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[shlogfrog]

Any advice on what to do if your parent is in a very conservative but not radical friend group?

My dad’s a hobby sheep farmer and has known and been friends with people in the community his whole life. They are all really nice people, but the issue is that they are on the more traditional/conservative side of the spectrum. Any time I’m around them I feel distinctly uncomfortable.

I want to be very clear I’ve never felt unsafe. A) no one knows I’m nonbinary and B) no one have ever said anything hateful. Just a few comments making fun of trans people and treating it like a fad or something.

Again these are all great people, just a bit out of touch and traditional (and unfortunately stubborn). Any advise on how to give my dad a different perspective/influences? Not looking to replace his friends, just give him an alternative perspective as well

My mother is all into homesteading and off-grid living videos right now. Every time I check up on her, this is what she wants to talk about.

It gives her a sense of peace and purpose I guess. Which is good, she’s been struggling to find that with her injuries and condition. She’s learning skills, and feeling prepared for “the worst”. Like I can’t get her to stop watching conspiracy theory bullshit on YouTube so at least this kind of content alleviates some of the anxiety the other content amplifies, because she feels like she can do something now to secure her safety later.

But to get through these conversations, I have to tell myself— hey, if natural disaster comes our way, some of this might be useful. But I know she’s not just thinking a big storm or natural disaster. She’s preparing for the collapse of society. And I don’t know how to break it to her that we wouldn’t survive that. You can make long lasting candles with crisco? Cool. Where you going to by crisco when society collapses? You’ll stock up now? Ok cool. What will you do when it runs out? Honestly, before it runs out, what will you do when people with guns come to take your various stockpiled supplies?

If we hit a point where society collapses, we’re done for. Food, medicine, etc. we can’t survive without society, without a world where people are working together trying to help each other out.

So, I’ll go through with this shit in the name of natural disaster preparedness, and because it helps her. But that’s as far as I’m willing to put energy into it. I refuse to prepare for, bet on, or hope for the collapse of society. I’d rather spend my energy trying to prevent society collapsing, what little part I can play in that. I’d rather spend my energy supporting people in my community. I’d rather work and build towards a better future, not prepare for the worst.

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I re-blogged this eight months ago and it hasn’t happened yet

ha?

every single person who reblogs this

every

single

person

will get “doot doot” in their ask box

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If by the time the 2024 Time’s Square ball drops on New Years Day this post has accrued more than 2024 notes I’ll write a sappy & cheesy G-rated love poem for my wife @authortobenamedlater and then shamelessly share it on here for all to see.

[shlogfrog]

ha?

every single person who reblogs this

every

single

person

will get “doot doot” in their ask box

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“I was busy,” the vigilante says simply, placing their pistol in a holster and pulling a larger weapon off their back. As they adjust their grip on the new blaster, its mouth points at Phantom for just a moment—it jerks away the tiniest bit. Red doesn’t seem to notice, or maybe they just don’t care enough to acknowledge it. ---

my second piece for @bleedingectoplasm 's @invisobang fic

Need to Know Basis . (chapter 5 is one of my favourites)

(the ghost descriptions in this are So Good SO GOOD. i love love love phantom and valerie's dynamic in this fic, and tucker's no-one-knows outsider pov is BRILLIANT.

(please look at @marzfartz art for the fic here and here it is so SO evocative and well done. i love love love it)

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Overtime

(Edge institute)

The Institute building becomes the site of a spatial-temporal anomaly that stretches, compresses, and loops time based on location inside the building. Due to the overall looping effect, only a few people are consistently aware of this. These people do not include the temporal anomaly specialist, which is too bad, considering it's her fault.

The people who are aware are:

Steven Johannsson - He really wishes he wasn't, but apparently spatial-temporal anomalies count as technology and his stupid tech-bane curse can screw it up.

Mark Waters - Time has a pretty loose grasp on ghosts anyway, you know?

Princess - A completely normal (evil detecting) golden retriever.

The Institute AI who is very upset about her atomic clocks not lining up right.

This one confused faerie who showed up to kidnap Zoe and is just having the worst time.

Unfortunately, the fate of the Edge Institute is in their hands (and paws) and they all wish it had happened earlier in the day.

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hi i don’t usually talk about this or make long rant/vent posts but acephobia is genuinely fucking awful and i feel like screaming.

“ohhh, ace people just want to INVADE the lgbt community” no. you know what i want? i want to stop being told im fucking broken. i want to stop being told that i don’t have worth as a fucking person unless i experience sexual attraction, i want people to stop saying that i need to FIX MYSELF, and oh, i especially have problems with that fucking last one.

do you have any idea how many ace people are pressured into sexual relationships that they don’t want? do you have any idea how much self-hatred comes from that message hammered into your head over and over and over again? the idea that you’re a broken human being, that you should force yourself to do something you hate in order to fix yourself? and if that sounds fucking familiar, then yeah, it does, doesn’t it??? it’s almost like acephobia parallels and intersects with other forms of oppression pushed on lgbt people (many of which are ace, by the fucking way)!!! 

for the rest of my goddamn life, im going to feel guilty whenever I have any romantic relationship. regardless of their support for me, im going to feel fucking guilty for not giving them something ive been told my entire fucking life that i owe them, by virtue of loving them at all. im going to be labeled as and think of myself as a freak of nature just because i don’t want to have sex, probably ever in my goddamn life. im going to have to fight the inclination towards hating myself for something i can’t control, which like, feels pretty familiar. tons of alloaces feel like this, and it goes fucking double for aroaces. i can’t speak on aro experiences, but i guarantee you it’s just as fucking soul-crushing, probably in a different way. 

and when we dare, when we fucking dare try to talk about our experiences to people who understand what it’s like to be ostracized and discriminated against because of stigmatized sexual orientation, we’re told to shut the fuck up and go to hell. we’re told that none of that matters, that we’re faking it, that we’re taking up too much space. we’re told that we don’t fucking belong here, that we don’t belong anywhere, that we flat out don’t fucking exist. its the same thing on both sides, no matter where we fucking turn, we’re nothing but broken and useless and annoying. maybe if you shove us under the rug, we’ll stop talking and suffer in silence. 

but you know what? there are plenty of people in the lgbtq community that think we belong here, plenty of them being ace and queer! there are plenty of gay and/or trans people that think sex is great, who can look at somebody with a wildly different experience then theirs and still say “yeah, that sounds awful, i wish you the best.” you know. like a compassionate human being. 

so to any acephobe that’s listening; im so fucking sorry that you can’t think about anybody but yourself, that sounds like a lonely fucking existence. personally, i have no interest in sex, but can recognize the discrimination of people based on their sexualities! i can see them as siblings who i will stand with and for, instead of a scourge to be stamped out or ignored. that doesn’t make me morally superior, it makes me a bare minimum decent human being. so stop treating people like shit and maybe try to see things from a slightly different perspective. and while you’re at it, maybe stop sending us death threats and harrassment and then claim no one hates us.