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nudibranchs are hermaphrodites and when mating they line up their starboard sides head to toe to copulate which is to say that sea slugs are early innovators in the “swipe-right” user interface

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can someone please tell me why I still exist

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If you’re in a relationship, and you are afraid to tell your friends about something that your partner did to you because you are afraid they will think badly of your partner, that’s a red flag.

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so they put up these new signs at the ima and they make the whole thing feel very alice in wonderland kind of

but the ones with words on them are really great

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GUYS the 80s are back!!!!

Star Wars, high waisted jeans, over sized sweaters, flannels, horrible republican government, conflict with Russia, the ever impending threat of Nuclear Anihilation, scrunchies,

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The more I observe the different ways people approach interpersonal relationships, the more it seems to me that the ones with the healthiest, smoothest love lives (monogamous or non) are the ones with an ability to let things roll off them. Not grasping; having a light touch. 

Don’t get me wrong: I’m a major champion of not letting things fester, not repressing, not shaming yourself for having needs or wants in relationships. I’m 100% in favor of communicating and advocating for what will make you happiest–in big ways or little. Sometimes you need to ask for a change. Sometimes you need to ask for reassurance. All A-OK and also super-important to having healthy, functional relationships.

What I’m talking about is knowing how to triage. Figuring out the difference between those things–the ones you need to devote attention and possibly conversation to–and the things that just aren’t worth getting worked up about. Knowing when to let go–in ways big (e.g., moving on after an ended relationship) or small (e.g., not making a big deal out of the inevitable discomforts that crop up sometimes in non-monogamy even when everyone’s operating in good faith).

Because making a big deal out of everything can be exhausting and has the potential to do serious damage to relationships. And some people seem to operate this way on an ongoing basis. And I get it, because tbh, I’m a catastrophizer. I have anxiety, and my mind naturally latches onto the worst-case scenario (not just in interpersonal matters–across different areas of life). So, I am totally familiar with the desire to make mountains out of molehills. I’m genuinely proud of myself every time my brain starts to go there and I walk myself back from it. Because sometimes, it doesn’t need to be a thing. Acknowledging this is a scary thing, and I think it’s related to humility: telling my ego to simmer down. It’ll be okay. You can take a backseat.

But the times when I’m able to do this are so empowering because they’re a reminder that I’m resilient. 

You are too, by the way.

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So you should convince yourself that they are sparking joy, and you should prioritize their status, because they are making your day, everyday. Then, gradually, you will start seeing some sparking joy concepts from those items.

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sleepovers when ur little: omg ms bukket is SUCH a mean teacher >:( she yelled at me

sleepovers now: i dont think im capable of love

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 “So I’m being held, and every person in this body is being held to a higher ethical standard than the President of the United States?”

“That’s right, ‘cause there are some ethics committee rules that apply to you.”

“And it’s already super legal, as we’ve seen, for me to be a pretty bad guy, so it’s even easier for the President of the United States to be one, I would assume.”

“That’s right.”

“Thank you very much.”

Rep. Ocasio-Cortez Exposes the Problem of Dark Money in Politics

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Lissajous curve table

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The single greatest shot in cinematic history is when Wesley confidently asserts, “Rodents Of Unusual Size? I don’t think they exist” and then the ROUS dive bombs him out of fucking nowhere and tackles him to the ground. Die mad about it.

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Cats don’t always make the best dogs

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by Mehmet Geren | Prints available here: www.curioos.com/mehmetgeren