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Hello please reblog this if you’re okay with people sending you random asks to get to know you better

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some of you have never had your notp be the most popular ship in the fandom and it shows

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who up tiding they strider

is anybody thinking about gillion tidestrider rn

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Need everyone’s most incomprehensible meme re: Mormonism

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i know we're all sick of self-care being a marketing tactic now, but i don't think a lot of us have any other concept of self-care beyond what companies have tried to sell us, so i thought i'd share my favorite self-care hand out

brought to you by how mad i just got at a Target ad

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"Sometimes while I ride the subway I try to look at each person and imagine what they look like to someone who is totally in love with them. I think everyone has had someone look at them that way, whether it was a lover, or a parent, or a friend, whether they know it or not. It's a wonderful thing, to look at someone to whom I would never be attracted and think about what looking at them feels like to someone who is devouring every part of their image, who has invisible strings that are connected to this person tied to every part of their body. I think this fun pastime is a way of cultivating compassion. It feels good to think about people that way, and to use that part of my mind that I think is traditionally reserved for a tiny portion of people I'll meet in my life to appreciate the general public. I wish I thought about people like this more often. I think it's the opposite of what our culture teaches us to do. We prefer to pick people apart to find their flaws. Cultivating these feelings of love or appreciation for random people, and even for people I don't like, makes me a more forgiving and appreciative person toward myself and people I love. Also, it's just a really excellent pastime."

— Dean Spade, from his essay For Lovers and Fighters

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i've been working on it for a year 😔

also the discord bot sprinto shoutout sprinto

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If you are a fan fic writer and you're alright with people making fan art of your fic, reblog this 💚

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Hello mutuals. Apologies for the suspension, but I was quite busy these past few days.

Hellidiah OCs from askbox coming tonight.... for real

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“Go into the arts. I’m not kidding. The arts are not a way to make a living. They are a very human way of making life more bearable. Practicing an art, no matter how well or badly, is a way to make your soul grow, for heaven’s sake. Sing in the shower. Dance to the radio. Tell stories. Write a poem to a friend, even a lousy poem. Do it as well as you possibly can. You will get an enormous reward. You will have created something.”

— Kurt Vonnegut (via lazypacific)

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Tell me a soft memory

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It’s so crazy that suicide prevention is just people going awwww don’t!! Awwww come on noooooooooo stopppppp

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why do you still identify as Mormon?

I think the best way to answer this question is to share what I wrote for the book Living on the Inside of the Edge: A Survival Guide.

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“Why do you stay?”

I get this question from queer people and from non-queer people, from active members and from those who’ve left.

It’s unusual to come across a queer individual who still attends The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, especially one who isn’t still in their 20’s. Most queer people leave the Church, and for good reason. So why do I stay?

I stay because these are my people.

I stay because this is where I learned to communicate with the Divine.

I stay because it makes things easier with my family.

I stay because it’s familiar.

I stay because of inertia.

I stay because there are queer kids who need someone.

I stay because I’m stubborn.

I stay because Jesus invited me to.

I stay because I will not be erased. My presence means the Church has no choice but to recognize queer people exist.

I stay because I feel like I make a difference.

When I was not out, I stayed as part of trying to pass as straight.

I stay because I want to increase understanding.

I stay because it gives me credibility with LDS parents of queer kids.

I stay because sometimes my soul is stirred at church.

I stay because humans have a need for religion as evidenced by the many religions we have created since time immemorial.

I stay because this is my church, too. I claim a seat for as long as I want to belong.

I stay for the meaning it makes in my life.

I stay because it helps me be better and do better.

I stay because I am unwilling to cede the space to bigots and retreat to only queer-friendly places. I do not believe segregation will ever improve things.

People seek religion because they have questions. I have many unanswered questions. But queer people generally find fewer answers than others. If I stick it out and am faithful all my life, what blessings are in store for me? What’s my place in heaven? Our church emphasizes families, so why am I expected to go without a family of my own? What’s old age going to be like if I don’t have children or a spouse? Fundamental questions and choices about faith and love and life aren’t limited only to LGBTQ+ people, but we’re faced with questions in a painful and ongoing way.

The choice to leave is always in front of me, it doesn’t go away. It can be exhausting. I certainly feel dissonance as a queer member. I have to swim upstream to stay in this church; sometimes it’s really tough. It would be easy for me to float away. Do I ever want to give up? Yes. I’ve considered leaving, but I’m not ready to go away yet.