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is there a label that ACTUALLY means 'attraction regardless of gender' and doesn't have transphobic origins?

yes it’s called “bisexual”

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Asexuals, do you own an ace ring?

Yes!

No but I want one

No and I’m good without

No but I can’t (not out, wouldn’t feel safe wearing it, etc)

ACE RING?! 😮

Not ace

(Poll brought to you by a very excited asexual who got their first ace ring today!)

Congrats Anon!! I'm so happy for you 🤗

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2024:

LEZ OUT!!!

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"It’s often unhealthy to hyper-analyze your sexuality to the point where how you experience it changes where you belong. This is why the idea that broader terms are somehow more restrictive is baffling. Continuously breaking labels down and creating terminology for each facet of one’s identity shrinks communities until it’s just one person convinced that they’re the only one who relates to their experiences. It isolates people and ignores the importance of individuality within a collective identity."

On Hyperpersonalized Sexual Identity

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Need some advice please! I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about a year and half now. Both of us are minorities however she grew up upper middle class compared to myself (low income). Because of this difference I’ve just now noticed her privilege when it comes to her NOT attempting to watch the news.

Last night she told me that she understands why I try to understand the world news. However, she doesn’t understand how it “benefits” her since it does not help her in her goals…

We’ve had this discussion before and I’ve always had accommodated her perspective. However, I don’t think I can do it that anymore.

I am super frustrated because how do I explain to someone to care about others? You would think because we are both minorities and gay women she would care about others?

As much as we would like to, we cannot control others. It sounds like your girlfriend is lacking practical empathy.

If this bothers you a lot, you may want to step back and consider if you would be okay with her response for the duration of your relationship. If you can't envision it, then consider putting an end to it.

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literally hate how lgbtq ppl are constantly asking "am i valid?" "is this a valid way to be?" every 5 seconds. girl idk what to tell you but if you live your life seeking validation from others your self-image will always exist at their mercy. you gotta get some self-respect and stop begging others to validate you

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You know, an interesting tumblr transformation that's happened gradually, and which I've seen no one talk about: ask-culture has essentially dropped off to nothing.

By which I mean, asks used to be WAY more of the tumblr economy. They used to be more common to send, and receive, and see. They were integral to the collaborative, forum-like behavior of old tumblr communities, not even to speak on the HUGE number of ask-blogs that used to exist to only be interacted with in ask-form.

I'm not saying this in a vying-for-attention way but instead in an observational way: I used to get way way more asks in like 2015, even with a fraction of my follower count. I wonder if it's due to the homogenization of social media sites? There's a lot more of this divide between "content creator" and "consumer" instead of just a bunch of peer blogs who would talk to each other. "Asks" aren't really a thing on twitter, are they? And as I understand it, the closest thing to an "ask" on instagram or tiktok would be a creator screenshotting some comment and responding to it in a new reel or video or whatever those content mediums are. Are asks just too tumblr-specific? Is that aspect of the site culture dying out as more and more people converge to using all their social media sites in the same way?

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www.bisexuality.com/careers

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gender and sexuality is a fickle thing. sometimes two gay cisgender men will be dating for decades and one of them will turn out to be a transgender woman. a lot of times that won't work out but sometimes it will. her partner may still choose to identify as gay. She might even identify as gay, and they continue to be happily in love. Queer politics isn't going to get any better if you don't accept that situations like that happen every day.

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black lesbians honestly deserve so much more. they are constantly an afterthought in the lgbtq community despite having so much history in building it. it really hurts seeing other lgbtq members brush off black lesbians struggles to them “overreacting” or being “too emotional” over being constantly erased from their own community. listen to black lesbians. if a black lesbian tells you that you are making your lgbtq space unsafe or uncomfortable for them then you listen and make changes. it shouldn’t be controversial to say that black lesbians deserve to feel safe and accepted in the lgbtq community.

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I identify as bi but almost every person I've had a real crush on is a guy and yeah technically if a girl asked me out I wouldn't say no (unless I'm not into her but that goes without saying) and now I'm not sure if I'm bi or just a really hyped up ally

Hehe probably bi or wlw leaning ^^

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BWAAAAHHHHH wake the fuck up everyone on earth

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My choices may be super unrepresentitive of the actual number of followers people have, cause I have no idea what is normal.

Please don't use this as a way to feel bad about yourself, no matter how the results go, because tumblr is just a place to have fun and look at silly posts, there is no clout here! Higher numbers will look inflated because the higher up I went, the more the category covers.

If you have multiple blogs, please vote for your highest follower count

Please reblog so we can get a representative sample size!

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Shout out to my bi sisters who have family members who are “definitely not homophobic” but extremely biphobic

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You’re wildly misinterpreting my meaning.

worst thing people did was turn the incredibly personal experience of being lgbt into strict definitions and rules and then ridicule and harass others who don't fit into their neat boxes, as if that isn't what we were trying to run away from this whole time.