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the trans community is by far the most toxic community i've ever encountered on the internet. speaking from experience of someone who was deep in it. even if this blog did not exist, even if i did not peak, it still would have been traumatizing.

the sky is always falling. people are always out to get them, or so it seems. it reminds me of the Jehovah's Witnesses, who believe the world will end *literally* any day now.

i'm thinking of people i've met in this community. toxic, abusive people. everything you say is wrong. everything you say is problematic. everything you say could make you a fascist or a nazi or a terf in their eyes. everyone laughs when someone says "nobody's allowed to ask questions anymore!" but it's true when everything you ask is immediately taken in bad faith. that queerplatonic groupchat copypasta is funny until you're 14 and on the receiving end of it, when your only friends are online and threaten to cut you off at the slightest mistake. the trans community is a panopticon, and even if you don't buy it, you're still in it if you engage with it. and i'm tired of feeling like i'm constantly being watched and judged.

the only way to deal with a narcissistic community like this is to not engage. i simply can't anymore. one of the reasons it's flourished is because of attention - both positive and negative, but mostly negative. if libsoftiktok and the like didn't exist, and if tumblr hadn't banned porn and scattered most of the userbase across the web, it probably would never have gotten this far. but it has. maybe it would have gotten this bad even without those things, idk. but it sucks to see niche bullshit 2014 tumblr discourse like trans shit and DID faking suddenly become major culture war topics.

they like to fight. they like to feel oppressed. i don't want to keep giving them that dopamine hit. i'm ready for this culture war bullshit to end. as much as i've loved laughing at it... i can't anymore. it's poisoning me.

it's been a while! but i'm making this post to let you know i'm leaving tumblr.

when i peaked in 2021, i felt like my eyes were open. like i had been sleeping, and now i am awake. i had been lied to for so long, and in the back of my mind, i knew something was wrong. but now i had the words for it. i felt like i had escaped the matrix, as it were.

in reality... i had just traded one dogma for another. i hadn't stopped playing the game, i had just switched sides. i will always be a feminist. i will always prioritize women and girls over men. and transwomen will never be women... that is just a fact!

i just want to live in reality and block this shit out as much as i can. i keep waiting for it to blow over, but it looks like this is our new normal. i still hold out hope that things will change. you may call me a traitor, or say i'm burying my head in the sand, but i don't care anymore. i physically cannot care anymore. the trans community has given me so much trauma, both from my time in it and because of this blog, and i don't want to engage with it anymore.

i can't keep going with this blog. continuing with it is just engaging with my trauma regarding the trans community further. its hurting me. i hate playing this game. it's driving me crazy. it's making me sick. the only way to win this game is to stop playing.

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it's been a while! but i'm making this post to let you know i'm leaving tumblr.

when i peaked in 2021, i felt like my eyes were open. like i had been sleeping, and now i am awake. i had been lied to for so long, and in the back of my mind, i knew something was wrong. but now i had the words for it. i felt like i had escaped the matrix, as it were.

in reality... i had just traded one dogma for another. i hadn't stopped playing the game, i had just switched sides. i will always be a feminist. i will always prioritize women and girls over men. and transwomen will never be women... that is just a fact!

i just want to live in reality and block this shit out as much as i can. i keep waiting for it to blow over, but it looks like this is our new normal. i still hold out hope that things will change. you may call me a traitor, or say i'm burying my head in the sand, but i don't care anymore. i physically cannot care anymore. the trans community has given me so much trauma, both from my time in it and because of this blog, and i don't want to engage with it anymore.

i can't keep going with this blog. continuing with it is just engaging with my trauma regarding the trans community further. its hurting me. i hate playing this game. it's driving me crazy. it's making me sick. the only way to win this game is to stop playing.

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i think i might take an extended break from this blog to touch grass. idk when i'll be back but i promise i will come back eventually. this is not the end!

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everytime i shave i feel like the worst feminist ever. im sorry women im sorry andrea dworkin but ya girl gets ITCHY

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I’m a gay trans man who gets SO much gay dick and you’re SO mad about it

congrats on coming out as a heterosexual woman

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Just found out about balkan sworn virgins. If you don't know those are women who decide to become virgins for the rest of the life and take a male role in society. Maybe Wikipedia could explain this better than me. But what's your opinion on this?

i'm going to be real. i've literally never heard of this before.

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just saw that post with the person who was like “we can’t tell a person’s chromosomes”

meanwhile literal babies can immediately tell the difference between men and women. like…yes, we CAN tell. we’re born with the innate ability to tell. we can tell before we even have memories or a sense of self.

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Girl, you're so based. I love reading your posts or add-ons, they always make me smile or laugh. Thank you for being so right and funny at the same time ❤️❤️❤️

thank u <3333

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Lol there are literally straight men on Grindr who are specifically lurking for TIFs just to get “easy pussy”, that’s what they tell each other.

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if i'm so ignorant, why don't you enlighten me? tell me what i'm missing here.

the queer community needs to start being openly anti pedo and anti predator if they have any hope of being taken seriously in the future. y'all can't have your first reaction to hearing pedophiles will get the death penalty be "ok but this will negatively impact trans people." it sounds unhinged and you're making your entire movement look like creeps and you shouldn't be surprised when people look at you funny and want nothing to do with you.

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I’m a gay trans man who gets SO much gay dick and you’re SO mad about it

congrats on coming out as a heterosexual woman

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the prospect for female class solidarity is dire, my dear friends

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Caroline Criado Perez, Invisible Women (2019)

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Thinking about when I was a freshwoman in college and a formerly incarcerated woman came to talk to my feminist theory class about how she believed in abolition but only for women's prisons. She spoke about how rare violent female criminals are, especially when you exclude abuse victims/self defense etc. She spoke about how many of her peers were broken and abused and needed help. She spoke about how isolating mixed-sex spaces for formerly incarcerated people were because so many of the men were openly threatening or misogynistic. She spoke about how complete abolition is unrealistic and impractical because of the epidemic of male violence. She had so many amazing hot takes that she would say without shame or hesitation. It really opened my eyes because I didn't think I was even allowed to think things like that. Anyway I hope she is doing well and I fully agree.

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Someone probably made a poll like this at some point but I'll do it anyway idgaf

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is your razor fighting toxic masculinity? does harry potter support trans rights? are your sneakers racist? has triscuits released a statement about police brutality