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I love it when women tell me they just finalized their divorce. ESPECIALLY older women. The correct response is always “congratulations” and they always seem so pleasantly surprised, they just seem to light right up and talk about how happy they are, what their plans are, how well they’re doing. I’ve only ever met like 1 person who was upset to be divorced and it was a middle-aged dude. Second most exciting is young men. A 25 year old guy says he just got divorced and you go “congratulations” and he SMILES? You KNOW there’s a story. I love it. People should get divorced more

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Trump is desperate and panicking. He’s doing anything he can to shift the narrative so he can move toward martial law.

Don’t fall for it.

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this might sound stupid but I can’t help but believe that the new wave of “birth control is actually horrible for your body, you need to get off it immediately” misinformation from influencers and the ‘natural cycle tracking’ apps suddenly being advertised is a sneaky underhanded way of causing more unplanned pregnancies that people now cannot abort. now is possibly the worst time ever to turn towards ‘natural family planning’

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Let’s all light a candle and pour one out for all the trans men who never got to figure out they’re men because they were raised to believe they couldn’t ever be anything other than a wife and a mother and if they ever left the church that all their friends and family go to then they’ll burn in hell for all of eternity. May the names engraved on their tombstones fade to nothing and the dresses they were buried in disintegrate.

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The Vietnam War was wrong and cruel

The Iraq War was wrong and creul

And this war shall be shown by history to have been wrong and cruel as well

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it’s like this.

if you only have one person in your life that you trust, you probably are always going to turn to that person when something shit happens. as well as whenever something good happens. or anything else. this is not inherently a bad thing, and it’s really beautiful to have someone in your life that you trust so much

but if that person is suddenly busy or going through something difficult themselves or doesn’t have emotional capacity for a while, suddenly there’s a problem. not necessarily through any fault of your own, you don’t have anyone to turn to with as much regularity as you did before

this is true of any kind of relationship. this is true of any kind of coping mechanism, also. the problem is not that you trust that person. the problem is not that you use that coping mechanism. the problem is not even that there’s something wrong with you and that it’s all your fault. the problem is that nothing can be everything

the solution is not to cut off your one trusted person or to cut yourself off from your one trusted coping mechanism. the solution is to do the difficult work of diversifying your life as much as it’s possible for you to do. which is why it sucks so much when external factors prevent you from being able to live a truly diverse life. okay that’s all have a good one

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I am so tired for asking for monetary help because honestly I don't think anyone has any money to spare.

I just don't know how I'll pay my internet bill. Which is due tomorrow. And going to the library for the internet is not an option.

Here's my ko-fi for now:

https://ko-fi.com/winterywrites

I'll try to write a post tonight. I'm just rn very tired and it's hot in my apartment.

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I live in complete poverty and disability. Trying to make art to sell as prints as I am not getting commissions the way I used to. I am disabled and diabetic, immunocompromised from recent surgery, and I live in a traditional filipino house partially destroyed by storms and termites. I work 3 jobs, but they are all very unstable. Please please please, if you've ever derived joy from my art or insight from my posts or book recs, if you could pick up a print, send a tip, or subscribe to my patreon where I have 400+ exclusive drawings / early access, it would help keep me alive, in the most literal sense. I have been given a second chance at life, and I would like to keep living. Thank you so much

Inprnt / patreon / ko-fi tipping jar / paypaI tipping jar

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having anti punitive justice morals sucks because you want to say "man that guy sucks he should get hit with hammers until he dies" but you also want to make it clear you don't think anyone should be put in charge of the 'hit people with hammers until they die" machine.

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The rise of discourse about trans mascs/trans men in the lesbian community has me realizing something.

So many of ya'll hate heteronormative standards, but are all too comfortable upholding cisnormativity. I'm fucking tired of people saying "maybe I'm not woke enough for this..." instead of trying to understand queer people's unique perspectives on gender and its relation to sexual identity labels.

Here's my take: Gender is complex and is defined differently by everybody. Womanhood and being socialized as a girl can be notoriously traumatizing due to the sexism ingrained into our society (especially when we're taught from such a young age that we will always be victimized and abused for being women). As such, when someone transitions to a masculine identity, those experiences don't suddenly go away.

And no, you're not "invalidating yourself" by saying you're a lesbian if you're a trans man. You're exhibiting a unique combination of female socialization and male gender identity. And you're not invalidating other trans men, either, because you're not forcing them to use the lesbian label.

Stop pushing queer people into boxes!!! Especially when the lesbian community is known for its gender-nonconformity and trans identities (butches and studs, for example, many of which are transmasc).

I could also talk about how this corresponds with a rise of fascism and conservative values, and that by pushing queer people down you are only contributing to homophobic mentalities, but you CLEARLY aren't ready for that.

Sincerely, a transmasc lesbian