sapphic-sundry

[sapphic-sundry]

Lesbians dressed as clowns disrupted a "gender-critical" panel last month at University College London. Participants were surprised when trans and cis dykes from The Dyke Project obstructed the proceedings while in cheerful clown attire. Julie Bindel, one of the panelists, has been a major voice against trans, bisexual, and SWer rights. The protesters chanted, “you’re not feminists, you’re all clowns!” while interrupting her. More of these protests, please! Read the full story on Dazed.

[sapphic-sundry]

TWO ASEXUALS SITTING IN A TREE

S-I-T-T-I-N-G

[sapphic-sundry]

You know what? Forget the discourse. This is no longer my hill to die on.

You wanna ship canonically aspec characters because “aro/ace people can still date/have sex”? Okay, then. LET’S DO IT.  I wanna see an aromantic character with an alloromantic love interest. I wanna see that confession of undying love and the moment when the aro character says they will never feel the same way—not romantically.

I wanna see the asexual character with their allosexual partner. I wanna see that moment when the ace characters tries sex with their partner for the first time because they want to make them happy only to realize that they are 100% sex repulsed.

I wanna see the two demiromantics who don’t even know if what they feel is romantic attraction, but they adore each other and just want to make healthy snacks together and destroy each other at Mario Kart.

I wanna see the two aces who love sensual affection and are figuring out what they define as sexual or not.

I wanna see the romance + sex neutral aroace who happily and consensually does whatever makes their partner happy…but their partner still struggles with feeling undesired. 

Oh, babe. You thought shipping an aspec character would be just like shipping an allo character? 

[sapphic-sundry]

I've seen plenty of pictures of junk. All the time. I know what a vulva and a penis look like. They don't look like mine. They never have.

Even the modern color-coded diagrams of ambiguous genitalia. It's all simplified and displays it in an underdeveloped state. Because these diagrams are used in the identification of "deformities" in babies and small children. They are not anatomical refrences, displaying a body as it is, but rather visuals for diagnostic criteria.

All of these things look familiar to me, in that I've seen them plenty of times before. I never really acknowledged that none of these things actually looked like what I see when I look at my own nude body. The strangest thing is that I've never thought much of it, for years. At least, not until I saw something that actually did resemble what I have.

It was one of those old 1800s anatomical drawings of "hermaphrodite genitals" refrenced from fully grown un-mutilated intersex people, those are what looks truly familiar to me and to my knowledge of myself. Complete with all the wrinkles of skin, pubic hair, imperfections and asymmetries that reminded me that this was a life drawing of a real person.

I remember when it hit me. The thought that I was looking at the objectified, pathologized, immortalized body of person who existed over a hundred years before I was born.

And they looked like me. In a way I had never seen before.

[sapphic-sundry]

Personally I think “do trans men experience male privilege?” is a complex question with various conclusions that depends on a lot of factors (Passing! Class! Age! Country! Race!), but if your example of trans men experiencing male privilege is “they can pass for cis women” you have completely lost the plot so hard it’s in space. It’s in the asteroid belt. What the goddamn hell are you talking about

[sapphic-sundry]

It's "We need to dismantle toxic masculinity" until trans men/mascs express sensitivity or vulnerability and then suddenly it's "man up" "don't be a pussy" "stop being a crybaby" "you're being emotional" "Oh so you're a little uwu soft boi huh" "well you wanted to be a man didn't you?"

[sapphic-sundry]

x

[sapphic-sundry]

hey wait! i know you! we used to be chained next to each other in the cave! wow, so good to see you, how are ya? man. remember how we used to talk about the shadows on the wall together. gosh that was a long time ago. but hey. sure is one heck of a sun out here, right? it's good to see you.

[sapphic-sundry]

Flyer and assistant

[sapphic-sundry]

based shadow

[sapphic-sundry]

Masculinity is a prison to you. I on the other hand am frolicking in it like a beautiful meadow.

[sapphic-sundry]

ohhh my god. Ok so i was explaining bottom surgery to my dad. And he wasnt weird about it thank god (i didnt expect him to be mind you but yknow cis people) but at the fucking end he was like. Well you know what the other term for a phalloplasty is right. and i was like. what is it. And he said. it's an addadicktomy. (Like. add a dick to me.) my dad out-joked me about something transgender. i cant believe this

[sapphic-sundry]

me: “yeah I dated a guy in high school who came out as gay. it was before i knew i was a boy so needless to say it didn’t work out”

coworker: “damn dude was preordering”

[sapphic-sundry]

Not being a Tumblr discourser is wild since people really will see "trans women deserve a unique term to experience their oppression, and they hold no power over cis women or society in general" and "AFAB people including cis women have been marginalized throughout history and still are in many countries" as contradictory opinions and not simply two things that can be true at the same time.

[sapphic-sundry]

girly-pop the pansexual african lily who works at the blood lab check-in

[sapphic-sundry]

🐝 Honeybee Transfem 🍯

(honeybee transfem)

Definition: A transfem label that implies nothing about AGAB. It can be used by anybody who considers themself transitioning to womanhood or femininity, whatever that means for them.

Note: This was coined with plural people and people who were AFAB (intersex or not) in mind although anybody can use it regardless as long as you are in good faith. I cannot stress enough that you cannot gatekeep this term

Originally Coined: July 18th, 2024

term coining

flag coining

[sapphic-sundry]

I understand more and more things about cisgender men the longer I’m on testosterone. I know why teenage boys use so much axe now. I understand the crying thing. I know why they accidentally break things. I know why they wear shorts in the snow. I know why so many of them don’t use washcloths. I see everything.