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okay, you know what? Running away shouldn’t be a crime. It shouldn’t be dangerous, either. Any kid should be able to leave their parents if they want, for any reason. No I’m not kidding.

“But Rue, where will these kids stay? Do you want them on the streets?”

of course not. In an ideal world, a kids would have multiple adults other than their parents they could look to for care, but I recognize that that will never be a reality for every single child. So: youth shelters, if they have nowhere else to go. There should be clean, warm shelters where anyone under 18 can stay for as long as they need, no questions asked. (And of course shelters that aren’t just for kids, but we’re talking about youth rights right now)

“But Rue,” I hear you say, “what if some moody teenager runs away after an argument?”

First of all, I’d rather a thousand moody teenagers run away than one abused child be trapped. Second, so what if one does? A kid needs time away from their parents, so they leave. The vast majority of them will get some time to cool down and then go back home, and if they don’t want to go back, period? Then nine times out of ten, they have a good reason. (Because yes, as hard as it is for you to believe, kids are humans who have common sense.)

“Okay, but what about the one time out of ten the kid doesn’t have a good reason?”

Then the kid doesn’t have a good reason. It doesn’t change anything. If someone wants to break up with their partner because of something stupid, you wouldn’t say they legally shouldn’t be able to. (And if you would, then you’re just a bad person.) No one should have to be in a relationship, romantic or otherwise, that they don’t want to be in.

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On the heels of my poll that had tumblr showing as 76% White, I’d like to tell y’all about the BIPOC Attention Tax.

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The BIPOC Attention Tax fucks up all BIPOC, but it fucks up trans BIPOC in particular due to being multiply marginalized. It’s the penalty you pay in engagement for being non-white on social media, taken in less shares/visibility.

While the BIPOC Attention Tax affects most BIPOC, it affects SWers, content creators, and those who rely on mutual aid the most. You have to share our stuff more than you think. You have to reply to us more than you think. It’s in how we watch smaller white accounts double our size in no time at all but if our accounts show any sign of being BIPOC we lag behind.

We’re societally conditioned to pay more attention to the thin, white, conventionally attractive folks and amplify them. While this ain’t their fault, it does mean *you* need to put active effort into subverting that urge and be conscious of who/how you’re interacting with.

Don’t just like posts from BIPOC folks, stop worrying about your “profile aesthetic”, sharing a post literally takes 3 seconds and especially in the case of SW and MA can literally keep folks housed, fed, alive. Our content, our art, our lives and survival fucking matter.

White trans folks have more options to leverage their whiteness to escape the states criminalizing transition, medical care, existing in public while trans. Not only do TBIPOC suffer the effects of poverty more/worse, but the BIPOC Attention Tax makes crowdfunding/mutual aid much harder as well.

Even in terms of just bullshit discourse, TBIPOC will often get higher rates of harassment at lower follower counts than their white counterparts, without the “benefits” of easier/more successful SW or MA that come at the higher follower counts, increasing the toll for staying.

Many of the white folks I see on social media (including tumblr), especially white trans folks, will have one or two token BIPOC moots they keep around because they’re hot or funny, and otherwise have no BIPOCs in their groups, networks, etc.

Ask yourself, how many BIPOC folks would call YOU their friend?

I know shit is hard right now and we wanna escape and pretend things ain’t happening but the longer we do that, the more of us die or disappear without anyone knowing or noticing. But we can at least be more intentional in who we engage with and support, even if it’s just sharing/boosting.

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Devastated that rbs were turned off. I need this on my blog.

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TW; rape, racially based SA, racial violence, DV, sui

Talking to another Black transfemme rn about some shit she went through and just.

It makes me so sick every time I have to tell yet another Black transfemme that unless we are REALLY well-liked in community, basically anyone can rape or use us freely with no consequences because we will almost always only be believed if it’s another Black person involved.

I can’t count the number of times I’ve “technically” been raped because I recognized I was in a situation with someone nonblack (mainly white) where I couldn’t safely say no because if I did they could just do it anyway and get away with it, or accuse me of shit and be believed.

Fuck, I got sexually assaulted earlier this year by a white I had just started trusting, only for her to later claim I was the one who did it and for people to blame me bc I wasn’t the one who came out first. Fuck, I got told that because of my “pattern of behavior” (people lying about me) I couldn’t possibly be a victim, by someone else I trusted. And just.

I’m so tired of nobody believing me when I talk about being sexually assaulted ever. Fuck I’ve had people who didn’t even know her claim my most abusive ex, who I have proof of beating me/serial raping me, was REALLY my victim and I was trying to “preemptively DARVO” her before she could come out about me.

And that really fucked me up bc like. I was functionally enslaved by her and that’s not hyperbole. Fuck, the one time I tried to run with nothing but my clothes I was wearing after she beat me in public, she literally hunted me down in her car as I ran through fields and suburb alleys/streets to escape her. She trapped me after I made a wrong turn and forced me to come back, so I just… gave up on escaping.

Besides beating me, she used to rape me by saying she’d self harm or attempt if I didn’t fuck her, and a few times by saying she’d call the cops if I didn’t do what she wanted bc they’d never believe a 6’4” Black “Man” was the victim.

This is just something nonblacks do to us. No it’s not right or how things should be, but it’s how things are. Black transfemmes are basically free use sex toys whether we want it or not and it fucking sucks. I’m so tired of getting raped by whites.

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ok guys im gonna go to sleep early tonight so i can finally get good rest gnight :)

ⓘ Fact check: This user intends to go to their room and take apart their old Yamaha EZ-200 keyboard in their underwear.

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one time this japanese fujoshi i follow on twitter posted "the bottom should have a bigger dick so that you can watch it bounce while they get fucked and the top should have a smaller dick so that it can go in easier. uke dicks should be big and decorative and seme dicks should be average size and functional" and honestly her mind

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youre monogamous? oh… it’s ethical, right? ethical monogamy? okay good for you! i mean pretty much every monogamous couple i’ve met didn’t work out but maybe you guys will beat the odds! haha. so is it a sex thing? you guys have sex with- just each other? huh. how does that work? i could never do monogamy, i’m too jealous, i’d worry my partner would leave me for someone else instead of dating us both… how do you deal with the jealousy? is it hard? like, how hard? extremely? do you think you’ll break up? i mean in the long run these things rarely work out,

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I get that this is mostly a me thing but seeing so many posts making fun of "holy blood cannibalism pomegranate deer" style writing just makes me sad ;-; . guys that's a lot of people's first stab at poetry that's hobby art that's a vulnerable thing to post those are passion projects...

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Hey im gana leave my dog here can you keep her safe?🐕

yes yes of course i will keep your dog safe

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Fresh off the market this ->🐕 little dog now only $4.99! Get in quick!

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This may be the worst use of LLMs anyone has attempted, ever. Up there with recognizing mushrooms.

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anyway you should always remember that all those foreigners you see dying on the news are just as real people as you are who have just as much interiority as you do. there is nothing about you that makes you more important and it is by pure chance that you are not in their position. in fact, this holds for all of history. every person, no matter the horror of the fate that befell them, had just as much interiority as you do. i feel like some people haven't fully internalized this.

EDIT: let's use this post for something good. if you are considering being annoying in my notes, please instead consider donating to gaza soup kitchen. thanks!

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Official ominous sign

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