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The argument points about lesbian intercommunity discourse against xyz term/label/etc. that hinge on saying how this "only happens in lesbian communities, you don't see other orientations have to deal with this!!!!" has always been simultaneously funny and frustrating to me.

Because 9 times out of 10, the equivalent to that DOES in fact exist in other lgbtq+ communities. It just doesn't get anywhere near as much public attention & arguments over it.

"You don't see people trying to argue for trans women or women in general to be allowed in the gay community like you do with people arguing for trans men or men in general to be allowed into the lesbian community!!!" You literally do. There are women, including trans women as well as various others such as genderfluid, multigender, and other genderqueer people who consider themselves women, in the gay community. There's even an equivalent term to the term lesboy for women who are gay called turigirl.

"You don't see gay men unironically using she/her & calling their partner their girlfriend!!!" You do. There are definitely gay men, hell even gay cis men, who use she/her and/or prefer typically feminine terms.

(Both of these two above points are extra funny to me because both have been said to my face while I am a pangender gay guy who does use she/her. They are literally saying to my face that people like me don't exist when they do that.)

"You don't see people arguing gay men can actually be attracted to women!! You don't see people trying to call themselves mspec gays like people try to say they're mspec lesbians!!!!" mspec gays do in fact also exist. Also what world are you living in where homophobes who try to convince lesbians that are definitely not into men they actually all can and are attracted to men exist, but people who try to convince gay men who aren't attracted to women that they can be and are attracted to women don't? Way to say you don't talk to any gay men because most could tell you that they do in fact have experiences with that happening.

There's a lot more I could point out, but those three are ones I've seen the most recently. Point is, if you're going to make an argument that something is bad/a problem, and what you are using to help prove that point is the fact that it doesn't exist within other similar communities, maybe check that it actually doesn't exist in those communities first so you don't straight up erase shit from other communities to try to make a point about your own.

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how chronically online people with absolutely no knowledge of queer history look going to spout their bullshit opinions about lesboys/he/him lesbians:

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stopppppp complaining about he/him lesbiansss omlll. who gives a fuckkkkkk who carrreesssss oh my GOD! get over yourself! bitch we have bigger issues! we are all queer how about that! stop fighting! let people be who they want to be who gives a fuck as long as they aren’t hurting people!!!!! let’s just connect over how our queerness makes us beautiful, if we can fucking connect we can feel a lot stronger as a community. labels are meant to help us all feel clarity in our identities, they aren’t meant to separate us. I LOVE QUEER PEOPLE, WE SHOULD ALL LOVE EACH OTHER BECAUSE THEN WE ARE HAPPIER AND ALL THAT LOVE GIVES US POWER. those fuckass politicians don’t give a fuck about he/him lesbians they just want ALL of us GONE. they want us to fight with each other, we are giving them exactly what they want! so just shut the fuck up and love your queer siblings please! :)

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He/him lesbians discourse and the problem with trying to understand queer culture from a heteronormative POV.

The Tiktok OP uses any pronouns.

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people will say they love butches then the butchest they can stand is that one pic of sabrina carpenter in a suit. like, give me a he/him butch with top surgery, a packer, a beer gut, and a full beard NEOW!!

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don’t know who needs to hear this but AO3 comments section is not Letterboxd. giving unsolicited criticism to a fanfic writer does not make you a “fanfic critic” because there’s no. such. thing.

giving unsolicited criticism to a fanfic writer just makes you a spoiled, rude, entitled asshole at best, makes the author stop posting their works altogether at worst.

a reminder that it’s always okay to just stop reading and quietly click away from a fic if at any point you feel like you don’t like it for whatever reasons. unless specifically asked, there’s no need to tell the author, whose work you read for free, how you dislike something they wrote for themself for fun.

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stop being silly in front of me

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I think it is. Because time passess?? Weirdly? In this show?? Like if you think about it the court case definitely took place over a good solid months, at least the spring semester of school if you think about the school play and such? And the last person we see be intimate with Georgia is Joe.

GRANTED pregnancy is weird so of course it could actually be Paul's but god i really really really hope not. I mean for drama theyll probs be like "oooo is it paul" BUT Georgia and Joe were obviously always meant to he end game. So im placing all my cards on it being Joes.

PLEASE LET THE BABY BE JOE'S

Because Joe is literally the best option .

He punched Gil , He's cute , He's sweet and he cares about the community.

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ginny hate will always be so forced; because how can people say this like she isn't EXTREMELY DISTRACTED WITH HER MOTHERS MURDER TRIAL RN. Like yea obviously if Marcus is reassuring her she'll believe him because she has to much on her plate right now to not!!!

“ginny is so self centered for not noticing marcus’ depression and alcoholism” it’s almost like he’s been trying to conceal it the entire time which is a common symptom of depression and alcoholism???

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Zion, please get off your high horse. You left your daughter with her barely legal mom that didn't even finish high school while you went around the world taking photos. It's obvious they were struggling financially. You just didn't want to see it.

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the level of crazy you have to be to meet a cute boy at a rest stop when you’re fifteen who gives you a pair of sunglasses and a glimpse of a kinder happier life so you keep those sunglasses for the next fifteen years and then after you murder your husband you move yourself and your two kids to his hometown (which you still remember) and start to haunt the farm to table coffee shop he owns AND THEN you seduce the mayor of that hometown right in front of him georgia miller you’ll always be famous to me

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GINNY & GEORGIA 2.04, “Happy My Birthday To You” 3.07, “That's Wild”

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ginny and georgia season 3 is a good example of what happens when the writers actually listens to the audience criticism and adapts to be better

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let’s just talk about joe singh yall.

- he waited for georgia for 15 years

- named his horse milkshake after her

- he went to her WEDDING

- he watched her fall in love so many times and he still stayed

- he lets her throw and talk him around in s1 and 2 its so cute

- he made her feel safe enough to be herself around him and to talk about her problems

- he was the only one there for her consistently when she was struggling the most, someone she knew she could rely on

- he never judged or yelled at her EVER

- he punched her abuser because her own husband couldn’t

- then proceeds to apologize when she finds out because he was violent

- lets her be vulnerable with him and cry in his arms

- was respectful and apologizes when they kissed because he didn’t know if she would be more confused with everything that was going on

- was gentle with her when they finally kissed (when he held his hand behind hers so she wouldn’t hit it on the wall hshdjdncj)

- literally confesses to murdering all her husbands and he said “idc” !!!

bitches don’t want men they want joe singh.

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why

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They took David out of the surfing scene and gave his caretaking role to a made up woman character because modern Disney executives can't wrap their head around a man wanting to take care of a child that's not his after being rejected by her sister and so having nothing to gain from it. You cannot convince me otherwise.