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At the time when I was designing the flags, there were none made on the wiki. Flags by @revenant-coining (now @daybreakthing) have since been added- but for cohesion with my other designs, I may as well post them.

❀ A little possum approaches with a gift!

{PT: A little possum approaches with a gift!}

Drained stance flag designs!

❀ Sex Drained ❀ Touch Drained ❀ Friendship Drained

{PT: Sex drained, touch drained, friendship drained.}

❀ Romance Drained ❀ Orgasm Drained ❀ Affection Drained

{PT: Romance drained, orgasm drained, affection drained.}

Note- I am/was working on relationship stance flags too (for more rainbow) but have since paused because I can't make some of the colors work together nicely. Also this set I've made go together very nicely, big fan of the deep red.

Additional note- the common symbol I've seen for drained is a spiral- which I deeply love- but, for the life of me, I just could. not. make an evenly spaced spiral. So arrow it is!

Tagging: @radiomogai @starzjay @not-victor-ann @vampiric-gay-chaos @stary-baa

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Friendship-Averse

[ID: a rectangular flag with 4 equally-sized horizontal lines with a thicker one in the middle. colors in this order from top to bottom: orange, light orange, yellow, light orange, orange. in the center of the flag is a pale pink circle outlined in dark red. inside the circle is a dark red symbol of a tilda. End ID]

Friendship-Averse flag for anon !

@radiomogai , @oneofmanyarchives

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Do you have any death related genders

Vulturehoarder: A subset of genderhoarder in which you hoard agenders and ‘dead’ genders.

Sepulcherine / Morguegender: A gender perceived through the lens of being (un/)dead. Intended for Cotard’s Syndrome & similar reasonings.

Arthos / Arthogender: A gender associated with the cycle of death and decay. It brings to mind graveyards, old rotting things, the inevitability of death but also the knowledge that decay fuels rebirth. It has a connection to death rituals and funerary rites, and may be influenced by or associated with death-related deities, such as Anubis, Thanatos, Hel, Ankou, Arkay, etc.

Corpsegender: A xenogender / kingender relating to one’s undeath. One’s gender perception is altered by the fact that they are undead, their gender might be muddled or weak but not necessarily. Some examples of “undead” can be zombies, vampires, ghosts, etc. 

Lykh: A xenogender characterized by supernatural vigor and a sense of disembodiment. Someone who identifies as a lykh might feel like their gender exists in spite of or apart from their earthly existence. Synesthetically, this gender feels undead, incorporeal and/or extradimensional, like a conspicuous absence. 

Monstruoususique: A gender that feels shrouded in eeriness and sadness, its bare and clear, but may sometimes feel foggy. 

Mortemfawngender: A gender that infects and takes over any existing natural and cute gender(s), including but not limited to fawngender, and changes them to feel more mature and grisly. May ‘die out’ after a while, but the infected gender(s) can never be restored.

Mortugender: A gender / gender addition that has strong ties to or relates to death in a deep way. The prefix mortu- is added to a gender when said gender becomes stronger in the presence or feeling of death. Coined with people with Cotard’s Syndrome in mind, but isn’t exclusive.  

Demonian: A slightly LIN gender related to demons, witchcraft, paganism, and/or candles and death. [LIN = androgynous in nature]

Abandoe: A gender similar to that of an abandoned house; could be dead/genderless or themes of being empty and intimidating.

Fatum: A gender somehow connected to death, halloween, and decoration. feels empty and gone

Osseusne: A gender related to skeletons or bones, halloween, and spirits. feels bare and barely there

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Hoarder Identities

These terms are in similarity to Ravenhoarder, Kiwihoarder, and Turkeyhoarder in terminology and flag design. All coined and made by me.

Humminghoarder

An identity in which one’s orientation is fluid but one can’t find just a few terms to describe what their fluid orientation is, so they “hoard” orientation terms that fit them. This is similar to Genderhoarder and Turkeyhoarder but with PLATONIC orientations instead of genders or pronouns.

Bird: Hummingbird

Blue: Trust

Green: Dependability

Yellow: Joy, Friendship

Albatrosshoarder

An identity in which one’s orientation is fluid but one can’t find just a few terms to describe what their fluid orientation is, so they “hoard” orientation terms that fit them. This is similar to Genderhoarder and Turkeyhoarder but with ALTEROUS orientations instead of genders or pronouns.

Bird: Albatross

Blue: Male

Pink: Female

White: Nonbinary

Black: Clouded Feelings

Grey: Undistinguished Feelings

Dovehoarder

An identity in which one’s orientation is fluid but one can’t find just a few terms to describe what their fluid orientation is, so they “hoard” orientation terms that fit them. This is similar to Genderhoarder and Turkeyhoarder but with ROMANTIC orientations instead of genders or pronouns.

Bird: Dove

Pink: Love

Purple: Romance

White: Openness

Secretaryhoarder

An identity in which one’s orientation is fluid but one can’t find just a few terms to describe what their fluid orientation is, so they “hoard” orientation terms that fit them. This is similar to Genderhoarder and Turkeyhoarder but with SENSUAL orientations instead of genders or pronouns.

Bird: Secretary Bird

Red: Passion

Royal Blue(s): Loyalty

Violet: Sensitivity

Black: Elegance

White: Purity

Peacockhoarder

An identity in which one’s orientation is fluid but one can’t find just a few terms to describe what their fluid orientation is, so they “hoard” orientation terms that fit them. This is similar to Genderhoarder and Turkeyhoarder but with AESTHETIC orientations instead of genders or pronouns.

Bird: Peacock

Pastel Rainbow: Comfortable to the eyes

Quailhoader

An identity in which one’s orientation is fluid but one can’t find just a few terms to describe what their fluid orientation is, so they “hoard” orientation terms that fit them. This is similar to Genderhoarder and Turkeyhoarder but with QUEERPLATONIC orientations instead of genders or pronouns.

Bird: Quail

Colors: Queerplatonic Flag

Brown: Stability

Mockinghoarder

An identity in which someone identifies with 2 or more hoarder identities. The mockingbird can adapt to numerous sounds, just like how Mockinghoarders adapt to numerous labels.

Bird: Mockingbird

Brown: Comfort

Yellow: Joy

Silver: Self Expression

Paradisehoarder

An identity in which one’s orientation is fluid but one can’t find just a few terms to describe what their fluid orientation is, so they “hoard” orientation terms that fit them. This is similar to Genderhoarder and Turkeyhoarder but with SEXUAL orientations instead of genders or pronouns. Possible alternative to Kiwihoarder.

Bird: Bird Of Paradise

Yellow: Confidence

Orange: Flamboyance/Pride

Red: Passion

Pink: Love

Black: Security

White: Hope

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Autosexuals/Autoromantics are misunderstood.

Autosexuality and autoromanticism are such misunderstood orientations. It is not self-obsession, it is not being egotistical, and it is certainly not comparable to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (and comparing it to NPD stigmatizes both autoattraction and NPD alike.)

Now before I get into further detail, let me make something clear - nearly everybody has low-level autosexual and autoromantic tendencies. For example, when a person looks at themself in the mirror and thinks that they look pretty today, or when a person sings because they like the sound of themself singing. Autoattracted people just have it at a higher level than non-autosexuals.

Autosexuality and autoromanticism is the attraction to oneself. This attraction could be exclusive attraction to oneself (and thus, falls on the greyasexual or greyromantic umbrella) or it could be attraction to oneself that is at a similar or equal level to ones attraction to others. Autosexuals tend to prefer masturbation to having sex with others, but thats not always the case, and many still do desire partnered sex as well.

An autosexual and/or autoromantic person might choose to date themself. Alternatively, they might choose to date themself and others. Or they might ignore their autoattraction altogether, and only date others, or remain non-partnering/single.

Another thing I must clarify - autoattracted people can be insecure. They can dislike themselves. They can have dysphoria and dysmorphia. They can insult themselves. And that just makes it hurt more.

I am autosexual and self-partnered. When I feel insecure about myself, it not only feels like I am betraying my lover, but it also feels like my lover is betraying me. I am insulting and thinking poorly of my lover, and my lover is insulting and thinking poorly of me. It is heartbreaking and painful. It makes me guilty and angry.

Please, I beg of you, read these articles (though warning for sexual topics.) Read the experiences of people with autoattraction. Try to understand us and be compassionate to us. Autoattracted people struggle and are marginalized too.

Here are a few sections of the article that really speak to my experience.

Article 1

Some autosexuals are also autoromantics which means they like the idea of dating themselves too. One woman, Ghia Vitale, has written about being in a relationship with herself. "I take myself out for coffee, go on walks in nature, dress in lingerie and cuddle up to myself, or simply sit in the darkness and bask in my own presence," she writes.

"Sometimes, I light candles and do sensual dances for my own entertainment. When I’m feeling especially positive about life, I do a lot of things to romance myself. I’ve learned how to create dates with myself out of thin air. Something as simple as lotioning my body can turn into a sensual, sexual moment, sometimes voluntarily and other times on its own."

I can relate to some of what Ghia is saying, and I do have an amazing sex life alone. And I also know that it can be just as fun with the right person who understands my needs. Besides, relationships aren’t just about sex. I personally love the idea of getting married and having a family one day. I don’t see why I can’t have that just because I sexually enjoy myself.

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While I've learnt to embrace being an autosexual there are still times when I wish I was 'normal'. It's frustrating when your friends can't relate to what you're going through, and sometimes when I'm with a boyfriend, I feel bad that I'm getting a different kind of pleasure from our intimacy than he is. In those moments, I wish I could just put autosexuality on pause, and explore a more 'regular' sexuality.

But then I remember that nothing is 'normal' with sexuality and we're all different. People are queer, bisexual, asexual... as society becomes more open, and people are more honest about their sexuality, I feel like we're starting to see just how fluid sexuality is. I hope that one day, autosexuality is more widely understood because I'd love to be able to tell my family about it. Right now, they just wouldn't get it. I once tried to describe it to my mum but she looked freaked out, so I stopped.

I recently met a female autosexual online and confessed I might be one as well. It felt so good to have the response be mutual understanding, rather than laughter or awkwardness. We’re such a new community that we’re still figuring out exactly where we fit in on the sexual spectrum, but I’m just glad to have a way of explaining how I feel.

If the chance came to be involved with another autosexual it could be amazing. It would mean I'd have a truly equal relationship for the first time in my life, where we'd both feel the exact same way about our sexualities. I just have no idea how to find someone though - it's not exactly the kind of box you can tick on a dating app. At least, not yet.

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Article 2

Adam is a polyamorous, gender-fluid autosexual who is also pansexual. But though their autosexuality is beautiful and fulfilling, it is entangled within a lifetime of depression and a longing grief for a love story that can never truly consummate itself. For Adam, the sexual bewilderment of loving someone who simultaneously exists and can never exist triggers a dissonance which he describes as akin to bereavement. As such, coming to terms with their sexuality means mourning themselves. “I needed to grieve that I cannot be with myself in the same way I can be with other people,” they say. “That I cannot feel the touch the same way, that I cannot hug myself like other people, or ever have sex with myself because there’s only one body.”

Please be respectful in the comments.

-Ally (they/them + fae/faer)

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Honorific Suggestion: Mushroom Themed

Mic. / Mm. - Mycelium

Mush.

Fs. / Fgs. - Fungus

Fun. / Fung.

Fl. / Fgl. - Fungal

Sr. / Sre. - Spore

Ag. / Aric. - Agaric

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UNHUMAN DISABILITY FLAG

I have a few chronic illnesses and have dealt with a lot of ableism growing up including feeling dehumanized or even like an animal, and I couldn’t find a flag to suit that so I have made my own using the base of the disability pride flag created by Ann Magill. (more info on that here!) . . . My experiences range from a variety of things, such as being undermined / belittled or people acting like they do not want to be around me because of my physical and mental disabilities . . . In a way this made me feel dehumanized or even a bit animalistic when i was younger (and sometimes I still feel this way). . . . Not all disabled folk have to use this or even acknowledge this flag, i just wanted to make something to explain how I feel personally, and i wanted to share it for other disabled folk who may feel this way . . . Original color meanings for the original disability flag can be found here . . . For this flag, all the colors striped in the middle have the same meaning as in the link above . . . The overall flag has been dulled down to represent how being dehumanized can make us feel overall and the negative / animalistic feelings associated with it. The stripes being together represent the solidarity within the disabled community. (same as the original). In the 2nd image, the flag being warped represents how bumpy and uncomfortable we feel about being dehumanized can be, yet we all stick together . . . Image 1 id: a flag with 5 different colored stripes going down diagonally from the left, from top to bottom, green, blue, white, yellow, red. The background is a deep red color. Image 2 id: the same as above, the only difference is the stripes in the middle are warped and disoriented. thanks to my brother for helping with the design: starr.soft on instagram . . .

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Adorafae and Adorafaun

We posted this on our previous blog but we deleted it so I'm posting it again. Sorry for the inconvenience...

Adorafae/Adoradoe:

A gender that is fluid between cute and feminine genders, but never masculine

Adorafaun:

A gender that is fluid between cute and masculine genders, but never feminine

What is a "cute gender"?

Cuteness is subjective, but these genders were created with pastels, bright colors, Sanrio, My Little Pony, and kidcore related aesthetigenders in mind. As I've said though, cuteness is subjective, and if you find a gender unrelated to these to be a cute gender in your eyes, then adorafaun/adorafae may still be for you!

May I create a variant of this (static version for example)?

Go for it! Just check to see if it exists first. I may reblog variants that I find!

Term coined by us! (More specifically Aiden) on May 26th, 2021

I hope this helps out more people now that it's up again. I know adorafaun helped me a lot. :D

-✨

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TheVasttant

[ID: 2 rectangular flags with 9 vertical lines. sizes in this order from left to right: medium, thin, 2 medium, thick, 2 medium, thin, medium. colors in this order from left to right and reflected after the last listed color: light blue, light pink, white, light pink, pink. in the center of the first flag is a blye symbol outlined in blue. the symbol is a capital I and T next to each other, with the top left of the T touching the middle of the I. End ID]

TheVasttant: a instinctant term connected to The vast from The Magnus Archives; a term for when The Vast from The Magnus Archives is connected to / affects one’s instincts.

Etymology: the vast, “tant” a suffix for instinctant terms

Pronounced: the vast tant (the vast tant)

@rescanwriter , @radiomogai , @oneofmanyarchives

[ID: a divider of a line of waves with a light blue to darker blue gradient. End ID]

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Archivistmichealquoteic

a gender related to the Micheal the Distortion quote “Oh Archivist” from The Magnus Archives episode 101

for @not-victor-ann

[PT. Archivistmichealquoteic END PT.]

[ ID start: a flag with five (5) horizontal wavy lines, in the following colors: orange, yellow, green, dark green, and black. End ID ]

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Alterpathy: The practice of identifying, categorizing, and identifying with fictional and imagined illnesses due to a disconnect between your external and internal understanding of yourself - while also not intending to appropriate, romanticize, or cause harm to a minority group.

this is going to be a really long post because i want to cover all the basics. future coinings will not be nearly as long.

identifying, categorizing, and identifying with: making flags, coining terms, and posting about your experience. alterpathic conditions can also be divided into a couple of categories, which are detailed later in the post.

disconnect between your external and internal understanding of yourself: for some reason, even though you're aware that this isn't how conditions that affect the body work, you experience a reoccurring condition that is serious to you. this can be because of atypical dysphoria, delusions, alternate beliefs, delusions, or anything else similar.

appropriation, romanticism, causing harm: this doesn't mean that actions you take are automatically excused of harm, but it's a silent agreement and nodding between yourself and others that you're not trying to come from a place of ableism/bigotry.

ignoring/excusing bigotry: examples of ignoring/excusing bigotry would be implying that someone can "coin" a real mental illness/other condition in the same way you can coin a gender, implying you can "transition" into a congenital condition with subliminal videos or otherwise, and anything else that goes against science's understanding of illness and neurodivergence. there's nuance to this, of course, because the psychology field isn't an absolutely perfect field that can do no wrong - it's up to the person coining/the person identifying to look at the situation and act accordingly.

examples of situations that might bring you to identify this way:

being a fictive/kin/introject/etc of a character who had a disease or type of injury that was invented for their media, like zombie diseases, cyberbrain cclerosis, the cutie pox, hanahaki disease, etc, and feeling affected by it in any way

experiencing something in your system's headspace that's like a reoccurring illness

having limbs like wings, tails, horns, etc in your headspace with some kind of damage to them that causes you phantom discomfort

feeling anxiety/frustration because you're experiencing something on a metaphysical level which you know your physical body isn't experiencing, but it's still very serious to you and possibly even hurting your quality of life

grammar:

alterpathy: 1) the practice of naming/making flags/categorizing these, "here's my mogai blog and here's my alterpathy blog"; 2) this kind of condition. "my depression and my alterpathy make it hard for me," "i might have an alterpathy but i'm not sure"

alterpathic: descriptor that describes these conditions. "it's alterpathic," "how to cope with alterpathic..."

inspiration and some context on why we're coining this

this was largely inspired by the r*dqueer term of x*nomalady, because after the system looked into it, we did see a lot of cases of people who were genuinely experiencing something serious, but didn't seem to think that there was any space other than the rqc that would be accepting of someone identifying with a disease that technically didn't exist. these cases were mixed in with genuinely ableist people who displayed the behaviors i listed above in "ignoring/excusing bigotry," which feels wrong to me, and i think that people who aren't intending to harm anyone deserve their own terminology and space.

crossover

there is some crossover with dissodic, desirdae, intusui, ethix +etc good faith terms related to feeling like you have, internally have, desire, or identify with something you technically don't, and i think that's fine. you can identify with an alterpathic term and the equivalent of it in another term umbrella, that's fine. do whatever fits best to describe your experiences.

so, is this just x*nomalady but Good?

not exactly, i don't want this to be thought of as a 1-to-1 anti rq equivalent, because again, some x*nomalady people are just coining """disorders""" for fun because they think you can do that in the same way you would a gender. this is both an identity/experience, and a silent agreement to be critical of what you're putting out into the world. this is also not focused on "coining" new conditions unless that's really necessary. (not necessary = making up a new illness for funsies. necessary = putting a name to a reoccuring condition you've been experiencing in headspace, etc.)

in the same way that terms like dissomei and intusui aren't 1-to-1 tr*nsid but Good and are separate term umbrellas that have their own nuances and notes, this is a good-faith alternative for people genuinely experiencing this kind of thing.

can i coin my own?

yes, this is open to everyone to coin! though, i will be posting a couple of flags for some alterpathic things in a couple of days, so you might want to wait until those come out so you can see how i format the post.

TDLR: considering yourself to have a condition that's not possible in reality because of some internal identity, but not in a fashion where you ignore/excuse bigotry.

can i post this term on…

wiki/term definition sites: yes, and you don't have to ask, but i would like to be informed.

pinterest/other social medias: no, never, i'm not comfortable with someone else posting my term for me.

subtypes:

when a different self began working on this, he set out two subtypes of alterpathic condition. unlike something like the age ratings in nichelink, these are absolutely optional, and you don't have to include these in your term definition if you don't want to/don't find it useful. but i think that if you're like me and like lots of details, these could be appealing, so i will include what he wrote:

Fiction-based. This is aimed at conditions that are established some way in a work of fiction/media, such as:Hanahaki Disease Slender Sickness Radiation Sickness (as seen in the Fallout series, not the IRL version) Environment-Based. Specific conditions that you can recognize are happening because of things already in your environment, like trauma, alterhuman labels, existing neurodivergent symptoms and so on. As an example, I'll mention the specific thing one of the alters in my system has that inspired me to make this subtype. He is a fictive of an angel character, but from my perspective it is vary obvious that his wings don't work and cause him muscle cramps in our headspace as a metaphor for an injury we had when were a child that gave us severe muscle cramps and required extremely painful and traumatizing physical therapy. That's something that was in our environment, so I'd call it environment-based. Subtypes are an optional category though, and you might not be able to decide/understand if yours fits into one or both, and that's fine. Also, I acknowledge that just two subtypes might not be enough to cover all the bases, and also there are probably tons of conditions that fall into both or inbetween, and that's fine. I want to "cross that bridge as we come to it", and let people who identify with this tell me their thoughts about what other words need to be coined.

flag inspiration rambles

this flag went through a lot of design phases. it was originally much more inspired by the general disability flag, because we imagined that most of the appeal would be to people who are actually disabled (mentally ill people, etc). the final flag became more inspired by existing terms for people who experience a disconnect between themself and their conditions. i saw many examples of shades of purple and pink, scalloped stripes/rounded shapes, and specifically these flags were the biggest inspirations:

dissocogni and dissophysi by @/acetrappolaswife (deactivated)

desirsick/desirill by @shrubmogai

other stuff

tags: @antiradqueerguy | @radiomogai | @archive-of-form | @everythingarchive | @mad-pride maybe? | @plurality-faq | @anti-rq-gumi | @doomsd8ydevice // ask to be untagged

"would (thing) fit this?" ask, there's tons of room for discussion and nuance.

this post was written mostly by nichie.

flag template:

hanahaki disease example:

nonfunctional angel wings example:

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Genders inspired by this noun generator

[PT: Genders inspired by this noun generator[link]]

Wildhitchghostic

[PT: Wildhitchghostic]

A gender related to the concept of a ghost that has become lost in the wilderness and attempts to hitchhike with passing cars.

May be related to folklore of ghosts appearing in the back seats of cars, hitchhiking ghosts that disappear when they reach their destination, the specific tradition in Japan of driving ghosts to where they want to go, even when the driver knows the address they’ve been given is no longer standing, etc.

May also be related to ghosts in general, the wilderness in general, forests, being lost in the woods, hitchhiking in general, abandoned cars, etc.

Sunlightreeic

[PT: Sunlightreeic]

A gender related to how sunlight looks filtering through trees, becoming scattered and leaving shadows of branches and leaves on the forest floor.

Spiderrorgirl

[PT: Spiderrorgirl]

A feminine gender related to spiders, computer errors, glitches, and being a girl. This may be related to being a glitchy spider-girl, being a glitchy girl who likes spiders, being a spider that causes errors and being a girl, etc.

‘Girl’ in this case doesn’t necessarily mean female-aligned, but can be used that way.

Abandrelossic

[PT: Abandrelossic]

A gender related to abandoned buildings, loss, being lost, and simple linen or cotton dresses.

This may be related to overgrown buildings, feelings of grief or loss, the idea of dirtying a white linen or cotton dress by running through forests or exploring abandoned buildings, becoming lost in an unfamiliar place, etc.

{ Photo ID help?: @liom-archive @radiomogai @mogaidescribed }

DNI: bigots, radinclus, radexclus, pro-endo, if you’re going to try and argue with me on any of these points, if you demonise mental illness, pro-transid (eg; transabled, transage, transrace, etc), proshippers/anti-anti, MAPS/NOMAPS/necro/zoo DNI (full DNI in pinned)

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Fluxfriend

Id: fluxfriend

Fluxfriend is a partner alternative name and connected to an identity.

Fluxfriend is when your relationship with your partner(s) fluctuates between romantic, platonic, or even sexual. (Different parts can be the fluctuating factor) you may not feel like queer platonic partners all the time nor romantic partners all the time. Fluxfriend is a relationship that fluctuates.

Orientations it can be connected to: aromantic, asexual, demisexual, cupio, etc

Template by @rwuffles

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Types of attraction and their colors/descriptions/terms

Colors

Sexual = purple/magenta

Romantic = green

Alterous = blue, cyan

Sensual = orange

QPlatonic = pink + yellow

Platonic = yellow

Aesthetic = pink

Wavership = brown + light blue

Amical = light brown/dark orange

Guardian/Protective = purple + purplish blue

Grace = lightish blue + lightish green

Emotional = red

Intellectual = white + gold

Noetic = black + tan 

Spiritual = purple + white

Familial/Fellowship = green + yellow

Social = red

Pragmatic = peach + green/blue

Erotic = burgundy

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Definitions

Sexual = desiring sexual interaction (sexual intercourse, sexually touching/groping, kissing, finding sexual pleasure)

Romantic = desiring romantic interaction (being physically close, affectionate speech, living together, making lifelong commitment decisions, romantic affection, doing things together exclusively, valuing the relationship more than others)

Alterous = desiring interaction that is neither 100% platonic or 100% romantic, but is rather somewhere in between (affectionate speech, physical affection, doing things together exclusively, valuing the relationship more than others)

Sensual = desiring sensual interaction (kissing, cuddling, handholding, nonsexual touch, stroking, grooming, physical affection, sharing space, being physically close)

QPlatonic = desiring interaction that is not 100% platonic, but is actually more, while not being 100% romantic either (kissing, cuddling, handholding, nonsexual touch, being physically close, affectionate speech, doing things together exclusively, valuing the relationship more than others)

Platonic = desiring platonic interaction (nonsexual touch, doing things together exclusively, valuing the relationship more than others (possibly), friendship, making lifelong decisions together, relying on each other emotionally)

Aesthetic = experiencing aesthetic attraction (admiration, valuing their existence more than others (non-obsessively), adoration, interest in their persona, distant emotional reliance)

Wavership = experiencing attraction that can fluctuate between different types or different expressions (called fluidic)

Amical = experiencing platonic + siblinghood attraction (nonsexual touch, valuing the relationship more than others, friendship, doing things together exclusively, emotional reliance, possible physical affection, familial bonds)

Guardian/Protective = experiencing protective attraction (valuing the relationship more than others, doing things together exclusively, possible physical affection, emotional reliance, possible grooming and being physically close, feeling protective or guide-like emotions; may be platonic, romantic, a mix, or some other type) (also called tutelary or dominant)

Grace = experiencing protected/guarded attraction (valuing the relationship more than others, doing things together exclusively, possible physical affection, possible grooming and being physically close, emotional and mental dependence, ‘following behind’ or willing to release some independence, but not completely or by force; may be platonic, romantic, a mix, or some other type) (also called submissive and concomitant)

Emotional = experiencing attraction that fits multiple types at once, or has characteristics of multiple types of attraction while not strictly falling into any type. (this is sometimes called ‘doraric’ attraction)

Intellectual = experiencing intellectual attraction (valuing their opinions, fascination with their skill level, adoration of their field of intelligence (not how smart, but what they’re smart in), valuing their existence more than others (non-obsessively), interest in their persona, desiring partnership or guide-like relationships, possibly other traits of attraction; may be mixed with another type of attraction but not always)

Spiritual = experiencing spiritual attraction (valuing their opinions, emotional and mental reliance, valuing their existence more than others (non-obsessively), desiring partnership or guide-like relationships, spiritual bonding, doing things together exclusively, friendship, possible familial bonds, possible physical affection, performing spiritual practices together, fascination, interest in their persona)

Noetic = experiencing mental attraction (valuing their opinions, fascination with their point of view or perception of reality, fascination and appreciation of their ‘mental map’ (how they see the world/how their mind ‘works’), admiration of their perspectives or opinions, desiring a guide-like or apprentice-like relationship (possibly), valuing their existence more than others (non-obsessively), interest in their persona, possible emotional reliance, favoring their input and guidance, intimacy) Please read this for a better explanation.

Familial/Fellowship = experiencing familial attraction or desiring a familial bond (being physically close, living together, valuing the relationship more than others, emotional reliance, valuing their existence more than others, possible desire for a guide-like or guardian/grace attachment, friendship, valuing their opinion more than others)

Social = desiring social interaction (verbal speech, sharing information, discussing interests, spending time together, possible desire to have a deeper relationship)

Pragmatic/Hospitable = ‘a means to an end’ type of relationship or attraction, the desire to appease for some gain, or to create a relationship with a common goal besides simply being in love (this can be across multiple expressions of affection, kindness, compatibility, interaction, and interest. This type is listed for those in arranged marriages, professional partnerships, procreational relationships, hospitality employment such as hospital or hotel services, and sex workers.)

Erotic/Nonsexual = experiencing erotic attraction (an aesthetic attraction to nonsexual nudity, or a nonsexual interest in human anatomy; the best example is admiration of the human physique, particularly genitals or secondary reproductive organs (though not always exclusively), but not wishing for sexual interaction. This is placed here for those on the asexual spectrum, or those who simply do not feel the desire to have sexual interaction with others, but are not sex-repulsed.)

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Words for each attraction

(A word used by the person feeling the attraction would call their target of attraction they are NOT in a relationship with)

Sexual: smush, lust

Romantic: crush

Alterous: mesh, hush

Sensual: lush

QPlatonic: plush

Platonic: squish, squush, thete

Aesthetic: swish

Wavership: unknown, flush? waffle?

Amical: unknown, shush? thresh?

Guardianship: mush

Grace: gush, sush

Emotional: unknown, blush?

Intellectual: unknown, rush?

Spiritual: unknown, immesh? inmesh?

Mixture: slush, flish, immesh?

Social: N/A

Pragmatic: N/A

Erotic: N/A

Noetic: unknown

Familial/Fellowship: N/A

Unknown: unknown, thrush? (as in the bird) sesh? immesh?

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Titles

(what the individual experiencing the attraction calls those they’re in a relationship with)

Sexual: sex partner

Romantic: (date)friend, partner, significant other

Alterous: varies

Sensual: unknown, cuddle buddy?

QPlatonic: queerplatonic partner/qpp

Platonic: friend

Aesthetic: idol

Wavership: varies, wavermate

Amical: unknown

Guardianship: comate, grace, cherish, ward

Grace: concomitant, guide partner

Emotional: varies

Intellectual: unknown

Pragmatic: partner

Noetic: unknown

Erotic: N/A

Social: N/A

Familial/Fellowship: second sibling, second (parent term), any typically family-oriented term

Spiritual: spirit guide, soul mate, soul partner, spiritual partner

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Other forms of attraction exist, but I don’t know enough about them to list them.

This is the UPDATED (11/27/18) version of the previous list. After some consideration, more were added that I felt were important to those with neurodivergency, or nontraditional forms of relationships or attraction. 

Yes you may reblog this! 

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Ruby the rat(aka, Hitch's mom)

(SHE/HER) 💚🐀

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heartbonds / heartmates!

we originally made this term to describe people in our own system, but decided to post it because it might help others! after searching for a word that fit, we decided to just make one :)

someone’s heartbond is a headmate who was essentially created for them. their relationship could be romantic, platonic, or familial, but the important thing is that they are each other’s perfect complement.

they may share emotions, thoughts, or memories, and in our case, they can communicate perfectly with each other at all times. they can split months and even years apart, but upon splitting, a deep and personal connection is immediately felt.

here’s the flag!

[queergutz]

[ID: A set of three symbols, with the one on the top being the main one. It displays a grey ring with five chevrons in the middle of it. The chevrons are green, light blue, white, yellow, and red, and represent the disability flag. The symbol on the top has a black outline, the one on the bottom left has a dark grey ring and lighter grey middle, and the bottom right has a lighter grey ring and no middle color. The bottom symbols do not have a black outline. End ID]

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Dyspunktional symbol

So a while back, I made a flag for the term dyspunktional, a punk term meant for disabled people. After that point, I'd always wanted to make an accompanying symbol, and after months of remaking and tweaking the symbol while having the post sit in my drafts, here it is! I made multiple versions so you can use whichever suits your fancy.

The one on the top with the thick outline was mostly supposed to resemble some kind of pin, while the bottom two are probably friendlier for the internet, though I think both look great either way. It's meant to represent the flag, by having the circles with the chevrons coming through it. I had a pretty high number of vague homages when making this, namely the disability sun, the anarchy "A" symbol, etc.

Free to use, of course! :)