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let’s groove tonight, share the spice of life

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YAYYYYY

wearing gloves and a kn95 to cut the gorgeous marble rye my wife made 😁

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wearing gloves and a kn95 to cut the gorgeous marble rye my wife made 😁

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I know it’s not the kids fault. It’s the adults fault I’m just so irritated.

I wish people would vaccinate their gross disgusting kids❤️

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I wish people would vaccinate their gross disgusting kids❤️

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being a horror fan will have you saying sentences such as “i liked it a lot, super gross and sad”

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i think the way that people become weirdly sensitive about exposing feet once they attain knowledge of foot fetishists honestly reveals something interesting about their views on sex and sexualization

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“it’s circus work.” not to me. not if it’s my monkeys.

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This whole thing about scanning your face to prove tour age is making me remember, in 2018 while out in paris we got our wallet stolen during a particularly busy night at a lesbian bar. It was very late and with no money to buy metro tickets we were effectively stranded, but some people helped us and we ended up staying the night at a really sweet older man's place. His face was deeply scarred and he was missing an eye. We chatted on our way and he told me about his life, probably to help calm me down. He explained he had been stuck in a house fire 20 years ago and had had multiple rounds of facial reconstruction and a skin graft, but there's only so much surgery can do so he just learned to live with it. I remember he said he liked the queer bars because they're the only place people don't really stare at him.

At some point I took out my phone, and at the time I was using face unlock. This prompted him to tell me all the ways this technology doesn't work on him. How his phone selfie camera doesn't focus right because it's not a detecting a face. How he had to update his ID the old fashioned way, because the website kept rejecting his photos. And how it was becoming more and more common, and how it was making his life way harder.

This was 7 years ago, and now whenever I see this sort of technology I think of how that guy can't use it. And how house fires are pretty common, and how anything from being born this way to a skin condition to heavy tattooing can probably cause the same issue. Can these people get age verified ? Will they just lose access to all social media, which are increasingly necessary in society, if this becomes the norm ? These are people who are already driven out of public spaces due to how they look, and they're getting pushed out online too all in the interest of companies wanting more money.

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remember first grade when letters were still hype

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i think half of being a decent human is just going 'that's not my business'.

someone in a wheelchair stood up? not my business.

someone has a service dog but doesn't visibly need it? not my business.

someone is acting weird? not my business.

someone is participating in a culture i don't understand? not my business.

someone got an abortion? not my business.

someone identifies in a way that doesn't make sense to me? not my business.

someone has a medical issue i don't understand? not my business.

if it doesn't negatively impact me or others, it's not my business. and i will continue to push for legislation that allows people to just live their lives, because why should i or the government have a say in shit that doesn't affect us? it's not our business.

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sometimes i wish i could tell other women that you can just stop removing your body hair and in many cases the consequences will be way less severe than u expect. you can go to the beach with all your leg hair intact and nobody will stop you or say a thing. you can stop waxing your upper lip and people won’t stare at it the way u might be bracing yourself for. you can quit plucking your brows and eventually they will grow back into themselves and no one will even notice. like for sure women are punished for not participating in beauty rituals but i also feel like so much of it is like The Panopticon sometimes where you just convince yourself that if u stop that kind of gendered upkeep everyone will be mad and stop talking to u forever when in reality you just keep existing and nothing remarkable happens. it’s not always easy but you can kind of just stop for real

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so basically theyre boys/girls with cat ears. do you think that truck honking at us is coming down this lane

dont talk to me im counting gravel

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"Based on data gleaned from the nearly 10 million military dependents it insures, the U.S. Department of Defense has repeatedly called the evidence supporting ABA “weak,” noting there is no research to determine whether the small number of participants who show improvement — 15% — do so because of treatment or simply because a child has matured. After a year of the therapy, the department reported to Congress in 2019, 76% of 16,000 participating autistic children saw no change, and 9% worsened."