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[rolipoli97]

what's your darkest feedee fantasy? i've seen you post some pretty steamyd deathfeedist stuff so i'm curious how far your fantasies go

emotional manipulation… make me so dependent and helpless that even if i wanted to lose weight, im so steeped in these horrible habits that it’s not possible. train me to turn to food at every disappointment

and even when you come home and i’m teary eyed, unable to get up by myself and weighed down by my unmanageable tits and belly—finally realizing that i need to stop—coo and tell me it’s okay, keep handing me snacks. make sure i eat my feelings. everything is fine as long as i keep doing what you say. mix edibles and whatever other meds i need into my shakes every night… my anxiety is obviously out of control if i keep eating this way and you know what will fix that

every time i get close to asking you to stop, make sure im too full to voice that. you know what’s best, even if i cry and beg to stop eating you know what i need.

it’s so fucked up honestly but god. the idea of not being able to turn back, wedging myself into a lifestyle i can never escape, is too good

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I love when feedees enjoy sweets. Cookies, cake, ice cream, you name it. It’s such an easy way for them to expand their waistline.

It’s so easy to eat them too. Grabbing a cookie or two after a meal slowly turns into half the box. Then the whole box. Every time you go out to eat they order a dessert with their meal. Soon enough a couple, because it just “looks so good.”

The cart at the grocery store filled with sugary treats everytime you go now. They can’t even wait until you get out of the store now before having a few. You know craving sweets makes you greedy right?

All of that excess sugar shows up on their waistline soon enough. A round belly fills their shirt and starts to hang out. Ass widening, stretching against the fabric of their shorts and pants. Face softens, cheeks full, double chin getting bigger and bigger. Yet, they only want more.

All of that excess sugar creates crashes. Making them lazier and lazier. Laziness plus greed plus sugar equals a fattening affect like no other.

I know about those treats next to you. Go ahead and have one. Then another. They’re so tasty. And good for you. So eat up so you can grow nice and fat for me.

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You’ll never be too big for me baby

I know, we got in to this together when it was just a bit of fun.

You thought you’d let go and enjoy your food, and get a little softer.

It wasn’t enough for us, and you just wanted a little more.

I know, it feels like we’ve barely started and you already no longer have hips, it all melts into that hanging belly of yours.

You thought maybe that would be enough for us, but it’s not.

I know you’re addicted now. You’re out of control and you’re only getting bigger and bigger. You’re worried I’ll have had enough. But I won’t.

I promise you baby,

you’ll never be too big for me.

When we got together I knew how you’d end up. I prepared from the start. I’m ready to care for you in every instance. You’re no burden, this was a team effort.

Need help with your clothes? I’m here for you.

Need help in the car? I’m here for you.

Need help around the house? Here for you.

I know it seems like a way off for now, and that’s you wouldn’t let yourself become so helpless. But I can see it in you baby. It’s coming. Quicker than you think.

Thankfully, there is no number that is a limit for me. For us.

I will always be there for my growing girl 🫶

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I want to be the first thought in your head when you wake. The little voice in your mind whispering "did she eat enough today? Is she full & happy & perfectly plump?" I want you pacing the kitchen fretting over what to feed me next, torn between pancakes dripping in syrup or something extra buttery & greasy bc obviously, I deserve both. I want you dreaming up new ways to spoil me, sneaking me little treats just to see my cheeks get rounder & my tummy softer. Feed me, fuss over me, obsess over me! I’ll giggle, blush & bat my lashes, happily nibbling on whatever you bring. Isn’t it just the cutest thing to know you’re the reason for my growth??? 🐷🥰💖

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I wish more feeders would openly and actively take the "non feeding" parts of being a feeder more seriously. Going out of their way to make sure their partners size is accommodated in public outings not just planned by them but also by friends and advocating for their feedee's needs well in advance. Getting educated on HAES and harm reduction approaches to gaining. Supporting their partner with light exercise and mobility work to reduce pain during weight gain and at larger sizes. Supporting their sweet tooth feedee and supporting them to keep up on their oral hygiene. Being a sounding board and providing love and validation when their feedee has faced anti-fat bias. Being well educated on the stigmas fat people face at the doctor and accompanying them to their doctors appts to help keep their doctor accountable and respectful. Supporting them with medical treatments related (and not) to their gaining lifestyle like encouraging consistent medication and CPAP use. Advocating for fat liberation and defending their fat partner in all settings, regardless of whether their feedee is in the room or not.

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Yeah stuffing and overfeeding someone can be fun, but it is not realistic to be doing it constantly. Specially because sometimes it feels like a race on how to gain more.

I prefer to cook them hearty meals that are rich in flavor, so I can have them satiated and satisfied. I wish to frequently cook their favorite meals without having to put a whole stick of butter in it, just having them eat their filling, so hunger stops and they are comfortably full. I desire to make all sorts of baked goods from tarts and pies to cookies and cakes, always having something sweet around for their cravings, but never forcing them to finish a whole pie or batch, simply allowing them to grace whenever they want.

Taking things as they come, if they gain weight it's fine and if they don't it is also fine, I just want to enjoy someone's big appetite, them showing it off to me and perhaps hand feed them (✿ᴗ͈ˬᴗ͈)

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I just want a girl who's unabashed about her love for food.

I don't need stuffings and I don't want weight gain shakes.

I need a girl who gets donuts when she wants them. Who isn't afraid to ask for ice cream after dinner. Who eats the whole burrito when it tastes good. Who cleans her plate and asks for more. Who talks about food the way she talks about sex.

Obviously anyone who truly enjoys food is going to over eat every once in a while. And anyone who loves sweets is going to soften up. There's going to be a belly. There's going to be a round face. There's going to be fat. That's just what happens when you don't care about the consequences of your indulgence. The collateral of hedonism.

The changes will happen slowly. Almost inperceptibly if you're not paying attention. The softness will gradually accumulate until you look back on a picture from a month or two ago and notice how that double chin has grown around the jawline. A picture from a year ago and there wasn't a belly. I'll know what happened. I'll know how much you enjoyed everything that went into it. I'll know how much you and I are still enjoying it now.

That's what I want.

. . .

this is an ode to a girl who knows who they are

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If you're at work in a retail or hospitality environment and you see a sex worker with a client... no you didn't.

If your boss asks you if you think that person's a sex worker, you tell them you do not believe that. You don't report their presence to anyone. You don't joke about it with a coworker. You don't eavesdrop or bother them.

We're working the same as you are. Leave us alone!

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do i like being controlled because of my trust issues or because of my lack of self discipline or because of my fear of abandonment or because of my pathological need to please people or becau

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The simplicity and domesticity of soft feedism is something that I desire in my life.

Waking up and having a slow morning, staying cuddled up, holding each other, grabbing from time to time the newest softness on their body and finally starting our day when their belly rumbles with hunger.

Cooking together in the kitchen and their belly bumping into me while we go our way grabbing ingredients and pans, feeling their whole plump body hugging me from behind while I attend the stove.

Finishing breakfast and having a day ahead of ourselves, perhaps just running errands together or exploring museums or gallery arts.

Yes living as a feedistic couple who enjoys the bigger things in life, but also being people

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Oh, hey guys

You can be a feedee that wants to eat healthily

You can be a feedee who stops because of health reasons

You can be a feedee who likes exercise

You can be a feedee who has allergies or other special dietary needs

You can be a feedee who doesn’t want to get bigger than a certain weight

What you CANNOT be is a feeder who denies these rights to their feedees.

Their body, their choice.

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Are we born with it?

Our desire to either become obese or love and encourage someone who is?

I know it's something that has been ingrained in me since I was too young to understand the sexual attraction behind it. Most FA/FFA/BHM/BBW (that's a mouthful, no pun intended) that are involved in the online community, have had their desire towards fat all their lives.

Living in a world where fat is bad, we usually have to hide it. At least some FA/FFA's have the ability to hide it (though they shouldn't... we should shout from the rooftops how beautiful fat is). But the desire of our affection can't hide it. They have to live with that weight on their body every second. And we, as fat admirers, should make that as easy as possible for them.

Publicly support fat people. Publicly support fat rights, fat issues; fight fat discrimination. Just because some of us fat admirers are thin and can hide our desire in public, doesn't mean we should.

Stick up for fat people. Provide education towards those who can't possibly understand.

Just because it's sexual for us, doesn't mean that the beautiful fat people we adore should suffer public humiliation (I mean, unless you're into that).

Can any others relate? To the desire deeply ingrained in us for all our lives?

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It's feedist, not feederist. Just like it's feedism and not feederism. Feedism would collapse without feedees, stop putting the focus on the feeder.

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anti-fatness is not just body shaming.

anti-fatness is discrimination. anti-fatness is having next to no legal protections for being discriminated against. anti-fatness is being denied housing, jobs, receiving less pay and promotions (legally) because of your size. anti-fatness is being denied access to clothing, seating, transportation, and other human rights because infrastructure has been designed to exclude you. anti-fatness is less likelihood of receiving a fair trial. anti-fatness is dehumanization. anti-fatness is being denied necessary surgeries, but not surgery that amputates the digestive tract with the intent to starve and shrink you (it doesn’t work either). anti-fatness is mutilation. anti-fatness is being subject to torture devices that bolt your mouth shut. anti-fatness is being told by close friends, family, and professionals that you are better off living with an eating disorder or other life-threatening illness. anti-fatness sells you starvation as a guaranteed opt-out of oppression, but doesn’t tell you that bodies will always regain weight to survive. anti-fatness blames and punishes you for failing at an achievement that is quite literally impossible. anti-fatness is a $90 billion dollar industry. anti-fatness is being denied gender-affirming care. anti-fatness is being barred from in vitro fertilization and reproductive healthcare. anti-fatness is being barred from adopting children. anti-fatness is being removed from your loving parents because they couldn’t make you thin. anti-fatness is intentionally starving your own baby so they won’t get fat. anti-fatness is disproportionately high suicide rates. anti-fatness is being killed at the hands of medical neglect and mistreatment. anti-fatness is the world preferring a dead body over a fat one.

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I’m kind of of two minds because on the one hand I know that feeders get a mostly undeserved bad rap as being universally shitty and abusive when in reality the things we talk about are just in the realm of kink, but on the other hand sometimes I go on another feeder’s blog and I just have this visceral reaction of oh…. You really DON’T respect fat people do you. Like you clearly actually look down on us (me included because I’m a fat feeder!!) but think it’s hot so you come on tumblr to get off. So I guess what I’m saying here is if you’re a feeder, especially a thin feeder I’m like 99% less likely to trust your intentions if you never break character and make it clear you see fat people as like, human beings and respect us when you’re not jerking off. Idk I just have been thinking more and more that building intentional community in this space is a good idea shrugs

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