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apology letter to myself

dear myself, i know i owe u many apologies.

i’m sorry for spending days and nights hating on u as deeply as the desire to make u disappear from this world.

i’m sorry for invalidate and gaslight ur feelings way too often and don’t know what u truly felt in ur heart.

i’m sorry for always prioritize the other before u because i don’t know how to.

i’m sorry for not being considered enough with ur feelings but did many things to protect the other’s feelings instead.

i’m sorry for making up too many excuses to not hating on someone when ur friends already said many times that u have to while i can’t even make a single excuse to not hating on u.

i’m sorry for sacrificing u and ur feelings to save someone else when u have a problem with them.

i’m sorry for letting u consistently been taken for granted and not treated with the respect u deserve.

i’m sorry for letting u allow people in and believe them then get backstabbed in return all over again—again and again.

i’m sorry for letting u skipped ur meals for days, hit urself, and cried out loud, just to get over ur unbearable pain.

and the worst part is, i’m sorry for letting u fall into the trap of ur nightmares then hoping u wouldn’t wake up…

i’m sorry for convincing u that u didn’t deserve anything in this world.

i’m sorry it took me too long to hold ur hand again, to fight for u, and to save u.

i’m sorry i didn’t tell u that i love u every morning and reassure u every evening that things would get better. i’m sorry i didn’t whisper to u in the middle of the night when ur thoughts were choking u that if u took urself out of this world, it would be an infinite disservice, because ur voice wouldn’t be heard, and ur voice is the most powerful thing u have.

i’m sorry for not knowing who u really are because all i did this whole time just observing and giving my all to the other and leave u with nothing left.

i’m sorry i didn’t tell u sooner, but, i love u.

— stacie brynn to herself

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‘cause u only listen to ur fucking friends

i don’t relate to u

i don’t relate to u, no

‘cause i’d never treat me this shitty

u made me hate this city

and i don’t talk shit about u on the internet

never told anyone anything bad

‘cause that shit’s embarrassing, u were my everything

and all that u did was make me fucking sad

so don’t waste the time i don’t have

and don’t try to make me feel bad

i could talk about every time that u showed up on time

but i’d have an empty line ‘cause u never did

never paid any mind to my friends, so i shut them all out for u ‘cause i was a kid

u ruined everything good

always said u were misunderstood

made all my moments ur own

just fucking leave me alone.

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Eja

hey my favorite boy ever!😋 i know most of the times i’m bad at judging someone’s personality—that’s why i keep ending up with the wrong person, but i’m pretty sure like litereli 100000000% sure this time i’m not wrong at judging urs. u really have an amazing personality in my eyes, even from the very first our encounter i know u’re diff from the others. i love how u successfully show people around u many colors of u. one of those are the warm side of u, the mature side of u, the protective side of u, and even the goofy side of u. aaand ofc the side of u i love the most is the sultan side of u🤑🤑🤑 HAHHAHA jk. but seriouslyyy u’re really a good listener and adviser, u really know how to respond to all of my stories the way i wanted to be responded. without judging me and without doubting me. that’s why i feel safer when u’re around tbh because surprisingly it feels like u already know me too well and even know how to handle me. u even cursed at my ex to make me feel better at that time because i couldn’t do it. oh ya do u remember i said this once too before that u’re way more attractive than the other signal members? I REALLY MEAN IT so u better not forget it dudeee because this is a rare case where the admin is more interesting than the members. well i praise u too much i guess😮‍💨

in conclusion i’m glad we’ve ever met in this virtual world. u’re such a good friend. so u better not forget me ya? eventho we barely talk lately and eventho we’re both eventually will leave this virtual world, but u can always contact me via whatsapp right? just hit me up whenever u need someone to talk to, i would do the same. but i need to be honest with u, there is one thing about u that worries me a bit: u’re too denial with urself. idk but in my eyes u’re always torturing urself by not being honest with urself. u keep saying that u’re a dick, therefore, u need to stay away from them because u don’t want to hurt them, but deep down u know in the other side u desperately need them too. as desperately as u don’t want to be alone. but u don’t know how to handle it or express it and too afraid with the consequences so u decide to keep that habit of denial within u. and when u finally end up alone, u start to break down and need someone to hold on, but then u made ur next mistakes by trusted the wrong person. idk how u really feel actually, but this is how i see u. that’s whyyy i want u to be more honest with urself. there’s nothing wrong with all of ur feelings, u’re allowed to feel what u want to feel. u don’t need to force urself to be denial all the time just to protect u and other people, ja.

eja, i know u’ve been struggling with the feelings that have been taking up all ur brain space for the past weeks. stop pretending like they aren’t there and that they don’t matter and embrace them because they ARE there and they DO matter. ya u can push and push and push those feelings all the way down to ur toes and step on them all day long to make them disappear. and u can act all fine and dandy for as long as u want to. but as soon as u’re alone, those feelings will resurface and chances are pretty good that they’ll be worse than they were before u tried to squash their power. because denying the fact that u are having these feelings and ignoring them continuously will not make them go away. ever. under any circumstance. usually it’ll make things worse. so please, just feel ur feelings.

ps: sorry ya tulisan lo telat yet u still appreciated my writing about the others huuuf maap ja jangan nangis yhhh abisan lo ilang kemaren gue jadi bingung mau nulis lo apa ga🥲 POKOKNYA THANK U

[stacie brynn’s soliloquy: about eja]

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the hardest pill to swallow: my feelings will never matter. and my side of story will never be heard.

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The Only Way Out Of Judgement Is Through The Power Of Gratitude

Did you know that judgement impairs our ability to identify what is really taking place in a situation? We may not have the full details and are likely to judge something based on limited information. We tend to distance ourselves through our judgements and become disillusioned with what we find. For example, it is easier to judge another person than to know them on a deeper level. This is because it requires a commitment to invest ourselves and we might be disappointed if the other person does not reciprocate. Therefore, judgement keeps us safe because we transfer our feelings of fear, shame and guilt onto others to make ourselves feel better. This comes at a cost of alienating ourselves instead of building stronger connections.

The way out of judgement is through the power of gratitude, which helps us see things through a different lens. Gratitude opens the door to our hearts and helps us consider things from a different perspective. It softens us in places where we were rigid. A heart filled with gratitude is unlike a heart filled with judgement, fear and anger. In fact, the heart does not harbour these emotions as much as the mind does through its ego attachment. Consequently, judgement and gratitude are opposing forces. One is the realm of the ego and the other is expressed through authentic goodness and compassion. Have you experienced something similar in your own life? Perhaps you judged another person wrongly and realised later there was more to the person than meets the eye? It is common to react this way and psychologist say it is attributed to an evolutionary role within our brains that screens for negativity.

But how can we overcome our judgement to perceive things more clearly? Surely, judgement hinders our experience of life? The key to recognising our judgement lies in being mindful of our thoughts. I often tell coaching clients when they notice themselves judging, to stop and ask a simple question: “What am I not seeing in this situation?” This helps us notice where we are blinded by our bias and unable to see the truth. It is my experience that judgement occurs mainly in our interaction with people. We are unaware of other people’s motives and agendas because we bring our own distorted thinking to the process. Most times, we prefer to be right than wrong, even if it means upholding erroneous thoughts.

This was evident with the disgraced seven time Tour de France winner, Lance Armstrong who convinced himself and others he did not cheat. He went to great lengths to dismiss his use of illegal performance-enhancing substances. In an interview with Oprah Winfrey, he said that his lies were so convincing they eventually become truth. This example shows the complexity of human beings where a lie can be believed with such conviction that it becomes our truth. But as you know, upholding a lie is harder than speaking the truth. In contrast, the power of gratitude allows us to shift our attention to the truth, even if it means our feelings will be hurt. Gratitude helps us become aware of opportunities, even if we have to look hard, there is always something to appreciate. Gratitude flips the switch from fear and judgement to compassion and understanding. It is the bridge whereupon friendships and tolerance is born.

To cross the bridge from judgement to gratitude requires openness and awareness. The openness to trust we don’t completely understand what is taking place. The awareness that we are judging something to appease ourselves or minimise another’s self-worth. Through an expanded awareness, we recognise our habituated thoughts patterns and are able to break the cycle. We move from the egoic need to judge something or someone and into our hearts where all possibilities exist. We learn to be more tolerant and grateful of others instead of believing in a fabricated lie. The more we understand something, the more tolerant we become of ourselves and others. Tolerance leads to forgiveness and empathy which are the seeds of soulful living.

With that in mind, I’d like you to consider a current situation in which you have judged something or someone unfairly. How could you see things differently and appreciate what is taking place behind the scenes? What action could you take to come from a place of gratitude and compassion instead of judgement and fear? Sometimes, the smallest action requires making eye contact with another person. Notice the difference in your body and how you feel when you move into your heart instead of your head? It is only when we let go of judgement that the power of gratitude opens the door to our heart and brings the awareness to see things exactly as they are.

source: https://thoughtcatalog.com/tony-fahkry/2019/07/the-only-way-out-of-judgement-is-through-the-power-of-gratitude/

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too intense here

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driving alone on the tollway (on my way back home from college) in the middle of rain while listening to some ‘soothe’ songs whenever i’m having a tough or bad day—is the best feeling ever.

oftentimes i even dramatically step on the gas and shouting those lana del rey and niki song lyrics while crying ugly lol what a stress reliever.

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the only relationship i want; to be in love with—and be loved by rich brian.

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You Won’t Be Everyone’s Cup Of Tea & That’s A Good Thing

I always tried incredibly hard to get people to like me as if I had something to prove. But the more I tried; the more people didn’t. The truth was along with trying to convince other people to like me; I was desperately trying to convince myself the same thing. And it’s true people treat you with the respect love and caring you show yourself. When I built a life around others’ approval, I realized A. no matter what I did; it was never going to be enough. B. Someone was always an expert in my life and had something to say about a choice that doesn’t impact them. In leading a life wanting to make everyone else happy, I didn’t find happiness with myself. I would always get caught because of how afraid I was to make a wrong choice and letting others down.

It took a long time to realize, and it’s something I am still learning, that not everyone will like me or approve of the choices I’d make. But what I’ve learned is that few people will love everything I do and everything I am, and that’s where my focus needed to be.

Some people will never care as deeply as you do, some people will never like you no matter how hard you try, but someone else’s dislike or misunderstanding of who you are isn’t something you have to explain or justify or defend. You are who you are, and it is already enough.

The right relationships in your life will be the ones that feel effortless. It will be that which is reciprocated. Everything you invest in the right people will never make you feel empty or depleted because they are giving it right back to you.

There are people in this world who will never hear you, no matter how loud you are, and it has nothing to you with how you’re able to articulate a message, but rather are they at a place mentally and emotionally to understand. You can’t make someone understand or listen or change, you can only control who you are and how you carry yourself, and that’s enough.

Some people will never care about the things that move you or feel things as deeply as you do. But it isn’t your job to convince them to care; you just have to meet them where they are at with empathy and understanding even if they choose not to understand you. Those things you care about deeply are what make you, you. What needs to change isn’t that driving force of who you are but rather the kinds of people you choose. Choose people who understand your soul and make you feel loved and valued and appreciated. Choose people who make you feel good about the things your heart beats for.

And while you may not be everyone’s cup of tea, you don’t have to be. Tea has never apologized for not being coffee. It merely gravitated towards those who chose it.

source: https://thoughtcatalog.com/kirsten-corley/2021/02/you-wont-be-everyones-cup-of-tea-thats-a-good-thing/

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nata as yasmin

"Hey! My name is Yasmin! My fashion passion is Bohemian-clothes in earth-tone colors and awesome textures! My friends call me “Pretty Princess” because I rule!"

Yasmin can be quiet, but she is a talented writer with a love for animals. Yasmin is feminine, glamorous, and stylish and always there for her friends. Even though there is something almost regal about her, Yasmin is not pretentious; she is open-minded and loves alternative trends in fashion, fitness, and beauty.

https://bratzfan.fandom.com/wiki/Yasmin

jami as jade

“Hey, I’m Jade! I can spend hours at the chemistry lab, but I'm also into experimenting with my style and coming up with new outfits for my friends, too!”

Always on the cutting edge of cool, Jade is the ultimate fashionista. After checking out the latest fashion magazines, the trendiest boutiques, and the thrift shops, Jade always manages to put together looks that are unique and look like one ‘Kool Kat!’. Jade is described as a quirky and confident girl who is not afraid to stand out from the crowd as well as defining herself. She is a true trendsetter, always chases the next big adventure and makes a statement by just being who she is.

https://bratzfan.fandom.com/wiki/Jade

medina as meygan

"Hey! My name is Meygan! My friends call me “Funky Fashion Monkey” because even when I just hang, I still look good!"

Meygan is always on the hunt for a new adventure, whether that'll be traveling to a new land or trying out something new right at home. Meygan enjoys meeting new people, hosting parties, and traveling. She always keeps in touch with all of the friends she has made while traveling, and they help her keep up with the latest exotic trends.

https://bratzfan.fandom.com/wiki/Meygan

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hiby as sasha

"Hi I'm Sasha, my friends call me 'Bunny Boo', because I hop to my own beat! My fashion passion is streetwear-chic with hip-hop influences. I'm always jamming to the hottest tunes and sharing them with friends!"

Sasha is a sassy girl, who is no fear of confrontation or situations and she is very organized; she knows who she is, what she wants, and how to get it! She has a bad temper, which often leads her into trouble. Nevertheless, Sasha cares about her friends, is always ready to stand up for them and no one would dare mess with her friends because she always has their backs! She takes the mother-role of the friend group and is often the one saving Cloe from her dramatic freak outs and breakdowns.

https://bratzfan.fandom.com/wiki/Sasha

aca as nevra

"Hi! My name is Nevra! My friends call me 'Queen B' because I'm sweet like honey and in charge!"

Nevra's confident personality can sometimes be mistaken for arrogance. She's not afraid to tell it like it is, but she only does what she thinks is best. She's always the one to stand up for her friends and isn't afraid of a fight.

https://bratzfan.fandom.com/wiki/Nevra

stacie as cloe

“Hey there, I’m Cloe! Art is my life...Painting or drawing, you name it, I love it! I’m obsessed with sparkling fabrics and anything pink, but I’m tough too – I’m a super soccer player!”

Cloe is a very playful, dramatic, and smart individual who looks at life through a different lens, always snapping pictures of and filming her friends. She is healthy athletic and full of energy; as such, she loves to participate in a wide variety of sports (such as motor-cross, cheerleading, soccer, and skateboarding). She is flirty, energetic, clumsy, and imaginative, but her friends help her stay grounded.

https://bratzfan.fandom.com/wiki/Cloe

caden as dana

“Hi my name is Dana, my friends call me “Sugar Shoes” because when i step out, i do it sweet! I have a sugary and sweet sense of style too!”

Dana is a very adventurous, loving and caring kind of girl. She loves reading and researching and playing on the computer. Dana's best friend is Meygan and loves to hang out with Meygan lots when Dana can have time to hang out with Meygan. She also loves to talking to Meygan's family. When Dana is very bored or when her computer is down or done orgainzing her shoe collection, Dana wants to hang out with Meygan when she wants whenever she wants that's only if Meygan is free to hang out with Dana. Dana's love for space and science influenced her own, totally mod style! But it's her collection of fancy footwear that earned Dana the nickname 'Sugar Shoes!' Dana's a super-smart girl, you'll almost always find her either reading or on the computer. She wants to open the first shoe shop in space!

https://bratzfan.fandom.com/wiki/Dana

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hiby as sasha

"Hi I'm Sasha, my friends call me 'Bunny Boo', because I hop to my own beat! My fashion passion is streetwear-chic with hip-hop influences. I'm always jamming to the hottest tunes and sharing them with friends!"

Sasha is a sassy girl, who is no fear of confrontation or situations and she is very organized; she knows who she is, what she wants, and how to get it! She has a bad temper, which often leads her into trouble. Nevertheless, Sasha cares about her friends, is always ready to stand up for them and no one would dare mess with her friends because she always has their backs! She takes the mother-role of the friend group and is often the one saving Cloe from her dramatic freak outs and breakdowns.

https://bratzfan.fandom.com/wiki/Sasha

aca as nevra

"Hi! My name is Nevra! My friends call me 'Queen B' because I'm sweet like honey and in charge!"

Nevra's confident personality can sometimes be mistaken for arrogance. She's not afraid to tell it like it is, but she only does what she thinks is best. She's always the one to stand up for her friends and isn't afraid of a fight.

https://bratzfan.fandom.com/wiki/Nevra

stacie as cloe

“Hey there, I’m Cloe! Art is my life...Painting or drawing, you name it, I love it! I’m obsessed with sparkling fabrics and anything pink, but I’m tough too – I’m a super soccer player!”

Cloe is a very playful, dramatic, and smart individual who looks at life through a different lens, always snapping pictures of and filming her friends. She is healthy athletic and full of energy; as such, she loves to participate in a wide variety of sports (such as motor-cross, cheerleading, soccer, and skateboarding). She is flirty, energetic, clumsy, and imaginative, but her friends help her stay grounded.

https://bratzfan.fandom.com/wiki/Cloe

caden as dana

“Hi my name is Dana, my friends call me “Sugar Shoes” because when i step out, i do it sweet! I have a sugary and sweet sense of style too!”

Dana is a very adventurous, loving and caring kind of girl. She loves reading and researching and playing on the computer. Dana's best friend is Meygan and loves to hang out with Meygan lots when Dana can have time to hang out with Meygan. She also loves to talking to Meygan's family. When Dana is very bored or when her computer is down or done orgainzing her shoe collection, Dana wants to hang out with Meygan when she wants whenever she wants that's only if Meygan is free to hang out with Dana. Dana's love for space and science influenced her own, totally mod style! But it's her collection of fancy footwear that earned Dana the nickname 'Sugar Shoes!' Dana's a super-smart girl, you'll almost always find her either reading or on the computer. She wants to open the first shoe shop in space!

https://bratzfan.fandom.com/wiki/Dana

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“life is short, and it’s up to u to make it sweet.”

— Sarah Louise Delany

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my ears aint do drugs but get addicted to edamame instead—i mean every second of this song hella firEEEE🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

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cloe, my spirit animal🧸💗

@martincantos 

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and that’s on having fan behavior, it is what it is eh🥵

ps: genuinely asking, do i have to ignore the fact that u’re trying too hard to be me too?

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what 2 wear

recreating the b and f looks to be my own version

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End Violence Against Women Campaign: To Restorative Justice.

image source: photography sketchbook pin by lily touch on lil something | pinterest.

The discussion on human rights of women has been a long-way sensitive concern—while violence against women has gained the most attention in justice program comparing to the other areas of women’s rights. Because a woman who becomes the victim of a violence is no longer feel safe just by knowing there are rights that protects her, but also needs guarantee for the validation of these rights and guidance on how to obtain these rights.

Quoting from https://www.ohchr.org/Documents/Publications/PractitionerToolkit/WA2J_Module3.pdf, violence against women is a grave violation of the fundamental human rights of women and remains one of the most common crimes committed against them. Existing data on violence against women from sources such as UNFPA, UNICEF, UNODC, UN Women and WHO acknowledges that violence against women continues to be a global pandemic and therefore a matter of critical concern. Violence can occur in different private and public spaces, including on the internet and through other evolving technologies. It is rooted in historical inequalities between women and men, and can cause significant physical, social, psychological and economic harm to women.

In order to eliminate the discrimination of women’s rights—including one of them is about the protection itself on violence against women, United Nations General Assembly approved a draft of an International Treaty named The Convention on the Elimination of all Forms of Discrimination Against Women (CEDAW). Although there is no explicit explanation on Gender-based violence except for Art. 6 relating to the Exploitation of Prostitution and Trafficking in Women, the CEDAW Committee issued several Recommendations to improve the implementation of the Convention, and one of them is relating to violence against women. The Recommendation No. 19 from 1992 was historic as it clearly framed violence against women as a form and manifestation of gender-based discrimination, used to subordinate and oppress women. It unequivocally brought violence outside of the private sphere and into the realm of human rights.

With the existence of Recommendation No. 19 (which has been elaborated too by Recommendation No. 35), the definition of discrimination against women finally includes violence too. And based on the Declaration on the Elimination of Violence against Women Art. 1, “violence against women" means any act of gender-based violence that results in, or is likely to result in, physical, sexual or psychological harm or suffering to women, including threats of such acts, coercion or arbitrary deprivation of liberty, whether occurring in public or in private life. And based on Art. 4, States parties should condemn violence against women and should not invoke any custom, tradition or religious consideration to avoid their obligations with respect to its elimination. States should pursue by all appropriate means and without delay a policy of eliminating violence against women.

Indonesia has ratified CEDAW through UU No. 7 of 1984. The ratification will certainly bring forth obligations as mandated by the convention, those are; adopting all Convention strategies, implementing committee Recommendations, and being continuously involved in International decisions relating to women issues and comply to those instruments. Therefore, based on the legal instruments mentioned above, it becomes clear that there are several legal instruments that support the validation of women’s rights, especially (in this writing) related to violence. Plus the fact that Indonesia has also ratified it can be a ‘strong’ validation for us, Indonesian women.

image source: @notyourbabyaus on Instagram | @intersectional_aussie_feminist on Instagram

However, outside the realm of law, of course– there are still many negative stereotypes that eventually normalize violence against women because of the culture of society that tends to always blame the victim. Society tends to always forcing women to cover up with trust it can ‘protect’ them instead of educating men to control their lust to stop themselves on harassing, assaulting, or raping women. Society tends to always blaming women for not be able to protect themselves by doing something dangerous like go out at night instead of blaming men for not be able respect the freedom of women to do anything they want as safe as possible. And society tends to pointing their fingers to the victim (worst case even call them as slut) instead of pointing their fingers to the perpetrator.

What I mean in this writing is, even though we already have the law as a validation of our legal protection, but everything will eventually gone to waste if the disease itself is in the negative stereotypes of the society. Because as we all know, most of the type of violence cases is delik aduan, which means requires the report from the victim. But because of the negative stereotypes that breeds in the society, oftentimes the victims are afraid to voice their rights and protect themselves with law because of the fear of judgement from the society.

Stop victim-blaming. They deserved to be heard and to be protected not to be judged by the men’s crime.

— Stacie Brynn.

source(s): https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2389784, https://www.ohchr.org/en/professionalinterest/pages/violenceagainstwomen.aspx, https://www.ohchr.org/en/hrbodies/cedaw/pages/gr35.aspx, https://www.ohchr.org/documents/professionalinterest/cedaw.pdf, https://www.ohchr.org/Documents/Publications/PractitionerToolkit/WA2J_Module3.pdf, https://lama.elsam.or.id/downloads/1262842368_08._Konvensi_CEDAW.pdf (using method direct quotations)