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People who date fictosexuals should not be jealous that their partner is in love with a character

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I would advise everyone to stay away from Tumblr ask role-play blogs of your f/os because it's more of a con than a pro because of people flirting with them and sometimes people on the blog can bully you because I have seen it before

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Probably the thing I hate most is when I see someone wanting to kill someone's f/o, it's the absolute worst when someone says they want to harm your f/o

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im someone who doesnt care about dark subject matter in media (see: my favorite movies and stories being dark as hell) but oh my god going into the selfship searches and seeing random proship complaint posts barely if at all even related to selfshipping. like i dont care if you think shipping yourself with a fire hydrant means youre inherently proship so all antis are le invalids or whatever just respect boundaries and at least TRY staying on the actual topic please is that too much to ask. im not here for dick measuring competitions over if you can handle watching a serbian film or not im here to cope and that's IT

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ill let you guys respond to other confessions, but know they will be queued like all the others so it may take a while to get to them. i will tag the post you are responding to though to make it easier.

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please do not send asks that are only about antiship/proship drama. if it relates to self shipping in some way it’s allowed, but this is not a confession blog for general shipcorse so please only submit things relating to self shipping!

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sometimes when someone follows me who i just... don't vibe with, even though they haven't done anything wrong or hard, i just don't like them, if they have "doubles dni" i will just pretend to selfship with their F/O until they block me so i don't have to be rude and block them out of nowhere for no justifiable reason, but now that they have blocked me... well, not so rude to block back then ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

like, nooo what shame we're just incompatible, so sorryyy uh huh well let's block each other for comfort, no hard feelings right? since you blocked me first?

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this is a vent about a friend I've been having both selfship and non-selfship related issues with so I just needed to get this off my chest.

I was talking to my friend (irl, they don't even have tumblr lol) about this anime and how much I love this character (we both selfship they just don't use the terminology). the more I talk the more they mention how they're falling in love with this character.

this would be fine but in the past (and even later occasions) they get very possessive of characters. very much "dibs!! I like this character and none of you can like them the way I do! they are mine"

which I get not wanting to share but now it's a little stressful to bring up characters at all out of fear of us liking the same character and there being drama.

unrelated but in the past I would tell my friend about my darker selfships and ocs. I admit I gave them a darker backstory than I usually do, so it makes sense they got sick of hearing it all the time. so after they asked I stopped.

nowadays I indulge in that ship (and other darker ships) more often so I don't talk to them as much because they've already said they don't like hearing it all the time but I want to talk about it all the time.

sigh, once I'm done with school I'll probably lose touch with this friend (and some others lol) but it's just been so draining..

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I'm usually very chill with sharing f/os and all that. but it's getting harder to be these days. the thought of seeing my main f/os with someone else doesn't sit right with me. I don't know, they are very personal to me.

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i respect folks who are jealous and would never disrespect boundaries...

but when i see someone who shares a f/o with me all i wanna do is jump up and down all over the place crazy style, and talk to them about our pookie!! see if our perception is the same or different!! talk to meeeee.

but like i said, i wouldn't do that to someone. i do get jealous, i just handle it differently. for a lot of folks, jealousy isn't something they can switch off, especially if they view their relationship with their f/o as Real. i wouldn't want to make someone panic and cry.

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this was originally a longer confession, but i think i was a little too angry during it. probably from overstimulation. tried to rewrite it a little.

i just don't think people should really be pitying those who don't share their f/os. you don't know what kind of bond someone could have with their f/os, and people don't owe you being ur mutual because you two have the same f/o. seeing people go "why don't you share??? 🥺 pls share with me 🥺🥺🥺" is really annoying, even if not directed towards me.

possessive selfshippers i love you and so do your f/os. they love you very very much always remember that

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I'm extremely anxious about people assuming false things about my selfships! Sometimes I can manage to remind myself that no one would go out of their way to bully me about aspects about my selfships that they just... made up. But I'm always extremely anxious interacting with others anyways :,)

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i know that people will recommend that you don't go in anti tags because it can negatively affect your mental health, but frankly i could not care less about what antis think since 90% they're just edgy tryhard puritans (which is frankly, a weird and kinda entertaining combo in a screwed up way in my personal opinion) so it doesn't affect me to go in their tags

and so well, i go into their selfship tags with a notebook every now and then and make very brief and undetailed prompts inspired by their posts, close the notebook and put it up for a few days so i forget what posts which prompts were based off to advoid plagiarism and will use those for making my own posts lmao

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i think selfshipping may be an unhealthy coping mechanism for me but i dont want to give it up because i dont have that kind of love available to me irl and i would miss my f/os. sometimes f/o imagines make me pretty upset instead of happy because i know its not real and it hurts to think about that, and i cant really predict when they will have that effect on me instead of making me feel good.

i have a lot of barriers to any kind of romantic relationship irl and even if i didnt, im very discouraged by the idea of being with a real person with flaws and disappointing things and having to deal with actual relationship stuff and make compromises etc. instead of it just being a perfect life with f/o where everything is how i want it to be. i also think i would miss that deeper connection with my f/os if i just started being a fan of them the “normal” way instead.

idk what to do lol if anyone has any advice or something that would be nice, or even if you feel a similar way and just want to talk to someone about it

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i know the proship community is accepting but one of the characters i selfship with is a n@zi, hes totally fictional and not at all real and i don't support any kind of alt right ideology, i just feel so conflicted about it and know i could never talk about it publicly :(

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I've found out a huge bonus to projecting on an OC (for me, but maybe others too?): there's no established characterization getting in the way, so you can just throw ALL THE KINKS AND SITUATIONS at them and your F/O

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Most of my moots on here have like one or two main selfships, meanwhile I have about 13, and one that I'm thinking of making official. Sounds stupid but I feel a bit promiscuous or too quick to make selfships. No one's been mean to me, but I can't help but compare

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