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Closing asks for awhile!! Sorry guys, I just don't have the spoons for answering questions. Though... Maybe I need to make an FAQ page for this blog. :'D Is that something you guys would find helpful? A lot of the asks are basically the same thing or something I've answered previously, so!

In the meantime, I hope you're doing okay! Your f/o has asked me to check on you since they're taking care of something. Did you eat something today? How 'bout drink some water? Did you take your meds? Have you stretched in the last hour? Here's your reminder to do these things if you haven't yet!

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Hey, you! I just ran into your f/o, and they were planning on taking you out somewhere! I'm not sure where, but they seemed to be pretty focused on making sure everything is just right. I don't know what your relationship with them is, but it was just really sweet, so I thought I'd give you the heads up~

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“We are a positivity blog! You’re welcome here! Unless you ship something we think is weird, then you’re not.”

Yeah. Because adults shipping with minors is weird. It's the only actual condition this blog has, because IRL that shit is illegal and I would rather not perpetuate it in a fandom setting. And I even give some leeway by stating that the character has to be an adult at least by their last chronological appearance, since I know some age throughout their series. There is no other kind of selfship I am particularly against, even ones with darker content, because I am well aware that it is a very common coping mechanism that is recommended by mental health professionals to deal with trauma. Even if certain things aren't my personal cup of tea, pedophilic "ships" are the only thing I will not allow here.

And I must correct you, there is no "we" here. I am a singular person running this blog, and it is ultimately up to me to decide who is allowed to be here and who is not. The fact you say that tells me you don't know jack shit about this blog.

This is the only time I'm going to address this shit. If you try to respond, anon, you will be ignored. Go outside, touch some grass, and reflect on why you feel the need to act like a cowardly toddler who can't even show their blog for their attempt at "critique". I'm going to guess you have one of the ships I don't allow here, given your message, so you are not welcome here.

Good day.

[sillyselfshippy]

I think that my F/O are mostly platonic. I thought that some of them are romantic, but I realised that I have mostly friendship/platonic felling for them than actual sexual/romantic attraction. Is still okay to refer to myself as a self shipper even if I have all platonic/familiar relationships? (familiar means that you considered them part of your family)

Always! Selfshipping is for every kind of bond, and familial & platonics are just as important as the romantic ones! >w<

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I'm relatively new to the yumeshipping community and blogs like yours really make me feel happy ^^ I think I'm the first person to self-ship with my f/o... There are some people that like him as a character or consider him their blorbo, but I've never seen anyone who outright self-ships with him.

I guess that's kinda cool though because it means he's all for me :D but again I really enjoy your blog and I look forward to more posts!

It's a fun time! I have a couple who are like that, where at most I see OCs shipped with them. Granted, I've already explained why that sort of thing doesn't bother me (linky) but ujyhtgrfe

Hopefully I'll get back to it soon!! I wasn't expecting the blog to blow up like this, so between that and IRL stuff punching me in the face it's been hard. But I'm glad you like the blog!!

[sillyselfshippy]

I am the anon from earlier!

Tomorrow is a big day for us...>w< It is our 4 month anniversary! I am so excited! I am so in love! My beloved f/o means so much to me, he is like sunshine in my life! I can't wait to make plans for tomorrow! Maybe a date by the beach, a lovely meal...I AM SO EXCITED!!!

Have a wonderful day~

So sorry I'm late to answering this--

AAA HAPPY ANNIVERSARY~ I hope it was all the better than you expected, because you and your f/o deserve it~ >w<

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JUST A QUESTION...are we allowed to submit asks/rambles about our f/o's? im a little bad with wording and not sure whether it was stated in the rules. tysm <3

Always!! As long as it's not on the list, you're free to send whatever you like!! I love hearing about people's f/o's~

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So sorry I’ve been away so much, my focus has been elsewhere and we also have a bit of a family emergency that hasn’t resolved yet. I promise I’ll respond to everything soon, I see the asks!! I’m just in between a lot of things that are taking up a lot of my focus right now. ;w;

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I love your blog, the aesthetics are gorgeous! Just wanted to gush a lil here hehe - I love my F/O so much, I can't put into words! 🥰 We both love music and enjoy listening together. Have a wonderful day!

Aw, I'm glad you like them nonnie! It makes me happy to hear people gush about their f/o, makes my day~ >w< So I hope you have just as nice a day/night as I am!!

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is it possible for someone to get divorced from their F/O? How would that work?

I suppose that depends on the individual. Most tend to just say they've "retired" a f/o or just simply stopped shipping with them, but I suppose you could say that! I wouldn't know personally tho, given divorce implies marriage and none of my ships involve that (nor will they).

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Is there a difference between yume shipping, self shipping and oc x canon?

From my understanding, selfship and yume aren't really any different, but not all ocxcanon is a selfship! If anyone else wants to chime in though, feel free~

[sillyselfshippy]

Shoutout to the selfshippers who don't feel seen by the community.

Maybe your f/o is from a series with a fandom that's gone dormant. Maybe you don't feel "heard" by the greater community no matter how you reach out. Perhaps you struggle to interact and connect with others. Or you don't create things of your ship like art or writing. Or maybe you have difficulty opening up. You may not even have f/o's in the romantic or queerplatonic sense, or prefer to focus on writing lore for your self insert.

Regardless of the reason, I see you. And your f/o(s) do too. ♥

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Inbox is reopening! But with a caveat; I’m not going to accept questions on whether someone should ship with a particular character or not. I cannot determine that for anyone. This is also listed in the pinned post!

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AAAAnyway, I'm gonna be closing the inbox for awhile! ^^; This isn't really an advice blog, I wanna focus on bringing the community together again like it was pre-pandemic. So apologies for that!

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hello i wanted to ask, i yume a character that is last seen in its epilogue as an adult but the fandom perceives as 17-18. I've been yumeing him since i was 14, forgot abt him, then returned last may. but I'm turning 18 soon. What are your thoughts? Honestly I've made a version of my f/o that's an adult and a bit different from the fandom one. I almost view it as two diff people.

Sorry it got too long, i just have no one to ask about this and don't want to be a weirdo 😭

-🌼 so i can see my ask l8r

18 is an adult so you're fine! And even if it wasn't, their latest chronological appearance sounds to be older than that, so at least in my eyes it's fine. You'll have to use your own judgement on it though; f/o's do come and go and it's not a bad thing if you decide not to ship with him anymore.

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i saw that recent ask where you mentioned having unique views on the whole sharing-nonsharing thing and tbh i'm so curious how you view it (genuine) if you'd be comfortable talking abt it. i love hearing how other people experience stuff in this community, its almost never the same from person to person

Hmmmm... I was going to let it be at that, but I suppose I can! You asked nicely, so! ^_^

Before I get into it, let's take a look at the RP side of Tumblr. There, it is accepted by the community at large that each "muse" (the character you write) is unique to you regardless of having the same source. Myself and another writer can both write Character A, but our interpretations will still be different even if headcanons are similar. No two perspectives are the same; this is a universally accepted fact on that side of Tumblr. Some will even make it work in their favor so the two same muses can still interact, using AUs like identical twins or alt timelines. Even if two RPers of the same character don't write together for any reason, both still accept this to be true.

Since I have been mostly on that side of Tumblr and for far longer than here, I approach self shipping in much the same manner. I'm nonsharing in the fact that only I can perceive them the way I see my f/o's, thus no one can actually "take" them from me in the first place. Likewise, I'm sharing in the fact that I don't mind seeing others ship with my f/o's, as I don't own the source character and appreciate the fact that everyone else's interpretation can and will differ greatly from my own.

It'd be nice if people could adopt this view a little more, maybe some of the tensions between selfshippers can be eased over a little through looking at things this way, but I'm not so naive to think it'd work for everyone. People's views on "sharing" and why they may or may not is as vast as the various interpretations of these characters, after all. Many don't share due to mental health, trauma... all sorts of things, and it'd be foolish that only that notion can ease any anxiety they have.

So instead, I just try to do what makes my mutuals comfortable, even if that might make me a little sad. Even if they don't want to see or hear about my ship with a character they may have as a f/o too, I still know my f/o loves me and can also say I know theirs of that same character does too.

Hope that helps to better explain my view of it~!

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Also, I'm amazed I even have to say this, but this blog is not a safe space for people who ship incest of any kind or adult/minor ship. That includes changing ages solely for """legality"""; if a character is 18 or older in their latest chronological appearance, fine. But you will be blocked if your f/o is canonically/appears below 18 and you're an adult that ships with them.

That kind of content is not tolerated here, my posts are not for you and you will never have my support. Any I find in the notes of my posts or following this blog will be blocked on sight.