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[prayersfornate-blog]

Commonly Asked:

1. Nate has lived with me primarily since his birth. I cared for him primarily; physically, emotionally and financially. So him being taken away by his father is basically like him disappearing with a stranger.

2. There really isn’t much I can do legally, except wait until my court date which is fast approaching on April 30th, 2019. I have called protective services twice, I have tried to file Ex-Parte or emergency custody hearings, but the court systems don’t...care. It’s not their child. It’s a money making business just like everything else. All I can do right now is be patient and stack my documentation. Courts don’t care about most things—but some things they can’t ignore. Documentation is the only thing that matters in this case. Thank goodness I’ve been collecting mine all these years.

3. I have tried to reason with the father to allow me to at least FaceTime him and tell him I love him and he takes great pleasure in denying my rights. He knows full well how badly it’s hurting me and that is his goal—he doesn’t care how much it damages Nate. He never has but I’ll post more examples of that later.

4. It sounds very petty but my ex is the kind of person who wanted me to be okay with him being abusive to both me and my son. He wanted me to just stay there and deal with it; cook his meals, clean up after him, give him sex everyday and make sure that he basically never has to spend time with our baby. His mom did it, so why shouldn’t I? He’s very confused about what a happy and healthy life is like and feels that I should have stayed and fought with him for the rest of my life and let him and his sick family abuse my child. So, he’s been dedicated to destroying me by any means since I left. His words to me were, “Okay. You want to be like this? Now I’m gonna be cold blooded.” If he wasn’t so invested in his beloved, innocent persona, he’d have probably killed both me and Nate already. I’m not exaggerating. You don’t say that or think that about just anyone. I have my reasons.

5. Wayne is a pathological liar. Very good at orchestrating sob stories and seeming more innocent than he is, often using tears to tug at your heart strings. It worked on me all the time. After all, when women cry it’s normal but when a MAN cries he MUST be hurt. He knows full well how people think and he uses what he knows to manipulate others. We all do this. The difference is that psychopaths do this pathologically. It is their entire existence.

6. I have taken Nate to the ER whenever I felt something was off and have since vowed to keep him away from that family. It sinks my heart to know he is alone with all those... sub-humans right now. I can only imagine the abuse and neglect he’s dealing with right now. The good news is, it was all documented. I’m taking that with me to court.

7. I’ve called the police on some occasions where Wayne became scarily irate. Thank goodness the @RidleyTwpPolice wrote detailed reports about these incidents and saved them for me. I will be taking them to court.

8. You’ll notice I don’t follow my personal account on here. My ex’s new girlfriend stalks my socials and I don’t want them knowing anything about my future plans. They are blocked.

9. Wayne would not cooperate with service of documents, so I have an affidavit from the sheriff that attempt of service was made. I have a letter from the police that he would not cooperate and that they are ready to turn Nate over to me once I have the custody order. Because Wayne will not participate in this case, I am going to win sole custody by default. So this situation is NOT HOPELESS.

10. I’m genuinely worried about Nate’s heart. He’s very confused. He doesn’t know what happened to me. I’ve been the only constant since he was conceived. Can you imagine the sense of loss this has created in this poor child? No child should be caught in such a horrible crossfire and two adults should be able to mutually agree not to psychologically damage a child in order to spite the other. But that’s asking for way too much from someone who’s been abusing Nate from the very beginning, literally.

11. I don’t believe in hitting my little baby. He’s so good. He’s sweet. There’s no need to hit anyone, let alone a child. He may be acting out due to the SEVERE PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE HE’S BEEN FORCED TO DEAL WITH. And they are using that as a reason to hit him. For my spiritual folks who know, I’ve done pendulum work to inquire about his well-being. So far, I know that Wayne, the new girlfriend and Wayne’s father have physically assaulted Nate so far.

12. If you want to know how I’m doing, I’m numb. The pain of this would be overwhelming to the point of death, most likely. So my brain, the only friend I can trust, has created constructs around certain memories and the very thought of Nate is kept mostly dormant. Being sad won’t help me get Nate back. Won’t take back this horrible experience. I have to stay strong to get him back. I’ve created this page not for me, but for Nate. I want your collective energy to strengthen him and give him some comfort until I can get him back home. Once he’s home, I’ll be taking a hiatus from work to dedicate a month to his healing.

Will you stand with me? Will you stand with Nate? All it takes is a prayer. A thought. A wish. A hope. The more he has, the stronger he will be until he can be reunited with his loving mother again. 💔