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me, unloading a fitted sheet from the dryer: *squinting* what's that you've got in your mouth

fitted sheet: nothing :)))))))

me, prying open its twisted jaws: na-ah!!! give it to me RIGHT now!!

fitted sheet: *resentfully spits out a wad of 3 very damp dishtowels, a pillowcase, and a pathetically sodden washcloth*

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Where are the Maenads. We have a need.

What this decade needs is gangs of roving Maenads.

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hello? who’s there?

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Important rules/tips I've learned as an adult that helped with anxiety

If people are mad at you, it's their responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess

If they're mad at you in secret anyways, they're the ones in the wrong, not you

If people don't like what you're doing, it's their responsibility to tell you

If they say it's fine when it's really not, they're the ones in the wrong, not you

People are allowed to be wrong about you

If they are wrong about you, wait for them to bring it up, because if you try to, you will inevitably overcorrect

Some people are committed to misunderstanding you. You will not win arguments against them. Yes, even if you explain your point of view. They do not care. Drop it

The worst thing that will happen from a first-time offense is being told not to do it again. Maybe with a replacement if you broke something

You can improve relationships and gauge willingness to talk to you by giving compliments. It's like a daily log-in bonus and nobody thinks twice about it

Most things are better after you sleep on them

Most things are better after you have a meal

Most things are better after you shower

Your brain makes up consequences that are irrational. If the worst DOES come to pass and someone acts like they do in your head, they are overreacting, and you are entitled to say "what the fuck"

If your chest hurts after you feel like you've made a social error, that's called rejection-sensitive dysphoria. It means your anxiety is so bad that it's causing you physical pain, which is a good indicator that you're overreacting. Tense yourself, hold it for 20 seconds, let it go, then find a distraction

If you're suddenly angry at someone after you feel like you made a social error, that's also rejection-sensitive dysphoria. You are going to feel annoyed about it for awhile, but being genuinely pissed off is your anxiety trying to find something to blame to take the responsibility off your shoulders, and getting scared because it can't justify itself. Deep breaths, ask yourself how much you ACTUALLY want to be angry at that person, then find a distraction

"Sour grapes" is more healthy for you than stewing. Deciding you don't like someone who's perpetually annoyed with you, won't talk to you, etc. makes letting go of anxiety over them easier

If people don't like you, they will find reasons to be annoyed with you when they otherwise wouldn't. If people do like you, they will find reasons NOT to be annoyed with you when they otherwise would. People do not ping-pong between the two

You DO have to make a conscious choice not to think about something. If you're having trouble circling back to it, say out loud that you're done thinking about it and why. Then find a distraction

When you're upset, part of you is going to want to make false bids for attention (suddenly texting differently, heavy sighs, etc. but when someone asks you about it, you tell them it's nothing). Do not listen to it. You gain nothing from it except more misery

People like to help people they care about. It makes them feel good about themselves

If you think you're insufferable for needing help, see above. Yes, really. They get a serotonin kick from it

If you think you're insufferable for mannerisms you have, you either have to consciously choose not to do them, or accept that they're part of the package that comes with you. Being apologetic about existing does nothing except make you more miserable

If you do things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it makes it easier to do them when you hate it

If you avoid things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it reinforces and magnifies how bad it feels when you hate it

Seriously. Read those last two points again. If you can make yourself make a phone call when you've got nothing to lose, you will slowly lose that panic you get when you have to make a phone call you haven't prepared for. You do have to CONSCIOUSLY take that step

Hobbies that make you care for something get rid of that nagging feeling that you're not doing enough. Go grow some rosemary

If you don't engage with your hobbies regularly, you will feel miserable, and anxiety will spike

Hobbies are things that give you a bit of happiness. They do not have to be organized or named to do that. Go be creative in something. Play with coins. Make up lists. Start a new WIP

No one cares what you look like

If people point out things they don't like about how you look unprompted, they are being rude. You are entitled to say "what the fuck"

People who like you will find you pretty to some degree. Minor things about your appearance go completely unnoticed. Literally, scars and dots and blemishes do not register to someone who likes your company

You looking at yourself in the mirror is 10x more closely than anyone is going to look at you

If you're anxious about your body type, and you're creatively inclined, make/write an oc with that same shape. Give them nice things and make other characters love them. Put them on adventures. You'll start to see yourself in the mirror more kindly

You care about wording and perfect lines/colors way more than anyone who views your work ever will

Sometimes when you're upset, you're going to feel like not eating. Do not do that. Not eating makes you more miserable

Same with things you normally enjoy. Denying yourself helps no one. You are punishing yourself for being sad. Stop it

Both of these will take conscious decision to break the habit of. Make yourself do it anyways, and it will slowly get easier

And again, to reiterate: If someone is mad at you, it is THEIR responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess

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I think Seven of Nine would approach Tuvok like 'I am unaccustomed to being alone but the other crew members keep trying to socialise with me and I don't care for it. I've judged you the member of the crew least likely to engage in meaningless social interactions. I would like to spend some time with you.' And Tuvok is like 'that is logical. You may join me in my quarters this evening.'

She comes over and stands motionless by the wall while he sits and works on his reports and personal log. After 3 hours she's like 'that was satisfactory. I will join you again next week' and he's like 'acceptable'.

It's a major event in both of their social calendars.

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Of course! Here is the delightful, and mostly braincell free, Poob!

My cat is named The Poob. He is 5 years old. I just felt I should share that with you.

May I See The Poob ?

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Turns out the horsemen of the Apocalypse now prefer to go by Shareholder Profit, Private Equity, Corporate Personhood, and Workforce Optimization.

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Friends described living under the Trump Administration as being slowly beaten to death by a rubber chicken.

It still hurts. It's still painful. But you keep hearing a synthetic BAWWW every time it hits you as a constant reminder of how it's the stupidest possible way to die.

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Friend, you reblogged my reblog that explicitly HAS artist credit and links to the artist's portfolio. I am confused why you would call me out as not having credited them, when that was the entire point of my reblog?

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@ all non-americans on this website: shitting on americans when we are actively trying to cope with life under oligarchical fascism is so fucking mean and unnecessary. "hahaha at least in EUROPE we have an EDUCATION SYSTEM" thats like seeing a guy get robbed at gunpoint and then making fun of his haircut

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Happiness Will Come To You.

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I hope Nael knows their poem made me cry

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WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK

White, armed, militant antigovenment terrorist group acquitted of crimes committed on national fucking tv in front of the entire country. WHAT. HOW IS THAT EVEN POSSIBLE.

Native activists, performing nonviolent protest actions, are attacked with militarized police and national guard troops, in support of a probably illegal corporate construction project. ALSO ON NATIONAL TV.

FUCKING HELL. WE CAN SEE WHAT YOU ARE DOING. STOP THIS RACIST COLONIALIST BULLSHIT.

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We are not angry and afraid because the world has changed. We are angry and afraid because it didn’t change. It has been this way (unjust, racist, sexist, violent, the rich profiting off the poor and wars and and gaming the system) for a long time, time out of mind. And always, always, when any steps are taken to make it not be so, in any way, however small, it rolls violently and horrifically back to what it was.

We are angry and sad because what’s been proven is that nothing has changed.