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Me: *politely asks the tumble not to allow tracking across apps for ads*

Tumblr:

Have this same ad that implies you not only could but should remove all your teeth every three posts!

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Apollo might have an onlyfans but Freyr's been doing porn before the internet was even a thing.

Nothing anyone says will convince me otherwise.

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one day some of you will actually go outside and go to pride and you’re going to meet old black queens who refers to themselves as femme, you’ll meet people from small towns who still use the word transsexual, you’ll see that your local activist organization set up a stall about your local LGBT history that includes leather bar’s history, you’ll see lesbians in groups refer to themselves as “guys” and “boys”, you’ll see someone with breasts and pasties and little else have “he / him” painted on his chest, and you’ll be so caught up with your terminally online attitude that instead of appreciating the wide diversity of people who exist in the LGBT community who are brave enough to share themselves you’ll just be formulating posts and tweets in your head for when get home about how “problematic” it all was and it’s honestly tragic

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YOU hates terfs

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The War Chest Review, Australia, February 1919

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I love parents in gay dramas. What Did You Eat Yesterday? / Kinou Nani Tabeta?

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REQUIESCE IN PACE

Your broken bones leak star dust into the night sky where I see you one last time

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Sex doesn’t make us whole.

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL ASEXUALITY DAY!

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White pagans will really blame every bad thing that’s happened in the world on Christianity but then say you’re reaching when you tell them white supremacy is one of the root causes of violence in the world and that they’re implicated in it. No, Christians didn’t straightforwardly just steal “your” holidays to oppress pagans, but white Americans (our more recent ancestors) did spend centuries stealing PEOPLE so let’s talk about that...

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me seeing purple flowers on a lawn: that’s the prettiest thing i’ve ever seen

me seeing sunlight hit the waves of the sea: that’s the prettiest thing i’ve ever seen

me seeing raindrops sparkle colorfully on a bus stop bench at night: that’s the

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Obviously there are many things to dislike about adulthood but as someone who grew up in an abusive household for whom adulthood offered the only chance at an escape, it's incredibly important to me that i romanticize adulthood whenever possible because i know there are kids and teenagers like me out there who are seeing nothing but complaints about rent and taxes and the loneliness of living on your own and i know they're going to internalize all of that and assume it means that adulthood won't offer them the freedom and safety they've been dreaming of. So while i never want to minimize the difficulties of being an adult, i also want to highlight how incredibly nice it can be to finally have ownership of your life and your body and your time and money and food and everything else in a way that you never had before. You can choose when you wake up! You can choose what you have for breakfast! You can choose when to go to sleep or if you want to (inadvisably) stay up all night watching tv in the living room! In the living room! You can choose what to watch! These are little things, but they are worth taking pleasure in, and they are worth looking forward to.

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being a kid before wikipedia and smartphones meant these books were the coolest things you’d ever seen

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no offense but relearning how to enjoy things unironically is one of the best things i have ever done with my life

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Too accurate too accurate I cannot BELIEVE-

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✨Froggy ✨☺️💙

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Why Not “Transandrophobia”?

People have a lot of arguments against “transandrophobia”, some of them more honest than others.

The most shallow of them is rooted in the assumption that “transandrophobia” suggests the existence of androphobia or misandry that impacts cis men, which… obviously does not exist.

“Transandrophobia” isn’t just mashing “transphobia” and “androphobia” together, though. It’s a combination of “transgender” and “androphobia”. It’s describing a unique system of oppression that targets transmasculinity.

Similar arguments say that men are not oppressed for being men, therefore trans men are not oppressed for being trans men. But cissexism isn’t just the trans version of sexism, and you can’t copy/paste cis-centric understandings of misogyny onto trans people. We aren’t seen as wholly one gender or the other to begin with, and our treatment by the patriarchy will always be unique.

Some arguments boil down to the misguided belief that the word “transandrophobia” suggests a privilege/oppression dynamic between transmascs and transfems. The argument, in their eyes, is about who between the two is more oppressed, and who must therefore be the oppressor, and the victim, in that relationship.

Terms like “transmisogyny” and “exorsexism” don’t exist to describe a power imbalance within the trans community, though. They exist to describe the unique ways that cissexism targets specific groups of trans people, and the unique struggles those communities have as a result. “Transandrophobia” doesn’t accuse transfems of oppressing transmascs; it accuses cissexism of targeting transmascs in unique ways, and describes our unique struggles.

On a deeper level, I think the actual reason people don’t want to accept the term “transandrophobia” is just because it’s hard.

If they accept that transmascs are oppressed in unique ways, they have to learn and care about all of those ways. They have to care about more trans people. They have to challenge and unlearn their transphobia toward us, and they have to allow themselves to be held accountable for that transphobia.

If transmascs are oppressed for being close to manhood, they have to adjust their understanding of patriarchy and feminism. They have to include men in their movement. They have to acknowledge that things are more complicated than Men vs. Women, and that patriarchy is a wider, more complex system, interwoven with other systems on a fundamental level.

Things like racism, ableism, fatphobia, classism, heterosexism, and transphobia all impact how the patriarchy sees gender, and the treatment that people receive as a result. Oftentimes, being a man in conjunction with any other oppressed identity will result in unique oppression, and that’s because of how the patriarchy sees manhood. Not in spite of it.

“Transandrophobia” is challenging. It requires introspection, reflection, hard work, and change.

Ignoring that it exists isn’t going to make those needs go away; it just means they aren’t met. People suffer for that. Not just those of us directly impacted by transandrophobia, but everyone who would be benefited by widening of our understandings of gender, patriarchy, and the work feminism and trans activism needs to do.