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going to start saying people "obviously aren't in a romantic relationship, they have something deeper and more intimate going on" to confuse and upset alloromantics

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Did Howard Shore's LOTR score become a deeply-ingrained part of your personality or are you normal

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She'll fuck me if I cook good enough I know it

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Always funny when your dash is curated in such a way as to avoid the initial annoying discourse and the annoying overreaction to that discourse and you only get the, like, two-levels-removed nuanced essay-length polemics and analyses to what sounds like discourse hell out there.

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I'm going to start this post off by saying that I write fic, and I know the pain of putting something out there and not getting a response. It sucks and it hurts and it puts a dent in my self-confidence. If I have the choice between posting a work on AO3 and getting only comments or posting a work on AO3 and getting only kudos, I'll probably choose comments let's say 8 times out of 10.

But with that in mind, posts that attempt to shame or guilt readers into commenting don't actually work.

Negative reinforcement (in the form of shame, guilt, or other worse emotions) doesn't make anyone want to do the thing. It just makes them want to avoid the guilt, etc. Rather than encouraging someone to talk to you about your writing, you're making that person want to avoid you so that they don't have to feel bad. That's just human nature.

I've said before that I think a lot of writers are looking for community rather than comments, and I still think that's true. The reason I love both writing and receiving comments is because it makes me feel like I've made a connection with someone. I may never know their real name or what they look like or where they live or anything else but what fandom we have in common, but we've reached out to each other in this text-based medium and we've shared words that made each other feel something.

I know that these posts are written out of frustration or loneliness or needing support or a hundred other reasons I could list off the top of my head. But when I read "you should be grateful for the things I give you and show me proper appreciation" it just reminds me of my parents telling me to clean my room or to follow the rules while I live under their roof.

It's so much more vulnerable to admit, "I don't know if this story is any good and I really wish someone would reassure me right now."

It's much harder to say, "I feel so alone in this fandom, and I want to make friends with someone."

It's difficult to admit, "I worked so hard on this for so long and I'm so tired, but if someone out there likes it then all of that effort will be worthwhile - and if no one says anything, then I'll feel like my effort was wasted."

I'm not trying to shame the people who made those posts, and if that's how this comes across then I'm sorry. I'm just trying to explain why I think those posts will harm more than they help.

I also hope that any readers who see this post will understand that those writers are just people who are feeling a lot of different ways, and they're venting their frustrations. I've been there. I've reblogged those posts before when I was feeling frustrated like that too.

If you're able to comment, those comments are appreciated. If you're not able to comment (for whatever reason), that's okay too. ❤️

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incorrigible.

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"if you ship this thing it's because you're too naïve to understand that it's toxic and that you wouldn't like a relationship like this" actually it's because I see one of them as a mentos drop and the other as a bottle of coke zero and I want to watch the mess they'll be together

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On a scale from Turgon to Elrond, how well did “raising your sibling’s offspring/descendant in your hidden valley and having them fall in love with your daughter” turn out

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Very important to have friends who enjoy media you don’t personally enjoy, both because having friends with varying interests can help you understand why someone might enjoy something even if it’s not your cup of tea which can help build empathy skills and also because there’s nothing more fun then being able to explain the plots of your respective obsessions to each other and have the other respond with “what the fuck”

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Hua Cheng (And Hualian) but as Textposts I’ve found

Xie Lian Version

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I think everyone has both "hard" headcanons (things that are so integral to your understanding of a story that you can't enjoy content that contradicts them), and "soft" headcanons (things that are mutable, where you aren't strongly attached or you're open to alternate interpretations) and if you aren't sure if something is one or the other you can just read a fic where the author disagrees with you and see whether you react with "Huh, that's interesting" or "I have been overcome with a creeping sense of existential wrongness."

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look. i'm sorry. really sorry for not just letting this die. but it bugs me. so suffer i guess.

If I saw a canonically trans character and said "well I prefer to write them as cis" people would be pissed at me, for good reason.

If I saw a canonical trans woman/man character and wrote them as a demigirl/boy and said "while the show just says she/he's trans, not that she/he's a trans woman/man" people would be pissed at me, also for good reason.

If a character was directly implied to be trans, and the creator confirmed later that they were meant to be trans, and I went "well it wasn't said explicitly in the show so it's not canon," people would be pissed at me, for good reason.

If the majority of a fandom did those things, we could collectively agree that the fandom is really transphobic.

You can sub this out for any queer identity with mainstream representation, and probably non-queer identities too.

So why is it considered acceptable to do these things to aspec characters?

Why are ships contrary to aspec identities the only ships against a character's canon queer identity that get popular?

Why are aspec people the only ones that get consistent ship discourse over our real identities?

Why are aspec people the only ones asked to sit back and take it?

Why is it on aspec people to not ruin allo people's fun in fandom, but allo people are allowed to ruin ours?

(The answer to all of the above is: aspec identities are viewed by other queer people as functionally straight and are treated as such)

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I think what I love best about Bingqiu and part of why SVSSS is my favourite of the MXTX works (though tbf i haven't finished TGCF) is Binghe is weird and obsessive and creepy and no one else likes him and Shen Qingqiu loves him anyway

And not in spite of his obsessive weirdness. Not because of he's obsessive and weird. And not because he's ignoring that he's obsessive and weird

He just loves Binghe and Binghe just so happens to also be obsessive and weird and off-putting to almost everyone else who knows him

And that's okay because he's still Binghe

He's still talented and bright and capable and yeah he's obsessed with Shen Qingqiu but he cares about him and won't do anything to make him sad anymore. Especially now that Shen Qingqiu understands him and where he is coming from and is meeting him in the middle

So they're good!

Binghe tries to be less jealous and possessive and needy and Shen Qingqiu tells him he can be a little needy and possessive and that he doesn't need to be jealous because he is always Shen Qingqiu's choice.

They meet in the middle where both can be happy

Binghe is obsessive and weird and Binghe is still lovable and deserves happiness and I needed that in my media

And by the way I'm not saying that themes of this don't exist in MXTX's other works but it's so in your face with SVSSS and I appreciate it

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