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[ramithetradfem]

I'm glad that this account is deactivated, because the things written here are incredibly disrespectful to husband and wife.

1. Homecooked meals are good and everyone loves them but there is nothing wrong with food that is frozen or takeout, especially in our current economy. If you have the ability to make a new dish everyday that's amazing but I grew up in a household where we made one dish on Sunday and that lasted us the entire week until Thursday and then Friday was pizza night which was awesome. If you can't cook everyday that is okay. It is an important skill to have but everyday is not a requirement.

2. My future husband's career goals are indeed not mine. They are his. His accomplishments are his and I will celebrate them of course but they are not mine to have and I don't have to put anything on the back burner for him. As the provider it is his job to build up his own career. And for me to assume that duty is to see him as inept and that is highly disrespectful.

3. If you and your husband choose the dynamic that his last word goes, then of course that is after a discussion is had. If you have made the discussion and you want him to have the final say then that is what it will be. But the obedience is key thing? We are not dogs and it is okay to have disagreements. That's the point of being human. You don't have to listen to a man who's giving you terrible advice or is doing things that isn't for the well-being of your family. Submissiveness is earned. a woman will not feel comfortable letting a man lead if he is shown to be inept. And in that moment she will have to go back to her masculine because if he can't take care of the family then she will.

4. Anytime someone asks you to do something or if you ask them to do something then you are supposed to give a confirmation that you heard what they said that's a given. And as a southern girly we always say yes ma'am no ma'am, yes sir no sir that's just being respectful. If you tell your husband to do something then he should also respond in kind.

5. This goes for both men and women. Men should not be raising their voices and yelling at women and women shouldn't nag a man you tell him a good one or two times and if he doesn't do the action that you need him to do, then there is another man who will. But also listen to his reasoning And listen to her reasoning. But if it's gone for months and months and that item still isn't fixed or task isn't finished. Then I would say bring someone else in to do it if he won't do it. Another man will and that's disappointing for him but you can't let your home go into disarray because he doesn't want to do something.

6. When it comes to marital relations, a woman's pleasure does not come just from the satisfaction she gives her husband. It is a mutual thing. When a man and woman are married, they become one flesh. You give yourself to your husband and your husband gives himself to you. It is mutual. And this honestly sounds very disrespectful to men because they are not dogs. They're not wild beasts that have to be tamed. Continued coupling is important because it builds the relationship and keeps your bond alive. But if there are circumstances where that can't happen then that is okay. We are human at the end of the day.

7. I have no arguments on the last part. It is very important to keep a household tidy. Your home is where you are most comfortable. And so it is everyone's job in that home to keep it tidy. Once a woman has cleaned then everything else is maintaining it. That means that the husband isn't throwing his laundry on the ground because the ground has already been cleaned and thus needs to be maintained. That means the husband isn't putting his dirty dishes filling up the sink. Instead they will go in the dishwasher. Why? To maintain a clean area. Once you use it, put it back where it was or clean it up. If you use something and that will maintain the home and keep things clean. If a woman has to deep clean her house everyday then there's a problem.

The original post in my opinion is disrespectful to both husband and wife. It demeans the wife and degrades the husband to a mere animal who can't do anything for himself. Husband should be a provider and protector to his family and not just provide money but emotional support and helps his wife when she needs it. A woman supports her husband but his accomplishments are not hers just like her accomplishments are not his. The few accomplishments that they share together are the ones where it belongs to both of them such as having a new child or buying a home together and getting married.

Submissive Housewife Truths (that may take some getting used to)

📌 Home cooked meals are a necessity. If you are a homemaker you should not be ordering food in or picking up take-out.

📌 Your husband’s career goals are now your goals as well. You may have to put your own career aspirations on the back burner until your children are in school full time or no longer living in the house.

📌 Your husband has the final say in household/familial issues and your obedience is key.

📌 Always respond “yes” or “okay” when your husband asks something of you. This displays respect.

📌 Your tone will either foster communication or set it back; in essence your tone sets the tempo of the relationship. Be cognizant of the manner in which you speak to your husband. Aggressive and nagging speech can negatively affect your marriage.

📌 Your husband should always be sexually satiated…if he is not it is up to you to reevaluate how you can better please him. Your pleasure should be derived from pleasing him.

📌 A disorganized home breeds chaos and unrest. Always do your best to clean the house as best you can.

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Happy to be in school and slowly finding the love of my life. Hopefully by this time next year I'll be married ☺️

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Please don't come to my page if you hate women. If you hate women or western women then this page is not for you. Because I am indeed like other girls. If you think that I'm different just because I believe in traditional roles and traditional femininity then you are completely wrong. I am a western woman and proud to be one.

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love your blog but I just disagree a bit.

first of all what about moms who die, or moms who are drug/alcohol addicts or pedophilia moms and dads??

I know the system needs a lot of improvement, but many do try to work hard at prioritizing families staying together more than they did in even just the late 80s. However Id argue it's lead to grandparents breaking the laws and letting parents who abused their kids back with them.

I think anyone who can afford it especially since inflation and now tax increases, must have good intentions a lot of the times. They are checked more often than regular parents at least.

My priests have always approved of adoption, not surrogacy or IVF, but adoption is good regardless of their age, babies are in high demand because most of us want to experience it all from babyhood, and because some of them aren't equipped to handle older children who were aware of their abuse. Even though babies can be affected it's not often remembered.

When I say that I'm against infant adoption I'm not talking about in those circumstances. Although I would prefer for an infant to be adopted within their own family. Unless it is shown that other members of their family are not able to take care of the baby then they should be adopted out. But my main issue is the babies that are born and immediately given to adoptive families, while it is helpful for mothers if they know that they don't want their babies there is something insidious about finding a pregnant mother who is struggling and taking her baby.

During covid there was a shortage of babies because so many moms could actually afford to take care of their babies. As altruistic as people want to make it seem they purposefully avoid the older children in order to not have to deal with their trauma because they don't believe babies have any but they do. Until a baby is 6 months old they believe that they are a part of their mom and if their mom isn't there, they genuinely believe that she's dead.

That is a hard thing for a baby to go through and to do it casually is the problem. If a baby is unwanted, yes they should go where they are loved. But we really should reconsider and actually take a good look at why these mothers can't take care of their babies. Why she feels she has to give that baby away. Because most of the time it's due to economic factors, they can't afford their baby and so people who have money to adopt take said infant. But the money that they spent to adopt the infant could have been given to those moms and they would have been able to keep their babies. And then it becomes an even bigger issue when you have things like closed adoptions where babies no aren't allowed to see their mothers and will never get to know her until they're almost adults. That child is missing out on their family on their culture and it's happened throughout history for a while. It happened to baby girls in China and especially in the 1900s where women who had babies out of wedlock were forced to give up their babies and those babies were trafficked across the United States for wealthy people in Hollywood.

Adoption is amazing when it is done humanely. But many of these adoptions are not done because they want to improve the life of the child. It is done to fulfill the wishes of the prospective parents. They wanted a fresh cute baby so they get one and then expect that baby to be grateful and many are. But there are those who aren't and I'm here to speak for those people. They are told to feel grateful that they were wanted but in reality they were bought and sold and that's something that has to end. If we're going to adopt then make it free do all the background checks you need but we shouldn't be buying and selling children.

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“Frequently, sex education deals primarily with “protection” through the practice of “safe sex”. Such expressions convey a negative attitude towards the natural procreative finality of sexuality, as if an eventual child were an enemy to be protected against. This way of thinking promotes narcissism and aggressivity in place of acceptance.”

— Pope Francis, Amoris Laetitia

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This is going to be controversial but my page has always been a place for women, motherhood and families. And with that, I will always say that surrogacy is one of the greatest evils to ever exist.

Surrogacy, infant adoption, sperm donation and egg donation. With surrogacy and infant adoption, it is the buying and selling of children and people do not care about how the children feel in the slightest. We don't even take a puppy away from their mother before 8 weeks old and yet you will give a fresh newborn away to basically strangers regardless of if that's their biological parents or not. People their need or want of a child before the health and safety and mental health of a baby. There are plenty of children older children who are still waiting to be adopted and yet these people will fight tooth and nail for a baby because they believe they don't have to deal with any trauma. The trauma that these babies go through will be pushed under the rug. We know that baby search for their mothers when they first come out and that that's the only person that they have known.

The babys know their mother's heartbeat and don't even realize that they're not the same person until about 6 months old and yet you will give them up to a stranger. Who does this benefit? Yes, infertility is a sad fact of life, but that doesn't mean you get to traumatize new human beings for your selfishness.

We are out here making giant sibling pods of people who are related to each other and yet don't know each other because they have the same father or the same mother and these people live in the same communities. So what would happen over time? Yet these are your children yet you are willing to just give them up to anyone so they can so-called make a family you have no control over what happens to them and you leave it up to chance.

Now there will be people who grew up like this and say that they are just fine and it is so amazing for those people. I am happy for all the people who don't have to face the trauma or don't have to realize the trauma of growing up this way. But for those who do have that trauma who don't push it down and they feel it. I pray for you and I am so sorry that your parents did that to you. I hope that you can find your biological parents one day or your surrogate parent. I hope that you can get that genetic testing that many of them aren't allowed to receive because the sperm donors say that they don't want their information out. I hope that you can find your grandparents and other members of your family and I hope that you don't end up marrying your sibling due to other people's irresponsibility and lack of humanity.

This was harsh and my words on this will always be harsh because humans are not made to be bought and sold and no one should be told that they should feel grateful for being chosen.

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If we want to go even farther, I'd say midwife

The oldest profession is gardener, but go off I guess

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REBLOG IF ITS OKAY TO TALK TO YOU.

Please.

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why do you hate women?

What exactly about my page would make you believe that I hate women? For one. I am a woman and my page is about promoting femininity, especially in a group that wasn't allowed that AKA black women. I've been in this lifestyle since I was 17 and now I'm 23 and I'm still the same way. Is this a new trend or something? Because every couple of years we're popular and then we're hated again.

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I feel so happy, my heart is full and I've been brought to tears, this lady has been baptized in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ

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New year and the hope for a bright future

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