by this screenshot you posted.

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Upon saying cisharmful, we can guess that you yourself have harmed people. With or without consent is none of my business as you havent stated. But with consent, it implies conabuse. So it's clear you have the concept down.

Conabuse is also in kink communities, but thats not what we're focused on.

We're never shown either party talking about boundaries or conabuse. We're only shown Nikolai being hostile, sometimes the other person's text being cut out of the screenshot. If conabuse was never talked about, that's a different story.

But if Nikolai claims that there was consent, I think it'd be best to show where someone denies consenting or tells Nikolai they don't consent.

"if you’re coming from his page YES i was manipulating him last night, YES i was lying to him, and yes i do stalk him,"

This can be counted as abuse. So if Nikolai didn't consent, you're just as bad for abusing him. Being abused does not give you the right to abuse others.

up early in the morning with this, but as the little over 80 something of you guys know, my name is deimos. im seventeen and i’m a concept writer, a reblogger, and am currently new to transid coining and things of that such.

yesterday i was informed about my ex, Nikolai/Lucas, known as @sacrificalhandler/@traumaarchivo/@sermilitares talking about me. obviously i went to read it and i was understandably pissed, i hate people making up lies about me, and i damn sure wasn’t about to let some pervert lie on me to some gullible people on tumblr LOL. a majority of you saw the post made after but had asked me for the full story, here this is.

i met him little over two weeks ago in a partner system server of my own making, he joined, we talked, we dated. there were multiple instances when he was overly aggressive with me under the guise of it being some mental health problem he had. then came when i joined tumblr with him, i got an anonymous messages saying he was a liar and cheater, obviously im confused. ive come to understand it was my now friend @cannibalcvnt warning me, in my own mind though, i ignored it, and sent a friend of mine to talk to him using the @ he sent me, my friend told me he was talking nothing important, so i assumed it was a troll and moved on.

we broke up because i found out he was cheating on me with alek / @cannibalcvnt, who’s sixteen years old, and in my opinion, more emotionally susceptible to manipulation. nikolai had aleks location ( mine as well, but no threat was there as he was halfway across the world ), his school email, nudes he had forced alek to send him, and more. obviously i was disgusted with this, and alek was scared of him. it took a few days of talking back and forth but by the end of it both alek and i had him blocked. during this time as i was getting information on him i could contact the authorities as well as make a cyber tip about him, i got in touch with someone he knew irl, so said he tried to stab his ex and then raped them. currently this is an allegation, but considering how he is i wouldn’t put it past him.

days went by and i personally watched in real time as he targeted @derwiintersoldat.

i’d like to preface that alek, myself, and soldat are all ramcoa complex did systems, who are programmed/have programmed alters, he used this heavily against alek, he used it against soldat, who he claims consented to it, but he hasn’t brought forward any substantial proof, and soldat a headmate steven would like it to be known soldat was manic and going through an episode, therefore this was under the guise of concent by someone who was already laying their affection on them heavy, which nikolai is known to do.

you all already know how this story with soldat and nikolai ended so i wont push it further, he was in a “conabuse” relationship but there was no consent, so it was just abusive. he made a post saying that both me and alek had agreed to a similar relationship, we didn’t. from what i understand alek met him in a sourcemates server and they started off as friends before nikolai preyed on them ( and this happened little over a month ago, he has no idea how to take a break between these crimes i guess ) and ive already said that our relationship was purely romantic until towards the end our winter soldier introject, sengphet, started dating their rumlow introject.

i think it’s disgusting, i think it’s sick. if you’re coming from his page YES i was manipulating him last night, YES i was lying to him, and yes i do stalk him, he’s talking about people being posers but can’t take a few extra eyes on him and he lost his already shriveled mind, practice what you fucking preach. i wanted a fucking laugh and more evidence so i could make this post, lmao. never in my seventeen years would i want to be friends with a fucking loser like that.

if this guy is your follower/mutual, do yourself a favor and block him because the tl:dr is —

nikolai is a pro contact pedophile who got sexual with a 16 year old at his big age of 19, talks to minors constantly under the guise of being “friends,” lies, abuses programmed people to get himself off, and he’s running all around Europe to evade the authorities, because he’s wrong, and he knows it.

ALL screenshots and such will be my next post, this is already long as hell.

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