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I genuinely think if you want to have kids, you should have a list of at least a dozen people who you would trust at the drop of a hat to pick your kid up or take care of them in an emergency. Family, friends, neighbors - you need to start building your village so when you have a kid somebody can bring a meal, or help around the house postpartum, or take an older child on short notice in case of an emergency.

And be ready to be that person for others - even if you are child-free for life, look out for your pregnant, postpartum, adopting, and child-rearing community members and see if they need support.

And don't come on my post and say "don't have a kid unless you can care for them alone." It's just not true. A single person given full responsibility for the life of a child (especially an infant) can become a danger to themselves and their kids. They are the primary caregiver, not the only one. In many cultures (and among the wealthy in every culture) it is normal to hire people to assist with children, especially newborns, whose care equates to a full-time job.

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hold on. hold. the. phone. teletubby fanfic author, i 100% slept with the guy who has your fanfic when i was in college. multiple times. unless there's another owen out there with a backpack-and-binder-crumpled copy of your fic. it was hilarious btw, what a gift to this world.

@idieonthishill owen has been found

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somewhere out there right now is a kid with curly hair being raised by people who have wavy hair at best and those people are giving them 2-in-1 shampoo and conditioner and telling them to dry brush it. and that kid is gonna spend all of middle school and high school hating their hair and moping over the flat iron. they're being told right now that if they don't dry-brush their curl pattern into oblivion every morning it means they're unkempt and gross even though they naturally have the kind of ringlets that a thousand bridezillas would commit horrible murders for every june. it's happening right now it's an absolute epidemic and a tragedy every time

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#this scene is everything Derry Girls | 3x05

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lake wants to kill and gnash and gnash my bones I think

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I dueled a wasp with my katana for 45 minutes and i lost

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i know yall love sharing items from small shops and supporting small businesses and small creators is great, but yall really need to stop sharing items from resin shops that make resin dishware and cutlery until you do further research.

there is a food safe resin, HOWEVER, the vast majority of shops will not be using it. its extremely fucking expensive, and to remain food safe, any dyes or additives used must also be food safe, and the piece will have to have been mixed and cured correctly. anything wrong in that process, and it's no longer food safe.

the vast majority of resins, especially those cheap enough for artists and small creators to regularly use, is poisonous. its a carcinogen. it will leech chemicals, even if given a clear coat or varnish, and you can get very sick very fucking quickly from eating or drinking anything that came into contact with it, and long term exposure could very well kill you- this isn't taking into account any additives to the resin, dyes, or colorants either, the vast majority of those are not regulated for food use.

an absolute boom in resin crafters from over quarantine hasn't helped this situation either. many simply do not know or do not care and will sell items that are suspect at best. partially cured pieces, bad molds, just plain inappropriate items used in resin crafting have gotten very common over the past few years, and still are.

TL;DR: Most resins are NOT food safe, and are incredibly toxic. Do not buy or share anything made of it for food use. Shops selling appropriate food safe resin items will be flat out about it, and are going to be extremely expensive.

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they always make studio ghibli food look so delicious

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"Lesbian means exclusive attraction to women!"

"No, it means non-men exclusively attracted to non-men!"

"It actually means queer attraction to women!"

"Lesbian means women and nonbinary people being exclusively attracted to other women and nonbinary people!"

Lesbian is a multifaceted label that can describe many different experiences. There is no one perfect definition of lesbian that will encompass the entire diverse experiences that lesbians can have.

I'm personally a genderqueer woman who's exclusively attracted to other women, but the lesbian next to me might be a transmasc lesbian who loves all genders except for men. And the lesbian next to them might be a bigender lesbian who's both a girl and a boy, who's exclusively attracted to women. Our experiences can all be described by the term lesbian if that's how we wish to describe it, but we might define it differently based on our own experiences. And guess what?

None of our definitions are wrong, but none of our definitions will encompass every other lesbian's experiences. A word can have multiple definitions without any of the definitions being wrong. And those definitions can be very vague or very specific. Labels are made to fit us- we aren't made to fit labels.

People who may have a different experience with the lesbian label are not your enemies. People in lesbian spaces who aren't exactly like you are not your enemies. The problem comes when you try to force one singular definition on every single lesbian. THAT is harmful. Sending death threats to other lesbians because they don't have the same experience as you is harmful. Not another lesbian having a different experience from you.

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i come from the 8tracks generation where you weren't allowed to just dump three and a half twee indie folk/tswift records into a fanmix and call it done. on 8tracks you had 8+ handpicked songs in rigid chronological order and an accompanying mission statement and thesis defence detailing exactly why each one applied to your derek x stiles coffee shop au AND cover/track-list art hodgepodged from stolen pinterest/tumblr aesthetic photography, and all of this was done under constant threat of death because it was the DMCA wild west and the site was in a constant state of gradual collapse.

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knight who is constantly searching for a good and noble king to serve but cannot fucking find one for the life of him so he has to become the good and noble king himself.

and now all these other knights are coming around like "please let me serve you" and like obviously hes going to let them serve him thats the point of being a good and noble king but its also. very annoying. one of you become the good and noble king for once lets trade

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people will say they love butches then the butchest they can stand is that one pic of sabrina carpenter in a suit. like, give me a he/him butch with top surgery, a packer, a beer gut, and a full beard NEOW!!

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im gods weakest faggot