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URGENT: PLS DON'T SCROLL! Help a disabled queer abusive household move this pride month!

Hi! Happy pride month! If you are able to, PLEASE help me (Frankie) and my friends (Danny, and Meadows) move out of an abusive household! Alongside our 3 cats!

A quick explanation for moving out is that it has gotten to a point with my mother where she has been growing more abusive and inflammatory, and keeps gaslighting my friends/saying really scary and hurtful things. She's been making this place increasingly unsafe for us and whoever else moves in in the future, especially after I started confronting her about previous instances of physical and emotional abuse.

She tends to really enjoy making people feel unsafe and uncomfortable around her, her words not mine, and that behavior has gotten worse. The abuse has bordered on physical at some points in recent years, though not as bad as when I was a kid luckily, its still mostly emotional and psychological abuse which is still incredibly serious. We are no longer able to handle living here anymore, as it's incredibly harmful to our mental and physical health.

Danny and I are indigenous, hypermobile arthritis havers, while Meadows is ambulatory wheelchair user with scoliosis and previous bone injuries. We are All autistic and physically disabled and have cptsd and are gaytrans you better believe it! We are all on disability assistance, and cannot work stable jobs because of this. (Not because of the indigenous and gaytrans part tho LOL)

We are officially moving out on August 1st, and need to have the full security deposit saved up by July 1st to July 15th.

A quick explanation for the $700 goal is that $500 goes to security deposit savings, $200 goes to moving costs. We need around $1200 for our security deposit for a future place. We already have a decent amount of that saved up, but we need help with the final few hundred, and so we are asking for ANY help if possible! :')

I can draw cartoons in exchange for art and will be doing as Many commissions as I physically can! DM me if you are interested. There is no pressure if you cannot donate, or if you can't commission me! Any little bit helps, that includes reblogging/sharing the post if you can..!

PAYPAL - frankyerbury@gmail.com

KO-FI - ko-fi.com/franki

COMMISSION INFO/PRICES

(E-transfers available for canadians! DM if you prefer that way.)

GOAL - $522/$700

More detailed explanations for the money goal and explanation of the abuse in the Read More below, to clear things up and also reiterate how serious this is. Huge TW for mentions of child abuse, CSA and CSEM. Absolutely none of the abuse itself is talked about in detail though.

Moving Away From My Mother Reasoning -

(TW: abuse mentions, undetailed mentions of child abuse/child trafficking/csem, explainative trauma dumping lol)

We're all moving out of an emotionally and financially abusive home. I've lived with my mother, paying rent and all that, since 19 years old. Specifically after moving out/beig emancipated at 16 or 17ish. I'm now 26, and she has deliberately sabotaged every attempt at moving back out.

The past 7 years of living with her during adulthood have been rough. In my early childhood she was physically abusive and neglectful, but now the abuse is mostly excessive gaslighting that makes my friend and I doubt ourselves.

In March of 2024 I recieved several hospital records from my childhood detailing extreme abuse and injuries stemming from the abuse, with clearly fake addresses (houses in neighborhoods we never lived in and names of people that don't exist) were listed in the files. Bad injuries and very scary things were also mentioned in the notes of these hospital records.

When I confronted my mother about it in June of 2024, with a lot of compiled evidence, and recovered memories of my abuse being recorded via a Sony Handycam from the 90s, and memories of men trying to kill me. My suspicions about surviving childhood trafficking and likely surviving CSEM production were confirmed. She stated that the abuse/trafficking started when I was around 1 year old, and I have memories of that abuse kind of ending when I was a teenager. I would be transfered/hidden between provinces when police/CPS caught on to what I was going through. Almost every adult in my life was involved the abuse/involved in covering it up, since intrafamilial gun violence would happen whenever they were almost caught (cringe Hells Angels moment. all too common story i hear with other ppl raised around gang violence very specifically HA related shit).

My mother excused all of this by saying it 'wasn't her fault' and the fact I was being trafficked was 'traumatic for her too', even though her and her shitty family actively chose to sell me and abuse me. She told me I was overreacting and this stuff 'happened to native girls all the time'. She's actively choosing to hide my past by throwing out picture albums/videos from my childhood, and will hide things from me that could help me remember more, because she knows I've seen some of the bad pictures she has. But That Is Beside The Point.

I won't go into any of the past abuse in detail, but it has left me physically and mentally disabled. I deal with chronic pelvic/tailbone pain due to past untreated injuries, alongside debilitating CPTSD, and our current living situation hasn't been helping. I'm gonna be seeing specialists to help with these things soon though, if all goes well and we find a safe place to live.

That being said, living with my mother after that confrontation has become detrimental to my mental and physical health. She keeps indirectly bringing it up or telling 'positive stories' abt the men who hurt me. I'm beginning to remember more details of the abuse, and I need to be in a safe place as this happens so I can comfortably confront whatever my brain is trying to get me to remember.

My mother has also been abusive toward my friend Danny, who has dealt with 15 years of gaslighting and traumatic and violent instances caused by my mother, starting from early highschool when I met him. My mother has said and done really awful and racist and transphobic things to him and I don't want him living with her anymore either. And my friend Meadows had dealt with abusive treatment from my mother as well, stemming back to them meeting on an online dating app 10 years ago, and again on facebook around 2 years ago.

(I'm not comfortable talking about other people's experiences, so I won't go into it here, but its really really bad. My mother has groomed a few of my friends, so I've been isolating more so they don't have to be around her.)

I'm hoping we can all live in a safe space so we can all heal, and I can finally start EMDR therapy since my mother won't let me (at my big age lol), and I can gain access to the nearly 30 CPS reports and information from that so I can work through that shit in therapy and finally begin living my life normally.

We're all doing what we can to get out, it is just difficult as we are all on government assistance and are disabled. If you have any questions or want any clarifications about all this, let me know. I'm an open book about this stuff, within reason obviously. I don't mind talking about it.

Finances and Money Goal Reasoning -

As said before, $500 goes to deposit savings, $200 goes to moving cost savings. We're already mostly packed up, so we don't need boxes or anything. We're just hiring people in the community to help the van, gas money, and to help with lifting furniture and heavier/larger boxes as we are unable to do so.

We already have a decent amount of the deposit saved up, we just need help with the final portion. Most of the cheapest 3 bedroom basement suites in Vancouver are in the $2300 to $2500 a month range, so our deposit is going to be around $1200ish. We have $600ish saved up so far, and are doing what we can to add more to that!

I am going to be checking to see if I am applicable for ANY loans at my bank, and we are going to be talking with an advocate about potential financial resources that can help us get out of here. (If anyone in British Columbia has any information and help on moving while Poor As Fuck let me know!)

If you read this far: hi! thank you! I hope you are having a good day. AND a gay day at that. happy pride !!! PLS reblog and potentially help out if you can!

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link to k0fi: https://ko-fi.com/emilygwen

link to carrd, where they have “official” merchandise: https://emilygwen.carrd.co/

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