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late autumn walk

by Denny Bitte

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voices scream to hush my breath

As the world spins madly on

Faces turn to shadows in a flurry

Remember, confusion fades

carrying on is not the hardest

plucking the courage to end a dream is

Whisper softly to yourself in those moments

leaves still fall slowly

The sun will shine again

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Love is never something ready made, something merely 'given' to man and woman, it is always at the same time a 'task' which they are set. Love should be seen as something which in a sense never 'is' but is always only 'becoming', and what it becomes depends up on the contribution of both persons and the depth of their commitment.

Pope John Paul II, Love and Responsibility

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An ode to the Weatherman

Will there be rain before dust,

Or simply a raindrop,

Or a summer’s breeze, in the thick of a long winter.

Or the thundering heights of treacherous skies in full bloom.

The caress of the autumn hues, the rustling sweetness of soft leaves atumble

I wanted to measure the whirlwind of the storm with you.

Or rain or shine

You were why i wanted to experience the force of nature.

D.M.

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10 Things to Give Up

1. Trying to please, and be acceptable, to others

2. The fear of making a mistake

3. The fear of change

4. A fear of the future

5. Guilt or shame that’s tied to your past

6. Beating yourself up or putting yourself down

7. Over-thinking

8. Living by your feelings

9. The desire to get even with others

10. The tendency to procrastinate.

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I think communication starts when words are not present at all … I think we put so much emphasis on language, actually silence is so much more important.

Marina Abramovic (via thoughtkick)

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I don’t wanna end up in my 30s saying I knew what I had to do but I just didn’t do it

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My therapist told me something meaningful yesterday, she said “It’s important to remember that when you’re depressed you have to nurse yourself and be extra gentile towards yourself. Just like an athlete wouldn’t break an ankle then force themselves to run that ankle. They rest as it heals and do not think “I am a failed athelete” they think, “right now something isn’t working so i’ll take care of myself until it does.“ 

Just like a broken bone, depression can change the way your daily life plays out, and pushing yourself too hard and getting frustrated when you don’t feel better is just like trying to run on that broken ankle and getting frustrated when it doesn’t heal.

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“It’s okay if all you’re able to do today is just survive. Not everyday has to be spent thriving and progressing and being the best version of yourself. Somedays, all we can do is just go through the motions and exist. And that isn’t weak or pathetic or shameful. It’s human, and on days you’re struggling, it’s enough. Your survival is radical. It’s radical to continue to show up every day and try when the world feels heavier than you can bear. It’s radical to be alive and exist despite all the forces working against you. Just waking up can be a victory. Just getting out of bed and facing the world can be a success. You’re allowed to take a step back and give yourself permission to breathe. You’re allowed to do less and give less when you feel like you’re drowning. You’re allowed to prioritize your self-care.”

— Daniell Koepke

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Picture this: your symptoms have reduced to manageable level and you have healthy coping strategies to deal with them when they flare up. You are living somewhere safe with a job that is pleasant and you have a social circle you enjoy. You wake up every morning feeling good about the day ahead.

It’s possible. It’s realistic. Keep fighting. 🌟

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March 12, 1969, 50 years ago today Paul and Linda got married. Happy Anniversary Paul and Linda!

“we were crazy. we had a big argument the night before we got married and it was nearly called off. we were very up and down, quite funky compared to the eventual image of ‘twenty-five years of married bliss! aren’t they lucky for people in showbiz?’ but we are. you get this picture of us swanning along in a little rowboat managing to avoid the white water, but we were right in the middle of that white water, man, so it’s even more miraculous that we made it. but we did.”-Paul

“We are really on top of one another at the moment and I think it is amazing how we stay so close. Maybe that’s the test. Why not totally put yourself together, rather than always wonder whether you actually like each other?” - Linda

“We spend so much time together because that’s how we like it. I never used to go on girl’s nights out, even at school. And Paul has never liked going out for a night with the boys, either.” - Linda

“All we really want now is to grow old together. We actually look forward to it. We’ll stay in bed all day, eat dinner, make love.” - Linda

‘‘Every love song I wrote is for Linda’‘- Paul 

“She was a really funny lady, very witty. A delicious sense of humour. She was happy. So I use that now. I balance every sad moment with a happy moment. That kind of helps day to day. It helps me get through.” - Paul

‘‘Paul loved Linda more than life’‘- Edward Sexton 

“You’re up on your beautiful Appaloosa stallion. It’s a fine spring day. We’re riding through the woods. The bluebells are all out, and the sky is clear-blue…” -Paul McCartney’s last words to Linda.

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eczema scar

After the wound has healed somewhat, applying things to promote healing such as aloe vera, avocado oil, calendula flowers, castor oil, cocoa butter, comfrey, honey, plantain, and shea butter, are all allies to treat and prevent scars. Keep using these after the scab has gone. Avoid heavy pore clogging creams, synthetic fragrances or harsh cleansers. Scars are best treated when they are newer, but calendula and castor oil and plantain have even helped old scars. Scars can take from several months to two years to heal. AHA peels or laser resurfacing can help reduce any scar that is persistent. Avoid getting lots of sun with a wound that has the potential for scarring as it can render the scar more permanent. Picking at scabs can cause scarring that might not have occurred otherwise. If there is a potential for a scar, consume foods rich in beta carotene, E and B complex. Especially good are apples, apricots, cucumbers, millet, rice, rye, apricots, and sea veggies, vegetable juices of diluted carrot, celery, endive, lemon and pineapple can be consumed. Vitamin E both internally and topically is a favorite remedy for preventing scars.  Taking alpha lipoic acid, zinc, C and bromelain internally may also help prevent and treat scar formation. Use a salve containing vitamin E, aloe vera, calendula, plantain and castor oil. Good essential oils that help heal and prevent scars include frankincense, geranium, lavender and neroli. Homeopathic remedies for scars; Causticum is best for deep scars, old injuries that still feel sore. Crocus helps heal old wounds that still open. Fluoric acid benefits old scars that become red around the edges, and also for keloid scars. Graphites can help minimize old hard scars. Kali iodatum is the remedy for scars that are the remains of small boils on the face, scalp, neck, chest and back. Lachesis is a classic for scars that bleed and break open easily. Phytolacca is used when all else fails. Silicea helps scars that remain from boils or ulcers as well as keloid scars.

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DBT Series (12/17): Radical Acceptance

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A Walk in the Park

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