radiant-system

[radiant-system]

I dislike Sophie for like a million reasons at this point but no matter how horrible you think she is, misgendering her isn't okay.

[radiant-system]

Here's to the systems whose trauma is "weird."

Those who have unusual or highly specific triggers. Who weren't traumatized by abuse. Or who were traumatized by abuse, but not in the "beaten half to death" way people think. Who aren't sure if they're allowed to call what happened to them terms like assault, trauma, or abuse. Who gained trauma from the things that seem so little to everyone else, but were a big deal to them. Who had people who cared about them, but couldn't provide them with what they needed. Who watched their caretakers fall short. Who are triggered into rage, delusions, or otherwise "strange" reactions by triggers instead of breakdowns. Who have difficulty eating. Who hoard or are excessively minimalist. Who suffer from intrusive thoughts. Who remember the details of their trauma at the worst possible times. Who can't trust those around them even when those around them are kind. Who got trauma from the ignorance of those around or discrimination directed at them. Who don't know what they want to do in life because they didn't think they'd get this far.

Not having trauma that perfectly fits the conventional mold can make you feel alone. But you're not. There are people out there who have gone through similar things and understand. There are opportunities out there for you to recover and find a life where you're satisfied. Trauma is hard to face, especially when it's not what people expect, but you're not a bad person for having "weird" trauma.

Life was tough on you. Don't join its side and help beat yourself down.

[radiant-system]

Might as well just throw this into the universe. I'm a Chuuya fictive looking for other bsd fictionfolk to chat with, hmu

[radiant-system]

I dislike all prescriptivism in system spaces. Our system operates based on complete anarchy (except for we don't do drugs) so the hosts naturally will end up making most decisions and doing the most uni work and keeping track of the schedule because they're the ones available most of the time and we don't control switching. We can't just push everything off until someone else is available as to not overwhelm the hosts. Not everything will work for everyone.

[radiant-system]

For everyone who needs to see this, from an introject to an introject (from fictive to fictive, if I am to be more specific):

If you're not source separated and you have identity issues due to not acting "canonically" in real life situations, I want you to know it's fine. The circumstances change, and we need to adapt. Masking for safety is fine.

You don't have to constantly act "canonically" to stay yourself. You are still yourself.

[radiant-system]

"Dissociation" as a term is kind of in a weird position compared to a lot of other medical terms that slowly enter public knowledge, because people expect it to be misused like OCD and delusions and so on; they assume people are using it for situations where it doesn't apply, that they are "watering down" an important concept. But the thing with dissociation is no, all these people who are using the term "dissociation" lightly are also using it correctly.

Zoning out is a form of dissociation. Daydreaming is a form of dissociation. Dissociation covers a lot of different things, from complex disorders to everyday behavior. People aren't "misusing a serious term" when they describe these experiences as dissociation, and they aren't hurting anyone who experiences more severe forms of dissociation by doing so. I'm not offended when people without DID describe their daydreams as dissociation, I'm happy that they can recognize there are healthy and everyday forms of dissociation, and so when they encounter dissociation in the context of trauma or a disorder, it hopefully won't be as scary to them.

This is a "yes and" situation, not a "no but" situation. Yes, zoning out is a form of dissociation! And this is how I experience "zoning out" as someone with a dissociative disorder! I'm glad you now have a better understanding of medical terminology and will hopefully be able to better understand any medical texts you come across in the future

If you're looking for people misusing "dissociation", I assure you there are still plenty of people who associate any mention of it with senseless violence. How about we tackle that first before deciding the word for a spectrum can only be used to describe the most extreme forms of it

[radiant-system]

If you're not supportive of all types of endogenics, particularly the created ones like tulpamancers and parogens and willos and soulbonders, please do not use the endo safe tags. Endo safe means safe for ALL endogenics.

[radiant-system]

I think it's stupid how the seemingly default defense for "weird" identities is "it's okay if some kid identifies as [insert xenogender here] or identifies with another species, they're harmless (implicit 'and they'll get over it), leave them alone" . you also need to be kind and normal towards adults with those identities and you need to get over the idea that people with "odd" identities will surely change eventually. i know so many adult therians + people who id with xenogenders and it's rude to pretend that it's just a childish thing that people will get over eventually.

[radiant-system]

the process of confirming a kin happens in two parts, ‘hey look at this little guy’ and ‘oh no’

[radiant-system]

If you believe that having a disorder or diagnosis is required to validly identify as a fictional character, I encourage you to reflect on the reasons behind this belief. This perspective speaks more to your own internal process than it does to those of us who base our identity on a profound understanding of ourselves. Having been part of these communities for an extended period, I advise against adopting labels simply to appear more legitimate than others. This approach will not bring you closer to your true self; rather, it will distance you. You may find yourself engaging in spaces that do not provide meaningful value to you or others, and the lack of genuine depth will drive you to continuously seek new labels of legitimacy. Thus, the cycle will continue.

[radiant-system]

u ever think about the super intense host-centricism involved in most fakeclaiming, likee.. The immediate assumption that the host is the "real" one, the way collective blogs get targeted way more than ones for specific alters/headmates, how fakeclaiming is almost always phrased towards trying to put the host into denial, etc... Like maybe it's because a lot of fakeclaimers aren't used to treating their headmates as equals, or because they expect "fakers" to "play host"... It's like the host is the only one they can conceptualize as the "real one", maybe? but I also think it's cus there's an uncomfortable reality lots of fakeclaimers don't want to acknowledge. It's way easier to say to someone "you're imagining people who don't exist" than "you don't exist". They don't want to think about the fact that they're telling those they're talking to that they, flat out, do not exist as themselves at all. It's probably also the reason most fakeclaimers who do target them won't misgender non-host headmates even in the same breath as discounting them. Because using the host's pronouns for another headmate is a whole nother level of discounting someone's existence, and deep down they know it's not right. Now if only they'd listen to that feeling lol

[radiant-system]

Bangs head into a wall

For the 500th time. Can we not. Call pro endo traumagenic systems endos.

Whether you intend it to be or not, doing that is fakeclaiming their trauma. It is saying that you do not believe their system was actually formed by trauma.

Stop it.

[radiant-system]

"Endogenic systems can't have DID"

someone diagnosed with DID, who did have trauma, who struggles with symptoms every day of their life

doesn't have to use the term traumagenic

they don't have to

labels are self identifiable, they're not something set in stone - ardyn

[radiant-system]

Some additional reminders on top of the already given 'not everyone's tolerance for splitting is the same, some people split over more minor things'

A. Not everyone shares what is stressing them out or that they even have been stressed out publicly on the internet every time they experience stress

B. Not everyone knows when a split occurs right away. Which can easily lead a system to think a split occurred over something more 'minor' than it actually did, or even seemingly out of nowhere at all.

[radiant-system]

Actually, I think any plural person should be able to post on Tumblr about their own experience without being told they are "invading a space".

Mainly because plurality is such a deeply internal experience, and I hate the idea that only plurals with a high enough approval rate should be allowed to speak openly about what goes on in their head without being called an intruder.

But also because Tumblr is not a closed space. Tumblr is not a closed community.

[radiant-system]

maybe its time to shelve the "unpopular opinion, if you [vague or subjective experience], you dont have [mental disorder]" post format, its almost like its needlessly hostile and also almost an entirely pointless opinion to express unless youre just trying to upset people who might technically fall under the criteria presented

[radiant-system]

It is not uncommon to feel deep shame about DID or adjacent disorders. Many people with C-PTSD feel shame in generalized aspects of their life, and in DID that seems to tend to manifest in shame about alters. It does not mean you're faking. Take care of yourselves.