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Dear Abbaey.

a part of me thinks this is a little silly, but I'm curious. i'm a purple with both an olive matesprit and a gold matesprit, along with a violet moirail. I don't think i need advice, this is more so just for my curiosity! kinda just wanna see what you think about it yk?

~ RM

{Well, first of all, congratulations! You sound like you have your hands full! Let me think here...}

{A purple and an olive matesprit is, first off, quite tricky. There can be a great connection, or a lot of pain - sometimes both! It can be painful to pull away and painful to stay, or as natural as breathing, to the point even post split people still mistake you for a couple! A mixed bag on that one.}

{As for purple and gold, well, you might be surprised to hear this, but that's a great pair! If there's a connection, it'll be a good one. Purples and golds can make a fantastic duo who always care for each other, ground each other, and support each other. Or they can fizzle out with no connection at all, of course. But assuming there is one, it's going to be surprising to others how well it goes!}

{Finally, let me get into this one - purple and violet. I'm sure people will be shocked to hear this, but purples and violets go well together! A purple can help a violet get out of their head, and a violet can help a purple get back to ground. It's sweet, and sooo cute! Every purple and violet friendship I've seen could be a cute couple!}

{Final thoughts: if they make you happy, then you should be proud of yourself, no matter what anyone else thinks. I'm glad you've found people who make you feel so fulfilled, RM. It shouldn't matter what I or anyone else thinks - if you're happy, then that's what matters in the end. The only person living your life is you, after all! I hope you're all having a great time together, and I hope you know that you're a lovely polycule in my eyes.}

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Dearr Abbaey, I'm the rust from the fuchsia post. The fuchsia in question is in no way graceful, he's a bumbling oaf. Although we haven't met in person, I assume he trips over his feet every other step. Though I do wish to be there to catch him whenever he falls. Thank you for your advice, I will take it to my bloodpusher.

{Oh! Well, I still wish you both all the luck!}

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dear-abbey-how-to-confess-to-my-pitch-crush?

{That depends on a lot of things, anon... But one of the best pitch confessions is just being direct and a jerk, tried and true!}

{If your beloathed is a violet, for example, try insulting their tackier interests! If they're a jade, maybe insult their fashion choices, etc, etc. Best to be as rude as possible as much as possible! The best pitch confession is one made from deep in your spade, after all.}

{Make sure your confession is tailored to all their weaknesses and how you want to better them, and then just go for it! If you're worried about rejection, you can send it over text.}

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[ QUIRK MASKING ]Dear Abbaey, I [ 10, violet ] have a CRUSHING pitch thing for this weeb [ 10?, olive ], and he said he hates me back. We has some spars and it was GOOD! Usually I don't do pitch but they really made me feel like I just HAD to one-up them... And things were going great UNTIL HE SAID HE MIGHT BE KIND OF RED AND / OR PALE FOR ME?! We aren't official, but I don't know how to feel about this... What should I do? Should I try a red date and see how it goes? Or just tell them I want it to stay casual pitch? Am I in too deep? Please help!

-Foggy Feelings

{Foggy, I really feel for you here. It can be surprising when you suddenly have a pitch flipping softer for you! But, olives are very creative and romantic by nature, so this is something that can happen when they date violets, especially the hopeless romantic kind.}

{The best advice I can give you is to just relax a little. The exact labels don't matter nearly that much! You should focus more on what you like about the relationship, and how it feels, rather than what you call it or what people think it should work like. It's more important to focus on YOUR feelings, Froggy, and if your olive semi-spade is catching a redder feeling, it might be because there's something there! Olives are very intuitive with how they feel, and violets can be very hot and cold when it comes to honesty.}

{Ask yourself, Froggy: ARE you in too deep, or are you just afraid of finding out something new and potentially different? You have nothing to lose with giving him a chance!}

{Take a breath. This isn't the end of the world, Froggy, just a chance t start something new.}

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Dear Abbaey...

How does a Bronze and Cerulean Pairing sound to You? I Don't know where I land with Him, but I Know it's Redways. I sort of Hope it's Flush, but I Don't really know. I got Out of a Bad Moiraillegience with a Purple who was Way Too Handsy, and He's been Supporting me! New Job, New Friends, New Life, i just. I get so Aflutter Wearing His Sign. I'm even Parrotting His Quirk. He got Out of a Bad Moiraillegience too. Maybe I can Be what He Needed all along? Ahhh, I just Can't Tell How!

Sincerely, Beforus Bound Bronze.

{Generally, pretty bad. Cerulean-bronze couples are some of the most toxic leaning ones. There's a huge power imbalance that pushy ceruleans will tend to exploit and more easily cowed bronzes tend to fall in line with.}

{Glad you shook loose that purple! Usually, a purple being pushy with a bronze can help them get over their reservations, but taken too far, it's just toxic. So I'm happy you're out of there! And good on him for getting away from his ex, but this sounds like a bit of a double rebound. Just because you're both single and riding high off of a swift exit does not mean you should blow off steam by blowing any chances of a stable relationship going forward!}

{You do not need to be the fixer, anon! If you're feeling the itch to get back on the scene, download a dating app, and let your matches know you aren't looking for anything serious. Maybe try going to a club, a library, some kind of concert, and feel the single life before you get into another relationship.}

{And that's not even touching on the issues that can come from dating your BOSS... If you still feel this way after a few perigees, and you can secure another way to make money, then I'd say test the waters.}

{But you need to heal first and focus on exactly who "YOU" are before jumping into becoming another "WE", anon.}

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{ABSOLUTELY A NO-GO, ANON!}

{Repeat after me:}

"If they don't respect my caste, then they don't respect me. If they don't respect me, then I respect myself and leave."

{Do not date a castist just because you hate them for being a bigot towards you!!! That is not grounds for a proper spade, they will not respect you, you cannot make someone see you as a person through pitch! That cerulean needs a moirail to shake them right, and you, as the subject of their undo abuse, are not that person!}

{You should respect yourself, anon, and stop putting up with treatment you don't deserve. Mutant or not, you are a person, end of statement, send cheep, floor is not open for debate!}

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Dear Abbaey, I'm a Jade who still has feelings for my ex-moirail, the most sopping wet cat of a Violet you could ever meet. We've been driven apart due to a number of personal matters and I just want to ask: Would it ever have worked? Is there any eventuality in which we stayed together?

{Sadly, anon, it likely wouldn't. Even the most sopping wet cat of a violet, the most teary-eyed, melodramatic, sniffling creachur of a seadweller, can't help their deep rooted need to be validated, and as a jade, while emotional matters might come more easily, you know when some of those feelings would be dangerous and even harmful to validate.}

{It's best not to drag yourself down with what-ifs and why-didn't-Is and maybe-in-another-worlds, anon. You can't embrace the present, let alone brave the future, if you're living only in the past.}

{You need to let this go, anon, and I think you know it's time to stop hurting yourself with what could have been.}

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D --> I (Indigo) am absolutely smitten as a kitten with my Moirail (Rust), but I cannot figure out if I also have flushed feelings for her. Any advice?

{Ooooh! This is really sweet. Indigo-rust relationships can be more than a bit dicey, anon, so take heed. Personally, I would suggest imagining a scene where the two of you go on a flush date. How does it differ from your pale dates? And how does it make you feel? If you find yourself veering towards paler vibes, it's probably not a red situation. But if you start getting flutterbeasts in your stomach... There might be something there!}

{Indigo moirails can be the most protective and worried of moirails, but rusts tend to be a little more cagey and secretive, so be sure you keep communication open, however it leans. Good luck, anon!}

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dear 《abbaey》, 《i》 happen to work for a 《purpleblood》 who’s in diamonds with an 《indigoblood》 [at least, 《i》 think 《he’s》 an 《indigoblood》, 《i’ve》 never seen 《his》 sign] and was curious about 《your》 opinion on it? quite frankly 《i’m》 unsure how it even works because from what 《i’ve》 seen 《he’s》 the one who needs pacification most of the time and 《she》 [the 《purpleblood》] barely needs any

{Hm! Well, an indigo-purple relationship can be a bit sticky. There's a lot of issues that can arise between the two, due to the free-spirit kind of nature that clowns bring, and the rigid social rules of the indigo culture. I mean, it just makes friction, in the bad way.}

{But, I'm not surprised the indigo is the one you see getting pacified. Actually, indigos can be some of THE most hot headed trolls you will ever meet! It's imperative that just about any troll cerulean and up have a moirail, but indigos can absolutely blow their tops. A purple isn't always the one being calmed in a relationship! Sometimes, they're more like guides or personal, cheerful little jesters! It can be nice to catch a break from the pressures of highblood society. And a cheery approach really helps an indigo stay calm. So it's actually a cute match!}

{Just be careful. Outside of relationships... Indigos, purples, and even violets, can all be VERY hostile and bad for each other. If they ever break up, stay out of it for your own safety!}

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dear abbaey,

minor quirk masking so a certain someone doesn't see this but, i don't know i feel stuck...

so i (uh, technically hemoanon but i have been posing as an olive. i rather not get into the reasons) have this friend (a teal) i met on a forum, and while she can be a bit pushy and clingy i thought we were getting along

then, she confessed she had pale feelings for me, which i do not return, and i told her that i don't return as cordially as possible. she... was upset, but i thought she wouldn't push the topic and we kept talking

except... it's like the pushiness and clinginess got worse, like pestering me when i don't dm her, talking for me with the excuse that i'm shy (i kinda am i guess but that's irrelevant), and she kept trying to push things into pale that i don't want. and i'm starting to think she's getting jealous of another friend of ours (jade but she's not too relevant to this) for asking if she was okay when i've just been worried because she's our friend and she's been down for the count because she isn't feeling well!

i keep trying to ask her to stop but i feel like it's not working. i don't want to cut her off but, this is starting to get a bit much for me...

{Oh, this is a tough one, anon. I really sympathize with you here. Unfortunately for hemoanons, jades tend to be REALLY good pale matches, while teals, not so much. It's possible that your jade friend seems like a threat to your teal friend here because there would be a much less forced connection there.}

{Doubly unfortunately, a teal-hemoanon relationship is really hard to actually get off the ground. Your friend seems unable to accept that, which is really sad.}

{At the end of the night, if she's choosing her own feelings over your comfort, forcing you to do things you don't want, speaking over you, guilting you, acting possessive, and pushing you to get into a relationship you're not interested in, that's no friend. You are not obligated to keep talking to someone who makes you feel constantly uncomfortable, anon! And I'm sorry you feel pressured to.}

{But, it's probably for the best if you and your teal friend go low contact for a while, until she gets her head on right.}

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Dear Abbaey (must I start this message with that? I'm unsure. I will nevertheless.), for obvious reasons I am quirk masking. I'm a rust, and I've been in a conversation with this mutated fuchsia. I'm unsure as to the nature of our relationships, as whenever we speak to each other, I feel off kilter. Like I lost the reigns of our conversation, with him saying words that strike me to my core and leave me dazed and confused. As much as I would love to avoid him, I can't seem to let myself sever our connection. I'm unsure if the nature of our relationship is platonic or romantic, or if it is romantic what quadrant we would land on. It's quite fun seeing him scramble around as I never confirm nor deny things, though he is quite caring and sweet, and he seems to fret about me quite a bit. Do you have any advice for me?

{Well, a rust-fuchsia relationship can be a very sweet thing, something that sounds really fun for you both! Being cryptic as most rusts love to, paired with the gentle grace a fuchsia can have, is really a good pitch or red dynamic!}

{My advice for you is... don't worry so much about the labels. Just enjoy where this is taking you, and give yourself time to bask in it.}

{Too many times, I see what could be a good relationship get snagged and twisted on that sinking hook that is society's expectations that you conform to certain ideas and fall in line with certain requirements. You don't have to! Just the fact that he makes you happy and he seems to care about you should be enough. You clearly make him happy to, and that's what matters.}

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Dear Abbaey…

I’m a small olive who’s into a reaaalllly big violet! But I don’t think it’s quadranted! Do you think I should try something just to try it, or leave it alone unless I can actually manage a quadfeel?

{What's with the olive-violet relationships on here, wow! Alright, anon, I have to say, until you know what quadrant you're going for, you should wait and see. Violets can be VERY quadrant-confused, and as an olive, you might end up coming off too pitch or too red or too pale depending on how far the stick is lodged up there. Best to think it out first!}

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dear abbaey, there's something that's been bothering me for a whi7e. i (teal) was once in a kismessitude with a purple, and... it ended pretty bad7y, to say the 7east. i've been pitch interested in a coup7e of vio7ets and this cute dumb o7ive for a whi7e. i was wondering what your thoughts wou7d be on the compatibi7ity? i'm worried i'd be bad for them and i'77 fuck up 7ike i did before, you know?

{Hmmm... Unfortunately, anon, being a teal with an unhealthy purple pitch isn't as uncommon as you'd think. A lot of people think the carefree natures of the two castes would bind together well, but actually, they really don't. My condolences for you...}

{Olive could be a good competitive match for you, but watch out for any quadrant with an olive - their moirails can be a little over protective at times! If anything, I think you'd be in serious danger of flipping red due to the playful natures matching up. Olives are very creative and enjoy making things, so you may find yourself settled in a more red-black swirl, which would probably be less uncomfortable for you, considering your past.}

{As for violets. I've yet to really see a teal-violet relationship of any kind get off the ground. But! I could see it! Consider taking up FLARPing, and beware the curse of the violet ex overlapping with the curse of the teal ex. Both can have some pretty bad past relationships that come back to haunt them, so watch out for that.}

{Either way... Good luck! I'm rooting for you, anon.}

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{There's just no way to make it work between a royal purple and a royal pink. Sorry, anon, but you wouldn't be able to provide for them emotionally in the way they really need, and they'd just treat you like a bomb/wiggler/wiggler who swallowed a bomb the whole time, it'd be awful.}

{May I suggest you try looking for someone who's hemoanon? They tend to be better (especially pale!) matches for violets, and have more in common than you'd think!}

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{Absolutely! Particularly with a gold blood, since the tragedy that haunts gold/rust matespriteships has already passed by you being dead as is!}

{Not to mention, golds are very drawn to the doom and gloom, of which ghosts are both. Keep your head up, anon!}

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