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”trans men are the weakest links of the trans community” my trans male friends and I have lived a lifetime of having our bodily autonomy stripped away to the point of sexual harassment. people talk about our bodies like everyone except us owns them because no one can handle the idea of precious female bodies being “mutilated” by gender affirming care. we are treated like traitors by women and as confused, silly girls by men. we have no spaces in which we belong because even the queer community tries to control our bodies. if we pass as men then we get ousted from queer-friendly spaces, and if we don’t pass as men we’re treated like cringe, theyfab trenders. everything we love is considered annoying. we’re called ugly and sad and “what a shame you guys are men haha”. We have to watch as society uses us as an excuse to ban gender affirming care for young people because our bodies belong to the government, because our bodies belong to our mothers, and because our anatomy is the only thing they see us as. And then we have to sit back as the trans community blames us for these bans. “All of these fake transtrenders are the reason they all hate us” when we’re busy having the women in our lives scrutinise our bodies to make sure we’re not being “infected” by the trans contagion. There’s no space we can belong in. No space that tries to make us feel welcome because either they treat us like women or they treat us like dangerous, cis men.

Every trans man I know has been sexually assaulted. Every trans man I know has been brought to suicide attempts, either due to their families or due to people online bullying them to death. Our struggles are constantly diminished and yet behind the scenes we’re fucking exhausted from fighting attacks from every single goddamn side. How fucking dare you call us weak. We’re going through fucking hell like every other goddamn trans person out there and our bodies are being abused and controlled and scrutinised every day of our fucking lives. Have you seen how TERFs talk about our bodies? How they lament us “mutilating” our breasts, our fertility, our anatomy, all in the name of feminism. That’s sexual fucking harassment, and it’s disgusting. But that’s all they fucking see us as. We’re not human, we’re just defected specimens. Cis women give themselves free passes to harass our bodies because they see us as “one of them”. One of them, but wrong. One of them, but need to be fixed. My mother regularly checks my chest to make sure I’m not trying to flatten it, and she can get away with it because “that’s what mothers do to their daughters.” Even when I’m not her daughter. Even when I’m screaming at the top of my lungs wanting to die because my body doesn’t belong to me. My body stopped belonging to me as soon as I came out as trans, because female empowerment doesn’t apply to me anymore. Female empowerment is now about “correcting” me, to restore my body back to its former glory, because only then was I worth something.

We are not weak. We are strong as fuck for dealing with the shit we have to deal with. And the worst part is, so much of the bullying comes from other trans men. We’ve been taught to hate ourselves so much that the only way to get ahead is to put down our own brothers and treat them in the way we’ve been treated.

There is no weak link of the community because we’re all dealing with absolute shit from all sides, but don’t you ever suggest that trans men are somehow the whiny babies who have nothing to complain about when we’re constantly holding back from screaming our guts out because there’s nothing else we can do.

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The next time someone starts going off about how “trans men aren’t targeted” and blah blah blah I’m just throwing this at them

You know maybe if they read it they’d realize that a lot of their views on trans mascs are really lining up with a certain outlook

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Woah, what's this about Chappell Roan being transandrophobic? I've never heard of her being transphobic in any way, so this is new.

I've explained it before, but here's a summary:

1. She says that men don't make anything of value (trans men are men)

2. She only acknowledges the existence of trans women (Thank you trans women only for laying the groundwork for my music [she thanked "trans people" and later clarified that she meant only transfems])

3. She idolizes a musician who lost his record contract over him and his wife's comments about how "you can't be a tomboy anymore, they mutilate any girl who is remotely non feminine and tell them that they're boys" (paraphrased, it's on the wiki page for Jason Aldean)

All pretty damn transandrophobic if you ask me.

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you should support drag kings. btw. I think it's incredibly telling that nobody knows they exist at all. "oh they weren't around" they've been around since the late 1800s/early 1900s

(poster from 1907)

(image from 1977, right)

support drag kings just as much you support drag queens. Or at least more than Chappell Roan.

@transfemme-shelterdog

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i think it should be illegal to not have paper menus. and it should be illegal to only accept digital payments and not accept cash

generally making anything accessible only with a phone sould be illegal. like genuinely regulated by the govt and forbidden. IMO

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how many horrible live action movies will it take for people to realize that animation is the best medium to have fantasy creatures because when everything is animated your suspension of disbelief works better

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this tweet is new but it is actually a fundamental text for me

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Yeah you could say I’m doing numbers on tumblr. And that numbers? One

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So after browsing the "transmisogyny" tag for a couple weeks and seeing the animosity towards trans men (and anybody who was AFAB in general), I decided to look into the "transandrophobia" tag that some transfeminists were decrying. Y'know, to see trans men's side of the story.

It only took a few minutes for me to see that most trans men who used that word were not doing what some were claiming they did.

They weren't remixing sexist MRA talking points or weaponizing their AGAB against trans women. They were just putting words to the specific axes of oppression they faced, and how they don't benefit from patriarchy like cis men do (society does not see them as men except for when it hurts them, like with the bathroom thing). This only becomes clearer to me the longer I browse the tag.

And this has left me confused about why some transfeminists are so angry at them. Is it because they've had bad experiences with trans men and assume all of them are like that? Are they taking posts by trans men talking about transandrophobia in bad faith due to paranoia that a world that's hostile towards us breeds? Do they just not understand? I don't get it.

As a trans woman myself, seeing all this fighting and vitriol over what seems to be misunderstandings is saddening.

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Sometimes it'll just hit me how strange Ben 10 worldbuilding can be. Just little details like "the infants of one alien race are so delicious that they were being hunted for sport and sacrificed as peace offerings, so they ended up making artificial food flavoring that tastes like infants, and now you can get Infant Flavored Ice Cream in all corners of the galaxy"

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i love when ppl say “that’s so you” it feels good to know i exist and have a vibe

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he enjoyed his trip to scotland

smiles

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"teens are prone to tantrums and are emotionally unstable" - okay, yeah, puberty is real, and emotional regulation is a difficult skill to learn. but also. any adult person would be pissed if their opinions were disregarded, they had no say in what happens to them, their emotions and feelings were downplayed and their privacy were intruded on.

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This is a retrospective kind of post (I'm talking to my former self if you can't tell). For so long I would turn down every opportunity to dress masculine but at the same time I would be jealous of other people who got to do so. I didn't want to dress feminine but felt obligated to because of arbitrary rules of society. Nah, just wear what you want to wear. You only have one life.

This isn't about not coming out because you're not in a situation that you can do so. Of course make sure you are safe first.

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i always assumed that arburian pelarotas rolled up mostly as a defense mechanism, and that they're in the middle of the food chain - both predators and prey.

then i realized cannonbolt has ONLY sharp teeth.

his species is undoubtably built to hunt and kill and rip through flesh with great ease

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all that said the guy with my car insurance company who answered the phone was so fucking funny. he had a heavy Georgia accent which endeared me to him immediately and he was sooo worried about me and apologetic that there was no one to send to my aid and I said "that's okay. if i end up missing though they're gonna interview you as the last person who heard from me. what if there's a documentary?" and he said "ooooooo, can I start drama?" I said, "well, what kind?" And he said, "I'm gonna tell them you said you saw a green flash in the sky over the field and I heard strange voices then the line went dead."

genuinely obsessed with him to this very day.

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thats all