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hey if ur reading this and ur in a bad spot mentally or anything i hope u feel better soon and have a good day

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You're right that body hair is usually a girls intro into the very tangible standards for women that differ from men. It is an easily digestable and relatable issue. Even women who DO truly think ALL women SHOULD shave....have had the moment where they were made to feel bad for their bodies in a way most men weren't or realize men never felt "gross" for growing hair at 13. BUT i also get the fruatration from seasoned feminists, lesbian activists, and gender abolitionists that body hair is a very minute cultural issue that can feel like being dragged back to freshman feminism for them.

Yeah I understand that too. But ultimately there’s always going to be a woman or girl out there being shamed for her body hair, so there should always be feminists defending those women and girls.

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That quote 'women are unaware how much men hate them' and it's pretty apt right now.

Over the last few years I've spent time looking in manosphere circles and this stuff has been brewing the last few years.

There are compilation videos on YouTube by MGTOW (men going there on way) of women that they hate. Mostly tiktoks about dating and feminism. The comments are full of men who talk about how much they hate 'modern women', they hate that were in the workforce, they hate that women have 'high standards' for dating, the gate childless women, they hate career women, they hate single mothers, they hate religious women 'chameleons' they call them, they hate slutty women and they hate that we can divorce now. A lot of them hate their own female relatives.

It's a real visceral hatred. One comment was a guy saying he only spoke to women when he imagined them as an inferior being. Another said all he imagines when women speak was whether or not his dick fits in her mouth. They discuss rolling back the clock on women's rights or talk about women causing the downfall of the west.

They lament the lack of pure women, saying even 18 year olds are 'ran through', used up, smashed, have '1000 cock stare', unable to pair bond, hypergamous whores. Women over 30 are dried up hags who are hysterical, bitter Karen's destined to either die with cats and wine or divorce rape a beta.

When you look at their profiles a lot seem to normal guys. You wouldn't spot them in the wild. And there is a lot of them. People obsess about white male republicans but a lot of them aren't. A lot of these manosphere channels are run by black men. A lot of comments are left by Indian men who complain about Indian women getting 'tainted' by Western feminism. Stuff like fresh and fit is a starting point but these guys get crazier the more you follow the algorithm. Some are religious but a lot aren't. I saw a lot of 'i hate Muslims but Islam is right about women'.

There's a black manosphere guy who films foreign women in his Uber and asks them 'why aren't American women feminine anymore?' and puts up the videos despite them saying they're uncomfortable

They share tips on getting a young, untainted wife from poorer countries. A lot share videos of their trips to South America or Asia surrounded by young women (sometimes VERY young).

You also have the tradmen, who claim to care for women but also believe they are inferior and illogical, best kept at home to serve and raise babies. They will say they value women's natural role', but it's telling that this role requires financial dependence and an inability to leave no matter what (these guys get angriest about divorce). These are the ones who feel most cheated that an income is no longer all a man really needs to land himself the attractive 20 something he feels he deserves.

Then you have guys really angry about the dating market, whine about Chad and Stacey, the 80/20 rule, height standards and hypergamy. They talk about living for the day women 'hit the wall' and they can laugh at their teenage crush getting older and less attractive. I've seen comments where they hope women ask them out, so they can have the satisfaction of turning them down cruelly.

They can't be normal about anything. One Brit talked about going for a walk, and said all the 30 something women he encountered looked miserable. A woman posts a video of her dog and they assume she's fucking it (dogpill they call it, pornrot more like). A woman posts a video for women about life over 30 and they swarm the comments to say how unattractive she is and that women expire.

There are lots of alpha male type accounts on twitter, usually fronted as fitness advice for men. But there are a lot of posts about women being illogical, childlike, simple minded and often just evil. Lot of younger guys follow these and again, chat about how to bring women to heel.

I know as a woman that being aware of this is very straining for mental health. But I don't think pretending these guys are a handful of gross yet mostly harmless trolls is a good idea. And they aren't just cis white men in their mums basement either. The subway shooter was deep in this manosphere stuff, as was the Toronto van killer, yoga shooter and more I'm sure.

A lot talk about wanting sons, but also how they'd never ever want a daughter. The hate is that deep rooted. The she's someone's daughter' isn't going to help them see women's humanity.

Keeping women dependent is what a lot of these guys want. And some don't even want a wife out of it, just putting women back 'in their place' is enough to make them happy. They love watching videos of women being upset, revel in it.

Removing the right to abortion is one step, they are already talking about repealing women's right to vote and a lot want women out of the workplace.

Like idk what the solution is, but these guys are out there and would like to get more extreme.

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"Absolutely no one comes to save us but us."

Ismatu Gwendolyn, "you've been traumatized into hating reading (and it makes you easier to oppress)", from Threadings, on Substack [ID'd]

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"I'm tired of women being painted as just pretty"

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I'm out of words and patience to explain once again that 'empowering' does not mean 'makes me feel confident/good/strong/powerful'. for something to be empowering it actually has to be enfranchising, it has to give you power not just the feeling of power. male approval is not empowering no matter how much it makes you feel like you have power over men by being sexy to them. this fantasy of leading lustful idiotic men around by the dick serves only men.

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“In a prostitute’s life, she is taken by surprise over and over and over and over and over again. The gang rape is punctuated by a money exchange. That’s all. That’s the only difference. But money has a magical quality, doesn’t it? You give a woman money and whatever it is that you did to her she wanted, she deserved. Now, we understand about male labor. We understand that men do things they do not like to do in order to earn a wage. When men do alienating labor in a factory we do not say that the money transforms the experience for them such that they loved it, had a good time, and in fact, aspired to nothing else. We look at the boredom, the dead-endedness; we say, surely the quality of a man’s life should be better than that.”

— Andrea Dworkin, Prostitution and Male Supremacy (via genderagnostic)

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“While [Subhah] certainly makes important changes to the script of domestic fiction, as George argues, it is crucial to note that it does so only through the familiar move of pitting queerness (or more specifically, lesbianism) against feminism. Subhah is distinguished from the other so-called women’s films of the era (as well as the literary domestic fictions that George analyzes) in that it explicitly references female same-sex eroticism: two of the female inmates in the reformatory that Savitri supervises are named as ‘‘lesbian’’ through the use of the English word. Predictably, the ‘‘lesbianism’’ of the inmates is framed in opposition to the burgeoning feminist consciousness of the film’s heroine: Savitri labels the two inmates as pathological even as she tries to defend them to her superior. The physical and psychic movement of the feminist subject, then, is opposed to the fixity of the ‘‘lesbian’’ characters, who remain firmly situated within a narrative of sickness and pathology. On a narrative level, the film is unable to articulate female desire and sexuality—let alone female same-sex desire—in terms other than pathology; Savitri herself is shown repeatedly refusing sex with her husband but never actively desiring anyone else.

Yet one instance in Subhah exceeds its own narrative trajectory and hints at an alternative narrativization of female same-sex desire. Significantly, the scene is the only song and dance sequence in the film, again confirming the cinematic depiction of the song and dance sequence as a fantasy space removed from the exigencies of the social realist narrative. The inmates are seen celebrating a festival, and the camera cuts repeatedly from the face and body of one of the ‘‘lesbian’’ characters to that of the other, who gazes at her adoringly. The scene reworks the familiar triangulation between characters in song and dance sequences in popular Indian film, where two women dance for the male character whose appraising gaze orchestrates the scene. In Subhah, however, a triangulated relation forms between the two ‘‘lesbian’’ characters and Savitri, who is drawn into the circuit of exchange of looks between the two, both returns and receives their admiring and curious glances. The scene is interesting in that it also implicates the viewer within this exchange of looks and, however briefly, articulates female desire outside the realm of pathology in a way that the rest of the narrative is unable to do. Instead, it hints at the particular forms and organizations of female same-sex desire that are produced within the homosocial spaces beyond the private domestic space of the middle-class home; and these forms exist, surprisingly, even when those spaces are thoroughly saturated by the state’s patriarchal authority.”

—Gayatri Gopinath, Impossible Desires: Queer Diasporas and South Asian Public Cultures

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Secluded places in the portuguese mountains

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pie pngs ♡

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Reclaiming these words is a male supremacy linguistic trick to make women participate in their own humiliation.

Post by insidenoworld on tiktok.

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Give me a fanfiction trope and I’ll grade it:

A: Love it. Spend my time combing AO3 for it.

B: Like it. Not one of my bigger cravings, but it can scratch a certain itch if I’m in the right mood.

C: Neutral. A good author might be able to sell it, but a bad one will kill it deader than dead.

D: Not my favorite. I avoid it if I can, but it won’t necessarily put me off reading something.

F: Hate it. Will immediately make me nope out of a fic.