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i’m watching a dr. russell barkley adhd lecture and he just said something about adhd accommodations that hit me right in the chest. “they’re not there to teach, they’re there to allow the individual to be less impaired.” and god i feel like this is a huge core issue for how adhd is treated. people seem to think that adhd is a lack of skills and it’s not. we have the skills. we lack the executive function to put them in place. you can teach us skills all day long and we can’t use them bc our brain simply will not do that long term.

ppl think if they just give us a few techniques that it’ll all be fixed. which of course leads to the perception that if it doesn’t fix things, it’s our fault. we lacked the skills, they gave us the skills, if we don’t implement them that’s on us, right? they fixed the problem. except they didn’t fix the problem. dr. barkley compares it to installing a ramp for wheelchair users to get into the building and then removing that ramp after 30 days because “they’ve now internalized the ramp.” we need the fucking ramp.

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jimmy pop looks like an offbrand slim shady

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I don't know why I didn't post it right away, but now it's here. My redesign of Operetta 🎶

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Frankie Stein <3 <3

Based off this image:

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Venus! She will always have a spot in my heart… love plant creatures

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stumbling around with a nosebleed and black eye ddo you guys thibj this is hot is this attractive yet throws up blood sorry do you still thibk imm cool oasses out

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thanks tumblr for taking down my piece about censorship! heres a more censored version. i think its an improvement, really

(hey. you can still see it uncensored on bluesky.)

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nothing hits the spot like sitting still with your arms crossed and looking around and not talking

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there's this dog that's just bad at it. at being a dog. something must be wrong with it. the dog has a family, they love this dog, they were very excited to get the dog, and they chose this dog out of a mess of dogs in the shelter. it was cute, still is in it's own way. an adorable thing, really, a tiny picture-perfect puppy and the family was all smiles taking the dog home but it was just bad at being a dog. training was a non-issue, the dog only did their business when brought outside and the family would squat to pick up it's shit with a plastic bag, the dog never hopped on furniture it wasn't allowed to, the dog never barked, indoors or outdoors, and it never ate the family's food, never even tried to. the family thought this was wonderful behavior but there was other things about being a dog that this dog just didn't do. it didn't play, at all. never chased after a ball, never bit down on a rope. every walk with the dog felt more like dragging it around, the dog never wanting to move on its own. the dog didn't wag its tail at being told how good they were, at being petted, at given treats. it barely registered treats as anything different than its regular kibble. every meal, dehydrated meat chunks or a sneaked whirl of whip cream from one of the children, was eaten as a duty but never a fervor. it sat next to whoever brought them to the dog park and even other dogs knew this dog wasn't good at being a dog. though this dog never did have any issues with sleep, with diet, his waste always looked fine, it didn't seem anything was wrong. the family doesn't know exactly when but at some point the dog was brought to a vet, who surmised that the dog must be in some kind of pain, gave him meds, and the family didn't have to squeeze pills in cheese or anything, the dog just ate them fine. nothing changed but they never stopped giving him the meds. sometimes it'd be a different medication, a different vet with a different theory on what's wrong. some thought it was bad joints, another wanted xrays to see if it was a cancer, yet another tested for illnesses. no one ever guessed right, though. it just shouldn't have been a dog. the dog wasn't fit for being a dog. years of this go on. the family doesn't even think of getting another dog, they already have the one. the dog was fine enough, they figured. it's not in pain, not really, the dog's fine as is. a fixture of the family like a piece of furniture. it's almost kind of endearing, entertaining even, to see how long the dog just keeps going as it is. they keep the dog, celebrate each birthday with all of them there, the dog behaving as if it's any other day. four years old, seven years old, twelve years old, sixteen years old, twenty, twenty-five... then the dog bites someone. someone in the family. no real reason other than it's a dog and dogs bite. one hand bleeds as the other hand strikes the dog, a hammer of a fist making it whine for the first time. it sank fangs just once and years of dutiful love toward it collapse into a gravity of resentment. all this nerve to never act like a dog and now it suddenly wants to fucking bite someone? after all they did for the dog? all those years tolerating it? they end the dog's life without much ceremony in the backyard. they're all righteous, brimming with adrenaline, all smiles. this is right. the dog shouldn't have bit someone.

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if famous men dont want people speculating about their sexuality maybe they should stop being so gay

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"teens are prone to tantrums and are emotionally unstable" - okay, yeah, puberty is real, and emotional regulation is a difficult skill to learn. but also. any adult person would be pissed if their opinions were disregarded, they had no say in what happens to them, their emotions and feelings were downplayed and their privacy were intruded on.

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shoutout to everyone

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"you don't need to go on hormones to be trans" is true but not an appropriate thing to say to someone who is seeking hormones. "asexuals can have sex too" is true but not an appropriate thing to say to an asexual who doesn't want to have sex. etc etc etc. idk why it's so hard for people to get their head around this one. read the room dude.

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for every white trans man that passes perfectly and experiences “male privilege” there are 1000 young black nonpassing transmascs like me who still have violence perpetuated against us every day and then have to come online to the communities they once considered “safe” bashing us for our identity btw

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i love nonbinary killjoys. i love nonbinary people who are bitter and stubborn and don't smile or laugh off exorsexism. i love enben who insist on their nonbinarity and make it the world's problem. i love enben who disrupt binary people's language and spaces and force them to acknowledge nonbinary existence on our own terms. i love nonbinary people who are cunts. who are scary. who are bitchy. who make binary people feel threatened. who don't water down their names or pronouns or gender to make it easier for others to swallow and who are demonized for that. i love enben who demand respect every single time that binary people receive it without question. i love enben who are tired of fighting and keep doing it anyways. i love enben who are their own first and last defense.

you can't imagine how much you matter to our community. you are on the front lines, demanding our rightful place in society, making sure we are not forgotten. carving out a space for the nonbinary people who can't put up that fight. even if you are never recognized or appreciated, it matters.