Like don’t you feel like you are romantically fulfilled or like get over celebrity crushes and stuff? Please don’t take this in any malice it’s just that I’m 20 and I’ve realised I’ve been readings fics since I was like 12 and I hope one day I don’t *need* them yk like I’ll feel romatincally fulfilled enough. I think you’re cool and love your blog so no malice 🙏🙇♀️
well. let's get into it<3
i have also been reading/writing fic since i was 12, so that's one thing we have common! you're 20, like you said, so i'm not holding anything against you here, but you don't just get older and stop enjoying things. like, if people stopped writing romance when they got married there would be no romance novels. and when you get married, you don't just...stop finding other people attractive. i mean, some people might and that's fine, but having a celebrity crush is perfectly normal, even when you're completely fulfilled in your romantic relationship!
and it sounds like (to me, at least) you might have some feelings about still liking or enjoying fandom after a certain age. i've seen a lot of that in the last few years, but i just want you to know--you can enjoy fandom until the day you day at 105 years old surrounded by your family. you don't just turn 25 and stop liking the things you like, you know what i mean? sooo many of the people i know who write/read fic are happily married or in long term relationships. my husband makes me feel good, and so does writing and reading and fic and fandom, but they're not the same kind of fulfillment. it's all very different.
and writing is such an incredible way to process things! a lot of the time when i'm writing about romantic or sexy things they're helping me process experiences from long before i met my husband. and pedro is very much my creative muse. he is in a completely different part of my brain from my romantic partner.
i hope this explained some things! i just really want you to know that even if you're 39 and fully satisfied by your SO, you can still enjoy fic and fandom. it's absolutely okay.
Here’s a thing that happened to one of my friends. I was there.
Basically, we were walking down the sidewalk, talking about something meaningless. I think it had to do with a movie. Then this bus screeches up, stops next to us, and a bunch of people with “Down with Cis” shirts climbed out and started beating him up. I was punched and kicked a bit too, but I managed to avoid brutalization by going for their faces. After figuring out what’s happening, I started attacking them back, getting them off of him. He was quite injured but I called 911 and he made a full recovery at the hospital. I was fine, with only a cut on my arm that they patched up.
yall have got to be more normal about Southern people and I'm not kidding. enough of the Sweet Home Alabama incest jokes, enough of the idea that all Southerners are bigots and rednecks, and enough of the idea that the South has bad food. shut up about "trailer trash" and our accents and our hobbies!
do yall know how fucking nauseating it is to hear people only bring up my state to make jokes about people in poverty and incestuous relationships? how much shame I feel that I wasn't born up north like the Good Queers and Good Leftists with all the Civilised Folk with actual houses instead of small cramped trailers that have paper thin walls that I know won't protect me in a bad enough storm?
do yall know how frustrating it is to be trans in a place that wants to kill you and whenever you bring it up to people they say "well just move out" instead of sympathizing with you or offering help?
do yall understand how alienating it is to see huge masterposts of queer and mental health resources but none of them are in your state because theyre all up north? and nobody seems to want to fix this glaring issue because "they're all hicks anyways"
Southern people deserve better. we deserve to be taken seriously and given a voice in the queer community and the mental health space and leftist talks in general.
So I found Aaron Bushnell's reddit and went through his comments/posts. That young man was well read and stable as they can be. Nothing in his writings pointed to someone who was "unstable" or "brainwashed".
He held leftist and anarchist ideals. He belong to the ACAB subreddit. He recognized the evil of the US Military even though he himself was a part of it. He hated TERFS and called out fatphobia. He understood the dangers of white supremecy and the evils of capitalism.
He had a cat. He liked the show fleabag and played elden ring.
Apparently in his will he wants to leave any money in his name to palestinian relief funds. He was trying to find a new owner for his cat.
Rest in peace Aaron Bushnell. The world won't forget & we sure as fuck won't let the media paint you out to be some crazy conspiracy theorist who had no idea what he was doing.