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The Joy of Writing For Yourself

Thriller author Dana Haynes once said, “The First Reader for your story is you”. When I read that, I had to pause. As writers, when it comes to our writing I think we focus on our audience first when truthfully, we should focus on ourselves. This is especially true of anything we’re planning to publish. We want people to like our writing. But the real question is: do you like your writing? I…

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What’s the one luxury you can’t live without? One luxury I can’t live without is having a phone. I can’t live without having a phone because I do everything from my phone. It’s how everyone can reach me no matter what.

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““Imagine being with someone where it’s enough safe to just talk for hours about your fears and the things you’re ashamed of … Hours of pure vulnerability. And when you look up again and expect the worst, you get kissed instead. imagine …” A.K. mentor”

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“fuck you, my child is fine-”

Ma'am, your child is a writer

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““Don’t waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.” Paulo Coelho”

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One of the best lessons you can master in life is to master how to remain calm.

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Sunrise

In the early morning quiet I listen to the clocks echoing each other’s rhythms.

I sip my coffee and gaze at the lake, a dark mirror reflecting stars too lazy to set.

This looking glass also reflects my thoughts: a flock of restless birds that circle and circle.

As a knife of pale pink carves the horizon, my mind is full of thunder.

In this moment of great peace, I am a storm.

I fill myself with a gentle wind and blow the clouds away.

As the Sun rises in my head, she kisses me warmly and all the world glows.

©️ JM Tiffany

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how do i write a character using sign language?

Hello here are some Tipps ✨

1. Research Sign Language: Start by researching the sign language that your character uses. Sign languages vary from country to country, so identify which sign language is relevant to your character's background.

2. Consult Deaf and Hard of Hearing Individuals: To create an authentic representation, it's important to consult with individuals who are deaf or hard of hearing. Seek their insights on sign language, Deaf culture, and the experiences of people with hearing impairments. This will help you avoid stereotypes and misconceptions.

3. Develop a Backstory: Create a backstory for your character that explains their relationship with sign language. Were they born deaf, or did they lose their hearing later in life? How did they learn sign language, and who taught them?

4. Show, Don't Tell: When writing a character who uses sign language, show their communication through actions and dialogue. Describe the signing gestures and expressions, and convey the nuances and emotions of their interactions.

5. Include Interpreters: Depending on your story's context, you may need to include interpreters to facilitate communication between your signing character and those who don't know sign language. Describe how this interaction works within the story.

6. Highlight Cultural Aspects: If your character is part of the Deaf community, explore the cultural aspects of that community, such as shared values, customs, and experiences. This can provide depth to your character and the narrative.

7. Diverse Personalities: Just like any other character, make sure your signing character has a unique personality, with strengths, weaknesses, goals, and motivations. Avoid reducing their identity solely to their use of sign language.

8. Respect and Sensitivity: Approach the portrayal of a character who uses sign language with respect and sensitivity. Be cautious not to sensationalize their deafness or make it the sole focus of their character.

9. Subtitles and Descriptions: If your story is written, consider using subtitles or descriptions to convey the signing character's words and expressions to the reader. This allows you to depict both the sign language and the dialogue in a way that's accessible to all readers.

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Sure, I’m sad, but I’m not looking to soothe that sadness by replacing it with a new relationship. Women are allowed to be sad, and they’re allowed to be single, and they don’t need to hear that one day a man is going to make it all go away by telling her she is good enough again. She’s good enough as she is.

Charlotte Green

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When it’s over, leave. Don’t continue watering a dead flower.

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How do you stop being insecure about writing and how do you become less sensitive to criticism?

Confidence in Writing, Less Sensitivity to Criticism

While few writers are ever completely secure in their writing ability (confidence can increase or decrease with mood, project difficulty, and other factors), your confidence in your writing will grow naturally as you write more and more. In other words, it's not something that just happens. You have to spend a lot of time writing a lot of things, and your confidence will build as you go.

You can help the process along by:

-- reading a lot -- writing a lot -- honing your craft via learning about writing -- seeking feedback from writing partners/beta readers/editors, etc. -- learning your weaknesses and improving them -- learning your strengths and embracing them

Becoming less sensitive to criticism is a little bit trickier, especially because there can be complicated things that play into it, like past experiences, present mood and mindset, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, etc.

However, if you're someone who is sensitive to criticism, I cannot stress enough how important it is to simply avoid reading reviews and comments left by readers. If you want feedback you can learn from, seek that out through a qualified writing friend, critique partner, beta reader, editor, etc. and let them know in advance that you're sensitive to criticism so they work with you to give you the feedback you need in the least upsetting way possible. And even with feedback from a qualified person, remember that writing feedback is rarely truly objective. People always bring their personal preferences and own ideas into the feedback they give, so just because a qualified person criticizes something you wrote doesn't mean they're absolutely right or that you're a bad writer. Feedback is there for you to weigh and use only if you agree it will benefit your story.

Something else that helps to remember is that even the best, most critically acclaimed writers in the world have people who hate their writing. Tolstoy, Dickens, Poe, Hemingway, Steinbeck, Austen, Woolf, Christie, Angelou, Atwood, Gaimen, King, Morrison, Allende... every single one of them has thousands of 1-star reviews, critical reviews, and people who just can't stand their writing. Yet, they're all popular writers known the world over, with millions of books sold, and universally loved. All of these names appear on lists of the greatest writers of all time.

And, something else... the degree to which criticism bothers you will decrease as your confidence increases. Not just because confidence naturally thickens your skin, but also because you learn to tell the difference between haters and people with genuinely good points.

I hope that helps!

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every so often I think about how important it is to recognize that some stories work the best in certain mediums and that movies are not the end all be all ideal form of media that we should all hope to be elevated to. sometimes movie adaptations are good but sometimes they’re a disservice to the story. some stories are made to be experienced in the form of a video game and the same effect would not be had if the same story were to be adapted into a movie. sometimes an analog horror series is the perfect way of telling your story and it would lose what made it special if it were made into a movie. sometimes a story is meant to be a comic book and it wouldn’t be as fun if it was a movie instead of something you could read. please please please please please recognize that comics and youtube series and video games are just as good as movies and turning them into movies has the potential of ruining the impact of the story that’s trying to be told.