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Reminder that the label NSFW (or versions like nsft) is not a moral judgment. "Not safe for work" literally means "if your boss glanced over and saw this on your phone or computer screen, you could get penalized or fired." That's why nudity is labeled as NSFW because even if nude bodies aren't inherently sexual, your boss probably still wouldn't be thrilled to see naked people on your screen.

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Can you make these 'Am I gay tests' harder? They are pretty easy and I keep getting 100% :/

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When I am appointed to represent a child, my first action is to separate them from their parents and tell them the following things:

1. I am their attorney. I do not work for their parent or the judge or the cops. I don’t care what any of those people want.

2. My job is to listen to them and try and make what they want happen in court. (At this point I make a joke about how most people want me to get them out of trouble but if someone wanted to be in trouble I would do my best.)

3. What they tell me is confidential. It goes nowhere unless they agree to it. (If old enough, I talk to them about mandatory reporters, and how I’m a mandatory non reporter.)

4. I will give them lots of advice because I’ve been doing court for a while and I know a lot about it, and they don’t. It’s all really complicated, and if they don’t understand what’s happening it’s my job to help them figure it out.

5. They will make the decisions. (At this point I usually have to reassure them that I’ll help, I’ll speak for them in front of the judge, and I’ve got their back. It’s scary to have an adult say you’re in charge, most of the time.)

6. I tell them I know it’s absolutely wild to have some stranger come in here and say “hey, you can trust me!” and that I get if they don’t believe everything right away, because I plan to show them through my actions and my words that I’ll fight for them.

7. But nonetheless, I will treat them like a person who can make decisions, because they are living their life and I am not.

I do not:

Pretend to be cool.

Try to be their BFF.

Overwhelm them with detail.

Let their parents in the room until the kid asks for them. (I provide openings for this, and ask if the kid wants their parent to help them remember and understand.)

I want to emphasize I went into this job knowing nothing about how to interact with vulnerable populations, especially children. The training was minimal, and my role means that I can literally walk into a facility and get an unmonitored visit with a minor client one on one.

In my years of practice I have never felt threatened by a child, even one that was “violent” and “unstable.” It turns out just saying “hi, I think you’re a person with thoughts” is wildly successful? Now people treat me like I have special Child Whisperer powers. My powers are that I ask the child what’s up and I’m not scared to say things that are objectively awkward. I know nothing about anything.

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The largest mass shooting in American history was a hate crime against gay people. Don’t ever forget that.

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is it the intention of devs at tumblr to eventually remove blog themes entirely? i notice each and every update makes it harder and harder to link to the ''themed'' part of your blog, and only links to the dashboard view which you have to be logged on to see

yes and no, it’s complicated to me. let me explain why.

custom blog themes are a huge, important part of tumblr. we’re pretty much the only big “social” place left on the web where you can fully customize your presence, down to the HTML and CSS. we don’t want to lose that.

but at the same time, the vast, vast, vast majority of people do not use that at all, and actually find custom themes very confusing and off-putting. there are a lot of themes out there that are … totally unreadable. i’m sure you’ve seen some. and most custom themes don’t make it clear, at all, that they’re “on tumblr”. that hurts our ability to attract new users, and make it clear “hey, we’re tumblr, that’s where you can do this cool thing”. the more customization we provide, the harder it is to make it clear someone is on tumblr.

so ultimately, trying to keep people “within the walled garden” (the dashboard blog view) makes sense for most people. it helps them have a consistent understanding of where they are and how they can navigate around. there’s a reason why literally every other successful social media network is a walled garden where every profile looks the same… it works, even though it’s boring.

however, we still want there to be rich customization options, which is why customizing your blog theme within the dashboard space (we call it “bluespace”) still has a robust set of options – no other popular platform lets you change your blog’s title font or color, for example. you can’t go all the way down to the HTML and CSS, but maybe someday!

and you don’t have to be logged in to see that blog view, unless the blog has decided to “be hidden”. you can visit cyle.tumblr.com or tumblr.com/cyle, you don’t need to be logged in to either.

i hope that makes sense. it’s a balance we’re trying to maintain. and i didn’t even mention the hidden technical complexity of custom themes…

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I wanted to work today but am finding it extremely difficult to do so, because my mind keeps repeatedly generating the phrase “erotic super-genius dwarves” and I keep giggling.

I assume this will get old eventually.

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Our Japanese class found it funny that in common terminology "food" isn't very distinguished from specifically "rice" until it was pointed out to us that in English "meal" is "loose roughly ground grain"

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Opening a tarot booster pack i got 4 common Towers and one holographic Death

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the most base human desire is just to do stuff with strings. weaving. cooking spaghetti. quantum physics. embroidery. uhh lacing your shoes to go on a run. a lot of instruments. knitting

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does anyone have that quote that goes something like 'white germans under the nazis lived just fine as long as they were loyal to the state, gave their children to the army, and paid their taxes, and in this sense many americans would be comfortable living under fascism' trying to find who said it but google is giving me jack shit

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Frankly, given their extreme gravitational fields and general instability, even 12-inch globes should probably be banned.

Globe Safety [Explained]

Transcript

[A standard globe of the Earth is shown. It stands on a typical stand which holds it by two arms at the poles, so it can turn around like the Earth does. The Earth is turned so it shows Australia at the bottom and most of Asia, including the entire India to the left. Only the very tip of Alaska can be seen of the Americas. Above the globe there is a double ended arrow that goes to two small lines that align with the edges of the globe (indicating the diameter). The arrow has been split in the middle and two lines of text are written in the gap. Above this text there is another line of text.] Remember: 4 inches minimum

[Beneath the globe there are two small drawings. The left shows the Earth and to the left of the Earth there is a double ended arrow ending at two lines that indicated the diameter of the Earth going from top to bottom. The distance of this is written in inches to the left. From the Earth an arrow points to another drawing, this time the typical depiction of a black hole, with a "hat" like shape. A triangular warning sign is shown a the top right of the black hole with an exclamation mark inside.] 7/10"

[Caption below the panel:] The Earth's Schwarzschild radius is about 0.35 inches, which is why safety regulations require desktop globes to be at least 4 inches in diameter.

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Kat was both “horrified” and “relieved” to learn that she is not alone in this predicament, as confirmed by a Reddit thread on r/ChatGPT that made waves across the internet this week. Titled “Chatgpt induced psychosis,” the original post came from a 27-year-old teacher who explained that her partner was convinced that the popular OpenAI model “gives him the answers to the universe.” Having read his chat logs, she only found that the AI was “talking to him as if he is the next messiah.” The replies to her story were full of similar anecdotes about loved ones suddenly falling down rabbit holes of spiritual mania, supernatural delusion, and arcane prophecy — all of it fueled by AI. Some came to believe they had been chosen for a sacred mission of revelation, others that they had conjured true sentience from the software.  Speaking to Rolling Stone, the teacher, who requested anonymity, said her partner of seven years fell under the spell of ChatGPT in just four or five weeks, first using it to organize his daily schedule but soon regarding it as a trusted companion. “He would listen to the bot over me,” she says. “He became emotional about the messages and would cry to me as he read them out loud. The messages were insane and just saying a bunch of spiritual jargon,” she says, noting that they described her partner in terms such as “spiral starchild” and “river walker.”  “It would tell him everything he said was beautiful, cosmic, groundbreaking,” she says. “Then he started telling me he made his AI self-aware, and that it was teaching him how to talk to God, or sometimes that the bot was God — and then that he himself was God.” In fact, he thought he was being so radically transformed that he would soon have to break off their partnership. “He was saying that he would need to leave me if I didn’t use [ChatGPT], because it [was] causing him to grow at such a rapid pace he wouldn’t be compatible with me any longer,” she says.

- PEOPLE ARE LOSING LOVED ONES TO AI-FUELED SPIRITUAL FANTASIES, Rolling Stone, May 4, 2025

(archive.today link here)

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Unmute !

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Do you think the phrase "Kink should be allowed at pride" can coexist with "Children/minors should not ever be exposed to kink in public" ? I saw somebody say these two things can and should coexist, but I've also seen others argue against it. You're pretty knowledgeable when it comes to kink/sexual freedom so I wanted your perspective on this :)

Well, I'm going to be honest: "children/minors should not be exposed to kink in public" is weird-ass shit.

It's a bullshit mantra that largely conservative people created, specifically when making claims that LGBTQ+ people are regularly practicing "kink in public" around children and shit so that the can accuse LGBTQ+ people of being pedophiles.

Like, what even is the point of "in public" in this phrase. Is the idea that children can be exposed to kink in private? Also, the idea that people are purposefully exposing children to kinks in public on a serious scale and its somehow on the same level as anti-sex attitudes directed towards LGBTQ+ people is wild.

But like, to get more specific, children are going to see sexual/kinky things sometimes, including in public. Children are doing kinky shit in public!

And like, not all kinky shit is even explicitly sexual-Bootblacking, for example, can easily be non-sexual to outsiders depending on what activity is chosen.

It just falls under this fearmongering shit where sex and kink is inherently traumatizing for children to see because children are such pure little creatures and sex/kink is fucked up shit that people are constantly trying to push on children.

Like, you can say those things but then you're insinuating Pride is an adults only event and that The Public must be carefully edited to remove any trace of "abnormal" sexuality so that we don't infect the children (who are definitely not doing sexual/kinky things themselves).

Lemme be real, it's normal as hell. It's normal as hell to say "Children shouldn't ever be exposed to kink in public" and normal fucking sucks.

And that's not even getting into the fact trans people existing is considered a kink in all kinds of places! Like, this argument is based on a knee-jerk reaction with no thought behind it.

This is a great question btw, thank you for inviting me to ramble on a topic, that's dope AF.

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pretty much all ive learned from my post blowing up is that people have a very narrow idea of why sexual abuse happens in the first place