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Multiromantic Monosexual Pride Flag

Monosexual: sexual attraction to one gender.

Multiromantic: romantic attraction to multiple genders.

Monoromantic Multisexual Pride Flag

Multi-: attraction to more than one gender.

Mono-: attracted to only one gender.

Source (by r/Holiday-Bag-9220)

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Happy Pride Month!

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Long live Pride 🏳️‍🌈🫶

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My versions of the orientation flags for the split attraction model

I made these flags for the split attraction model. I wanted to have as many different orientations as possible in one conistent way for different attraction types. I did not make all of these flags but most. Some have strong similarities to existing one's but I changed some since I really wanted a consistend way of representing someone's orientation who is using the split attraction model. Most of these omni flags[link] were my reference for the different attraction types, however I already posted my omniqueerplatonic version on here and also for the alterous flag I chose a different blue tone. This will be the first post including bi, pan and poly. More will follow. For all orientations this will be the order of the flags: sexual, romantic, platonic, alterous, sensual, aesthetic and queerplatonic. The last flag is omnioriented[link] which is a label for when all of your attraction types are the same. So for example when someone is pansexual, panromantic, panplatonic, panqueerplatonic, pansensual, etc. they are omnioriented pan.

Bi-

Pan-

Poly-

[Discriptor for all flags: All flags are their usual colors but have in additional stripes on the top and bottom. These are the colors: sexual purple, romantic green, platonic yellow, queerplatonic has four additional stripes where the two outer ones are light pink and the other two are light yellow, alterous light blue, sensual orange, aesthetic pink, omnioriented has also four additional stipes, the outer ones are black and the other are pink.]

This is pt. 1

Pt. 2 including omni, homo and hetero is here[link]

Pt. 3 including different lesbian flags is here [link]

Pt. 4 including two gay flags and turian is here[link]

Pt. 5 including sapphic, achillean and diamoric is here[link]

Pt. 6 including diasapph, diachillean and sapphillean is here[link]

Pt. 7 including sapphilliamoric, gai and strayt is here[link]

Pt. 8 including three enbian versions is here[link]

Pt. 9 including neptunic, uranic and saturnic is here[link]

Pt. 10 including abro, abroflux and biflux is here[link]

Pt. 11 including panflux, polyflux and omniflux is here[here]

Pt. 12 including inclusive lesbian, vincian and questioning is here[link]

Pt. 13 including homoflexible, lesbiflexible and gayflexible is here[link]

Pt. 14 including three versions of heteroflexible is here[link]

Pt. 15 including two straightbian versions and lesboy is here[link]

Pt. 16 including two straightcian versions and turigirl is here[link]

Pt. 17 including gaybian, gayhet/straightgay and heterogaybian/ straightlaurian is here[link]

Pt. 18 including stellian, lunian and solian is here[link]

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The violet sapphic flag

I decided to start work on a sapphic flag, as the original one did not feel inclusive to masculine presenting sapphics. The inclusive sapphic flag also felt too random for me to feel aligned, so I spent time researching a flag design

Excuse any spelling mistakes, English isn't my first language.

Info below. Original thread here. Tiktok version [ without typos ]

1. Why violets ?

The poetry of Sapphos often included talk of violet crowns, with one of her famous poems reading ;

` … Many crowns of violets,

roses and crocuses

…together you set before more

and many scented wreaths

made from blossoms

around your soft throat… `

Violets historically are considered a symbol of sapphic love and the LGBT movement, and are seen in pop culture, such as the cult classic lesbian movie, Bound. A 1926 play also involved a woman sending violets to another, as a potential nod to Sapphos. When the poem was censored / boycotted, women would send violets in support.

To say violets were not a part of LGBT + , and primarily spaphic / lesbian history would be a false statement.

2. Why these colours ?

I colour picked from violets themselves, primarily the African and common violet. One for their inclusion of white, and the other for its range of hues from more blue to magenta. I felt they could align with the various presentations seen within sapphic culture, as I myself ID as transmasculine / presently as a soft butch. There are those who are transfemme, femme, masc, androgynous, etc., and this various spectrum of colours I feel could align with how the community is not just one, but various shade of violet.

I spent time researching LGBT history, and have come up with meanings for these specific colours. They were carefully chosen for both traditional colour meanings, as well as symbolisms that align with the LGBT+ community.

From lavander to pink, both colours have a history of representing the community, and have become symbols reclaimed. From sapphos flowers, to the pink triangle, it is important to remember our history and struggles. Pink triangles itself was used as a symbol for transwomen, as an identifier for example [ as well as gay individuals, but this isn't about them at this time ] , but have been reclaimed to represent lgbt+ rights and our struggles. It is important to never forget those who came before us.

Each colour was picked based off traditional meanings, as well as identifying traits of the community.

3. Colour meanings?

From top to bottom, these colour meanings are ;

1. Femininity, health.

Pink is associated with femininity, so this is for the purely femme presenting individuals, whether trans, nb, or however they ID. It also is the colour of love, and health [ ex , ` everything is rosy ` meaning good ] .

2. Love, compassion.

A lighter shade of pink is usually associated with love, and with love comes compassion and understanding.

3. Youth and age.

From our lives comes the fact that, we as sapphics, lesbians, etc. know that deep down, this is who we truly are. Whether you're young, or come to the realization later, we live life as our authentic self. May we grow old and happy.

4. Limitless potential.

With those who are not afraid to break the gender / sexual binary, and present in ways uncaring of societal norms.

Whether trans, nonbinary, asexual, or uncaring of labels, I hope you find who you truly are.

5. Soft masculinity.

To be soft and masculine is frowned upon in society, but some of us present in ways that we deem just right. It is an oxymoron on many levels to those who do not understand, but we are indifferent and stand tall.

6. Wisdom.

With our history, we can learn and grow, it is important to never forget it. Ever on we march to assure that we are treated as equals.

7. Serenity, masculinity.

A nod to the original flag that brought us here, while also representing the other side of the spectrum for fully masc individuals. Once again, this is for those in the trans umbrella, or comfortable in their gender.

4. Who can use it ?

Sapphics or anyone who falls into that general category.

TERF / SWERFS / anyone not inclusive of the trans community are not permitted.

Please do not use if m - spec lesbian.

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AlloAce

An Alloromantic Asexual

AroAllo

An Aromantic Allosexual

Symbols

Left AlloAce and Right AroAllo

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Mspec Heterosexual flags!

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um my ask isn't about bisexuality but i'm hoping you or anyone else can help... is it a bad thing to not want to have sex at all with anyone?? I've been celibate forever bc I've always chosen that route and am happy with that and I have no desire to do anything sexual with anyone. I don't have any sexual trauma, would my situation be considered "asexuality"? I've seen ppl who call themselves asexuals but have a ton of sex so Idk if that term would even fit my situation tbh :/

there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to have sex, (even ever) you don’t have to put a label on it

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i was lurking on your blog but i still can’t understand can i be bisexual with no sexual attraction toward males?i can’t feel anything when i look at them and I can’t imagine having sex with men but i can perfectly imagine myself having sex with women

you’re not giving full info, i’m assuming you’re attracted to men but don’t want to sleep with them? that attraction (even if sex/sexual attraction isn’t involved) is still attraction

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does liking physical affection from an opposite sex friend make you bisexual? like i have no romantic or sexual attraction to a guy friend of mine, but i enjoy receiving affection from him (i.e. hugging) because he's a nice person and he's one of my best friends

no

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That stupid lesbian masterdoc gave identity problems to an entire generation of bisexual women. The amount of posts I see online that read like-

"The comphet is coming in real strong today! I'm a total and complete lesbian, but I've been talking to this guy and he's really funny and cute and sweet and I feel really drawn to him, but that's just society pressuring me to be, right?? Like sometimes my mind tells me that I could date a guy and I've talked to some guys that I thought were super attractive, but that's impossible because I'm a lesbian, right??"

Like, it's okay to be bisexual.

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What is people's beef with split orientations? Do they just not believe that romantic orientation exists? No one is saying you can't just call yourself one thing. Be lesbian, be gay, be bi, etc. No one cares.

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Joined Attraction Model: An attraction model that considers romantic attraction and sexual attraction, or lack thereof, to be (for the individual using the model) closely connected experiences that spring from the same source and cannot be explained or fully understood in isolation from one another. It is meant as a midpoint between split and non-split attraction models.

It is not the same thing as being non-SAM or ideologically opposed to the split attraction model. The joined attraction model still considers romantic and sexual attractions separate enough to label separately, while also considering them to be part of an interconnected system (like that one colony of quaking aspen trees that all share a root system and are essentially clones of one another.)

This term was coined to express the way that I, personally, see my experiences as aromantic and asexual. I've thought, in many circumstances, about identifying as non-SAM aro or non-SAM ace, because I do, genuinely, feel like these experiences spring from the same point for me and naturally follow from one another and if I could have one label that encompassed all of it then I would. However, both asexuality and aromanticism are equally important to me, and I don't want to emphasize one while leaving the other unstated. The joined attraction model was the solution I found to this problem.

(You don't have to be aroace to use the joined attraction model-- anyone who feels like they don't fit into either the split or non-split attraction model is welcome to it.)

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i don't see enough people saying this so: aroaces who feel their aroness and aceness separately aka aroaces who use the split attraction model <3

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Every time someone tries to tell me that Tumblr is a very good website, I remember that people on here still lose their shit over the existence of the split-attraction model, like it's the biggest threat to queer existence ever.

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SAM made easy

If you are anything like me understanding the Split-Attraction-Model was a little hard at first! Most of the wiki's and articles explained it in a way that really confused me due to them either being vague or just not explaining what each felt like in a way I understood. So, here is SAM explained in a way that makes sense and is hopefully easy to follow!

What is SAM?

The Split-Attraction-Model (SAM for short) basically separates the kinds of attraction into categories with each category able to be experienced separately from the others.

I.E: Being romantically attracted to some but not sexually or being platonically attracted to someone but romantically.

This model of attraction is very useful to aromantics and asexuals because it allows us to define and separate what attractions we do and do not feel!

Each attraction defined

Platonic Attraction- Platonic attraction is the desire to be close to someone in a non-romantic way. Imagine one of your close friends... you appreciate their personality, their humor, and the way they are in general without once ever considering kissing them or wanting to establish a sexual relationship. That is platonic attraction! The wish to enjoy someone without romance or sex!

Romantic Attraction- Romantic attraction is the desire to be with a person in a way that is much closer than the stereotypical platonic relationship. When someone is romantically attracted to someone else they might wish to kiss them or do things society deems as inherently romantic with them. This attraction often leads to "side-affects" such as the "butterflies in your tummy" feeling or being "weak in the knees."

Sexual Attraction- Sexual attraction refers to the experience of feeling drawn or attracted to another person in a sexual manner. This attraction is more often than not based on an attraction to that person's body rather than that person's personality. Sexual attraction is just wanting to spend the night with someone and not desiring that person much outside of that desire to sleep with them.

Aesthetic Attraction- Aesthetic attraction is when you are attracted to the way a person looks! However, in most aro/ace spaces this is usually seen as more of admiring a persons aesthetic/look the way you admire a painting. The painting is gorgeous and all the colors flow together nicely but you do not want to fuck the painting or take it out to dinner.

Sensual Attraction- Sensual attraction is the desire to engage in sensual activities with some such as cuddling, holding hands, kissing etc. but it doesn't necessarily mean you are romantically or sexually attracted to that person. Friends can cuddle,hold hands, and even kiss without actually dating or feeling anything romantic towards each other.

Please remember that this is not a definitive list of all the different types of attraction! These are just the ones I see used most so I wanted to make sure everyone had access to these terms and what they mean!

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Criticizing people for using the split attraction model is… pretty sad. Like, let people identify how they want. It’s literally not hurting you or anyone else.

Also, I’m asexual/biromantic. I knew this before I even knew what the split attraction model was. People can be more than one thing. People are complicated and messy and multifaceted.

You don’t have to use the split attraction model, and I’m not telling you to, but let people use it. Let people find words and concepts that make them feel comfortable as themselves. It’s literally hurting no one.