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just a reminder... it’s ok if you’re struggling with picking up a whole new program overnight. that’s normal and okay? nobody is actually learning anything overnight. you can learn at your own pace, or not at all. seeing a lot of people getting discouraged that they can’t pick it up on the first try and pls just be kind to yourselves. holy shit.

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pro tip that has made my life much better:

if something makes you upset, angry, defensive...interrogate that feeling. gently ask yourself why. unfold the feeling until you get to its core. it's often not about what the other person is saying at all, but what you think it means. (sometimes they have outright said something bad! sometimes they haven't, but the scared and unreasonable part of the brain heard something bad anyway!)

this has been really helpful for me dealing with rsd, it's very useful in workshop situations, it's just a really helpful thing to do when feelings are running high--be gentle with yourself, but be honest, too. very few things are an attack meant for you, personally.

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me trying to drag myself out of a depressive episode: you are COOL your meat is HUGE and your friends and 12 cartoon husbands DO love you

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What’s going to make you happy right now? Is it some cake? Is it a nap? Is it calling your mom? Is it going on a drive and blasting music? Is it taking a bath? Is it reading a book?

Check in with yourself because you deserve that happiness, whatever it is.

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I love when I’m in the middle of speaking and suddenly I’m like wait I literally don’t agree with what I’m saying

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hey stop painting Ben Shapiro’s racist doctor wife as a victim and not as a racist doctor

he writes articles and does his own podcast, it’s his job is to be racist and giving him attention for it even potentially fuels his audience, but, Dr. Mor Shapiro just used her position as a doctor to try and shame black women. We can call for her to be fired, and as a bonus, between the doctor and the podcaster, she is probably the breadwinner of the household, so Ben Shapiro would probably have a lot less time of his hands for racism, if his wife wasn’t almost certainly paying most of the bills.

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Quick reminder that we are going through a global pandemic right now, which is a major stressful event.

It is stressful even if no one you know is sick.

It is stressful even if you are working from home.

It is stressful even if you have no work / school responsibilities.

You are entitled to your stress. You may find yourself crying randomly, or getting randomly angry, or super tired, or bouncing off the walls, or unable to keep a thought in your head for more than 30 seconds. This is an expected stress response.

Give yourself a break. The world is not normal right now. Focus on just getting through it as best you can, utilizing whatever coping methods do the job. This is not forever. 

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Gen Z is fucked because they don’t consider actions to be inherently evil but only evil within the context of people they deem “deserving” of punishment, so now everyone’s a psychopathic little busybody with a hero complex thinking they can play judge, jury and executioner.

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7 Tips for Overcoming Feelings of Inadequacy

1. Remind yourself that you are not who other people think or say you are.

2. Remind yourself that everybody makes mistakes at times, has areas of weakness, and things they want to change.

3. Remind yourself of ways in which you’ve grown and changed with time. You’re not who you once were - so celebrate how far you’ve come.

4. Also, the ending isn’t written and the future isn’t fixed. You’re free to change your image, and an old identity.

5. Identify the lies you have believed about yourself – and work on changing them so they’re more accurate and true. Also, don’t reinforce those lies by acting like you think they’re true.

6. Remember that your feelings are not the same as facts. Don’t live based on your feelings … as that will keep you trapped.

7. Hang out with those who see, and who appreciate, your worth. And take their words to heart, and let them help to build you up.

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Netflix basically just ruined the career of a black Muslim woman. They fucked up with the promotion of that movie

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I feel like some LGBTQ+ people need to hear that it isn’t their fault if their loved ones don’t accept them.

And it isn’t. No matter what the reason is, what they say to you, any circumstances at all- it isn’t your fault. It isn’t ever your fault.

If they love you, than they should accept you- Even when it’s confusing or hard for them, they should always support you. That’s on them, not you. 

I’m really sorry if you’re going through this right now. I truly hope that they come around, and soon. But in the mean time, please remember to never blame yourself.

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to anyone struggling with body image, i love you and i hope you’re able to find ways to be kinder to yourself. your body is worthy of love and respect no matter its size, shape, ability level, or appearance 💓

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“Be able to identify any mistakes that may have been made, and allow yourself to learn from the experience. They are not degrading of our character, but are instead opportunities for growth and development.”

— Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin

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Don’t trust people who continue to tease you about something after you’ve made it clear that it hurts you and you’re self conscious about it.

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