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Reason to Live #12622

 To snuggle cats and feel them purring   – Guest Submission

(Please don't add negative comments to these posts.)

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Be honest do you think that actually learning things in high school is important

yeah dude or else youre gonna be that coworker people post about

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Reblog if you're okay with receiving asks for backstory info on any/all of your fics.

If not all, specify which ones in the tags.

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if u wana play night in the woods u gotta understand 1 not alot happens and what does happen takes a backseat to the more mundane activities 2 theres alot of reading and 3 you will remember when you were fifteen high at night in a playground. and you'll cry

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someone I follow on the bird app just announced they're starting a very exclusive private fic server because they and a bunch of other people want to talk about how much they love the fics they're reading, and as an author can I just say that a really great place to talk about a fic you love is in the comments for that fic

I understand that people are trying to create safe spaces, but as the number of comments that I get on my fics dwindles with each passing year, knowing these spaces exist where my fics are being discussed, places that I am excluded from, makes me want to write fic LESS

I mean I guess who cares, right, because if I stop writing, there's 10,000 other people that will continue...but if you participate in a fic "book club" server and you say nice things there about a fic you loved, maybe copy and paste that into a comment on AO3?

the only thing fanfic writers are asking for in return for hours of hard work is attention. please don't rob us of the one thing that we hope for when we hit "post"

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if you are walking (like literally walking) alongside a friend who uses a wheelchair, please please don't block off curb cuts when you cross the street with us.

wheelchair users can only use the very lowest part of a curb cut. that's why they exist -- we literally cannot get over the curb anywhere else. don't assume we can all do wheelies all the time.

if we're walking/rolling side by side, i need my friends who can walk to a) go in front of / behind me or b) step over the curb somewhere in the green area.

of course there are exceptions, but if you can, please step over the curb when you're walking with a wheelchair user. if you block the curb cut, i can't get out of the street before the light changes.

i shouldn't have to tell you why that's bad

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PSA

EVERYONE BE CAREFUL. ARCHIVE OF OUR OWN PHISHING SITE (first link)

(the link is purple bc i clicked on it to get the link w/o special characters to report to various phising page report places).

the page leads to what appears to be the normal archive page, w/ the popup about the privacy policy & everything, with the url https://xn--iao3-lw4b.ws/media DO NOT LOG IN. THEY ARE HERE TO STEAL YOUR LOGIN CREDENTIALS. LOOK AT URLS BEFORE ENTERING ANY PERSONAL INFO.

STAY SAFE ON THE INTERNET GUYS!!

please reblog to spread this warning!!

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they should make a version of socializing that doesn’t make you feel like you’re still the weird 12 year old kid that doesn’t know why she’s not normal like the other kids

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Where's the African mythology?

The Kickstarter is live now!

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ai does not belong in creative spaces. period.

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Get these ai writing assistants out of my face!!!! I don't care if my writing is bad at least it is mine!!!!

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It’s practically 2014 and you guys still don’t know how to google if an article is real or not before giving it 100,000 notes

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dont yell at me for this but imo i think self-diagnosing a pd as a minor isnt actually that bad (or at least not as stupid as its made out to be). i mean sure you can be hormonal or whatever but if your symptoms are prominent or bad enough to fit the dsm thats probably something you should check out. bpd traits (as an example) as a minor probably isnt just someone being an “edgy teenager”

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I hate the way my wrists start to itch when I’m in a bad headspace. I become hyper aware of them, and nothing I do can calm it. It’s like they’re desperately pleading me to cut and it takes all my willpower to resist. I scratch and bite, I do anything to calm the feeling. Anything that doesn’t involve cutting. But they keep screaming. For a little while I’d use fire to calm it. Get them just close enough to hurt but not enough to burn, but I’ve decided that’s still too unsafe. I don’t know how to handle it but it drives me insane. Why can’t my body just agree that we shouldn’t cut ourself?????

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So there’s been this mini-discourse on my dash about queernorm aristocracy/monarchy in fiction, and how trying to find an “unproblematic” version of it just leads to creating scenarios that have DIFFERENT problems than the obvious ones. (The big example right now is adoption as continuance of royal bloodline—where exactly do the babies come from? Isn’t that in itself a problem?) And I think this discourse is interesting because it illustrates something a very smart friend of mine has been talking about for a while.

The idea of a queernorm monarchic system is one that has the hallmarks of from what the author St John Starling refers to as “pulp”—“fiction that prioritizes the pleasure and enjoyment of the reader above all else.” It’s a pleasurable fantasy—people want to marinate for a while in an imaginary world where queer people are at the highest echelons of society and have big dramatic fairytale romances that take place in ancient castles.

Pulp is an old and venerable genre but, as St. John points out, people have some anxieties about it now and are trying to write work that is both pulp and not-pulp at the same time. This is the source of fretting about creating a queernorm monarchy that’s “unproblematic”—people feel like they have to solve every possible point of queasiness in the worldbuilding before they’re able to indulge in the fantasy. The solution to this, of course, is not even to try. The pulp queer monarchy will contain latent problems, but those aren’t the focus of the story, and a reader in it for the fantasy—as any pulp reader is—will just ignore them.

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You know, when I see fictional characters who repress all their emotions, they're usually aloof and very blunt about keeping people at a distance, sometimes to an edgy degree—but what I don't see nearly enough are the emotionally repressed characters who are just…mellow.

Think about it. In real life, the person that's bottling up all their emotions is not the one that's brooding in the corner and snaps at you for trying to befriend them. More often than not, it's that friendly person in your circle who makes easy conversation with you, laughs with you, and listens and gives advice whenever you're upset. But you never see them upset, in fact they seem to have endless patience for you and everything around them—and so you call them their friend, you trust them. And only after months of telling them all your secrets do you realize…

…they've never actually told you anything about themselves.