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Break Free from the Need to be Liked by Everyone

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling drained? Not because of what was said, but because of everything you didn’t say? Maybe you smiled when you didn’t feel like it, agreed when you actually disagreed. Said “yes” when your whole body wanted to say “no.” We do it so reflexively to make sure we stay likeable, agreeable, and acceptable. It feels harmless. In fact, sometimes, it even…

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How to Choose the Right Path: Solve or Soothe?

We all know what stress is. It’s everywhere, and in many ways, it’s inevitable. It will show up in our lives: sometimes loud and urgent, other times quiet and lingering. While we can’t always avoid stress, we can avoid getting stuck in it. Everyone has to deal with it at some point, but what truly matters is how we respond because not all stress needs the same response. Sometimes we need to solve…

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Your Screen Time Is Revealing Hidden Layers of Your Mind

We often glance at our weekly screen time report and think, “Another few hours lost to scrolling…” A small sigh, maybe a quiet promise to do better next week. But what if those numbers were more than just a reminder of time wasted? What if they weren’t just about distraction or habit? And what if your screen time was quietly pointing to something deeper like your moods, patterns, or unmet…

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Sensory Overload: In a Loud World, Go Easy Inside

Have you ever wanted to escape your own senses? There are days when the lights feel too bright, the sounds too sharp, and even a kind voice can feel overwhelming. In those moments, you want to just stop the world for a minute or escape from it all. It’s not overreaction. That’s not you being dramatic or “too sensitive.” That’s sensory overload, and it’s more common than we realise. In our…

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Passive Aggression: The Silent Conflict No One Talks About

When we think of aggression, we picture raised voices, slamming doors, or heated arguments. It’s loud, visible, and unmistakable. But some people avoid direct conflict. And we mistake them for being calm, composed, or even emotionally mature. Just because they don’t yell or lash out, we assume they’re peaceful. But under that quiet surface, there may be hidden anger. And it comes out in subtle…

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You Need to Understand Anger Before You Tame It

Anger has a bad reputation. It’s one of the most misunderstood emotions we experience. Something we should avoid, hide, or feel ashamed of. Many of us are taught that expressing anger is wrong immature, or even dangerous. So we must either “control it,” “calm it down,” or “just let it go” as if flipping a switch will magically make it disappear. As a result, we learn to bottle it up, mask it with…

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When Love Manipulates: Understanding Gaslighting in Relationships

Although the term gaslighting feel a little heavy, something that only happens in toxic relations or TV drama. But in reality it’s way more common than we think. It shows up in everyday moments like when someone says, “Relax, you’re taking it the wrong way.” Gaslighting happens when someone makes you second-guess what you felt or experienced. And honestly? A lot of people do it without meaning…

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Why is it important to be flexible in your mind

Life isn’t always smooth, it throws all kinds of challenges at us – loss, stress, failure, and uncertainty. Some days feel like a gentle breeze, while others hit like a storm. If we stay too rigid we risk snapping under pressure. But if we can bend, like a tree in the wind, we’re more likely to make it through. Which means you still stand tall, but you allow yourself to sway when needed. This…

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Present is gift: Being mindful is helpful in healing

Two places where stress, regret, and anxiety often live are – past and future. When we dwell on the past, we hold on to guilt and relive painful memories. And when we look at the future, we often imagine worst-case scenarios and worry about what might go wrong. In both cases, we disconnect from the only moment we truly have – the present. Where real life happens. And that’s what mindful is all…

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Protecting mind in a noisy world with simple boundaries

In our fast-paced lives, it feels like we’re always “on”, work stuff, family expectations, and all the little things in between. No wonder so many of us feel drained. That’s why looking after your mental health isn’t something you should feel guilty about. It’s basic survival. Our mental well-being needs space, stillness, and boundaries. Not as barriers, but as gentle lines that protect our inner…

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Why is it important to make distinction in emotions

Emotions are as natural as breathing. They influence how we think and behave. But emotions are not one-size-fits-all. Sadness isn’t the same as disappointment. Anger is not the same as frustration. And joy is not the same as contentment. Each emotion has its own meaning and purpose. And learning to understand these differences helps you understand your needs and how to respond to them in…

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Allow yourself to fail because it's okay to be human

We are human and we mess up. We make poor choices, fall short on our intentions, forget an important task. And when that happens, we reward ourselves with harsh self-judgement. Replaying our mistakes over and over in our mind, we overanalyse every detail as if beating ourselves is going to undo the past. As if punishing ourselves will make everything right. But in truth, this inner harshness is…

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Thoughts vs thinking: how to make a difference with mindfulness

Thought and thinking. We often use these words interchangeably, but they actually represent different aspects of our mind. Thought is an event like a memory, idea or feeling that arises in the mind. It comes and goes on its own. Thinking, on the other hand, is what you do with those thoughts. It’s when you start analysing, planning, or worrying.  In short, thoughts happen to us, while thinking…

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Empathy: let's focus on how we make others feel

"People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel" - Maya Angelou Feelings are unforgettable, whether it’s joy or sadness, they make a deep impression in our memories which is hard to erase. It’s a fact that people forget names, they forget faces but they always remember the experiences they had in the form of their intense…

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How to be joyful while missing things out

JOMO the ‘Joy Of Missing Out’ is nothing but a feeling of being happy with where you are and what you have. It’s all about staying in the moment and cherishing the simplest things in life. And most importantly, stop worrying about what others are upto. JOMO, an antidote of FOMO is a mindfulness practice which inspires you to bring your focus to here and now. There would always be something…

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Understanding the myths of being self-reliant

"Before you finish eating breakfast in the morning, you've depended on more than half the world." - Martin Luther King Jr. There are a lot of ‘self‘ terms in psychology; self-esteem, self-worth, self-care, self-love and nonetheless self-reliance, a concept to focus on your own strength and building up confidence. But this concept is often confused with self-sufficiency; and people start to think…

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How to beat three P's of negative thinking

We all have moments of self-doubt, times when negativity sneaks in. When we make second guesses about our abilities and start to question our efforts, this mindset can come from various places: pressure we feel from society or high expectations that we set for ourselves. And when these negative thoughts take up most of our headspace, our outlook becomes pessimistic. This pattern of negative…