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tumblr might make you confused about this but i do think its really important that you understand. Garak is not a main charavter of deep space nine. he is in like six episodes. if you haven't seen the show you might not believe me but im not afraid to be honest. garak is not a main character and most of the show would be identical without him.

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Things Odo should have done in DS9.

Don’t take this too seriously. It’s just a bit of fun!

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Because I didn't get to post it yesterday..

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More DS9 Valentines

Sloppy because I don't have my computer at the moment

Last year's: here

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Some low-effort DS9 Valentines from this year and last year

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I haven’t seen this posted yet: this doc was posted to reddit and is keeping current about what obstacles there are post executive order if you’re trans and have changed/are planning to legally change your name and gender marker

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It's really fucking annoying shipping an mlm ship and everyone in the goddamn universe is like "the bigger stronger one is a dominant cis man who tops and the smaller weaker one is a submissive trans man who bottoms :)"

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rom dump. rump if you will

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Gotta start saying "sex change" again and emphasize that it's not a metaphor.

Like, I understand why the intra-community push toward gender-based (rather than sex-based) language occurred, but along the way a lot of people seem to have forgotten that many trans people actually physically change their fucking sex.

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I had a dream that one of my little sisters was dating a Ferengi and my family was trying to be nice about it even though they thought it was a rebellious phase.

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Making comments about a trans person's genitals (or what you assume their genitals to be) on a public platform is sexual harassment, full stop, and people need to start calling it what it is.

This applies to both online and in-person public comments. Don't let these people write articles or go up on stage and make explicit comments about a trans person's genitals without making it abundantly clear that they are engaging in sexual harassment, not just transphobia. We need to stop allowing the general public to act as though trans people have consented to public discussion of their genitals by simply existing.

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People who hate Worf do so because I sucked out all their love for him into myself and left them desolate.

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hey y'all!

I'm reeeeeally trying to get some of these older collages to homes so in the red is the price I've had up until now and the green is what the sale price will be for now. I know my art can cost a little too much for a lot of people to afford so I'm hoping this gives more people a chance to get something fun for themselves and for me to pay some bills! lol.

everything that says "cradled" is on a wood panel that is attached to a frame on the back so those are ready to hang! everything that is labeled "flat" is on a flat piece of hardboard.

it's all free shipping if you're in the US! if you're somewhere else then I will need to calculate that for you but it will be discounted based on the average shipping rate in the US!

send me a message through through messenger (not my inbox) if you're interested in any of these! I will update the post as they get sold.

SOLD: the 6x8 inch garak collage, the 8x10 inch garak/bashir collage

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Honestly, it's just transphobia. Pure and simple. It's using 'correct' language to ask a super transphobic and irrelevant question.

They should ask for your sex. If they want to have a separate check box that says cis/trans that would be fine I guess, but honestly it's just a shitty transphobic way to try to reduce you back to your asab.

I had to fill out a form recently that asked for my mother's name, 'as printed on my birth certificate' my mother's name is not printed on my birth certificate, my birth mother's is.

I went up to the counter-lady and asked her what I should put and explained that I didn't want a woman I have no familiar or legal connection to on my form. She said to just put my actual mother's name, but then I had to check a box and sign that 'the above information was true under penalty of law' and I felt super uncomfortable doing it.

This is definitely true to an extent, sometimes it really is just "we don't care if your new gender is legally recognized, we don't think it's real." But I do think there are also cases where it's less malicious and just the ignorance-flavored transphobia of people not taking into account that ASAB could be different from current legal sex. I think at least SOME adopters of "ASAB" terminology genuinely thought it was the new "right way" to ask and just have never had to think it through.

I think forms like as an entire thing need to be written with more care and attention because, yeah, that thing with your mother's name is demonstrating the same lack of foresight. I think forms need to be more human. And that includes recognizing that sometimes options might be limited due to stuff being used for machine input, and acknowledging that IN THE QUESTION so that people know what kind of answer to give/what it's being used for. Then we're not left wondering if we're going to be treated appropriately (or get arrested for filling it out "improperly"!)

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Anyway, all of this to say that you CAN and SHOULD lie sometimes if the questions are being asked wrong! I entered my assigned sex as male on a form for the hospital where I literally got my bottom surgery done, because there was nowhere to enter current sex. And nothing bad happened! :)

The infuriating experience of trying to apply for health insurance and the application ONLY asks for assigned sex at birth. Which I was immediately skeptical of because I don't know what they ACTUALLY want.

Are you trying to match this with my ID? I sent a copy of my driver's license in to verify my identity. My license says I'm male. That is not the sex I was assigned at birth. There would be a mismatch.

Is this what they are going to use to determine how to categorize me for medical procedures? I am a post-op man with no uterus, ovaries, vagina, or breasts. I have a dick and balls and have been on HRT for over 10 years which means my risk factors fall on the male side of things.

This shift in language to account for trans people actually makes info collection WORSE for us when there is no recognition of the fact that our current (legally recognized!) gender/sex could differ from what we were assigned. I'm not saying there are NO possible cases where my assigned sex might be relevant, but every time I fill out a form like this I am left guessing what I need to put down in order to have my information recorded accurately and receive proper treatment.

These forms NEED to ask for what they actually want. "What is the gender currently listed on your ID?" is a perfectly valid way to ask a question if that is the information that is actually being sought. If your new doctor's office needs to record what sex you are listed as on your insurance in order to send a claim, "assigned sex at birth" is NOT an accurate way to collect that information. The form should literally say "what is the sex listed on your insurance?" Be as specific as possible!

And if you aren't willing to do that, then just go back to asking for "sex" instead of "assigned sex at birth", because at least that leaves some room for self-determination and then further specifics can be gathered as needed. (Of course many places do not WANT us to have any self-determination, so, you know.)