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10 little things a man can do express love to her that requires less to no money at all .

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Do couples really need to test their relationship ?

What is relationship test anywhere and what are it ups and downs 

1.What is the relationship test

In love , relationship test is when you are testing  the strength , love and trust in your relationship with your partner .In other words relationship test is mainly about testing your partner whether he truly love you or not or how much does  he trust you  and etc.

2.How do you test a relationship 

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7 others ways to improve relationships .These are more like alternatives  to complicated  ways to improve love in relationship .Some of them you may haven’t thought that they can help you improve your relationship .

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A lot of studies have shown that most new relationship fail within the first few months .why is that so  and how you can make yours last much longer than that .Well that is what is this post about .

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They are many  tips and tricks' to to follow if you want to improve your relationship but many of them are not practical. These post is about 7 practical ways you can use to improve your relationship straight away .

By practical I mean anyone can use the follow ways to improve his/her relationship regardless of the personality type , age and gender so without 1000s words intro let just jump straight to the number 1.

1.Take responsibility for your self

This is the most important choice you can make to improve your relationship. This means that you learn how to take responsibility for your own feelings and needs. This means that instead of trying to get your partner to make you feel happy and secure, you learn how to do this for yourself through your own thoughts and actions.

This means learning to treat yourself with kindness, caring, compassion, and acceptance instead of self-judgment. Self-judgment will always make you feel unhappy and insecure, no matter how wonderfully your partner is treating you.

For example, instead of getting angry at your partner for your feelings of abandonment when he or she is late, preoccupied and not listening to you, not turned on sexually, and so on, you would explore your own feelings of abandonment and discover how you might be abandoning yourself.

When you learn how to take full, 100% responsibility for yourself, then you stop blaming your partner for your upsets. Since blaming one’s partner for one’s own unhappiness is the number one cause of relationship problems, learning how to take loving care of yourself is vital to a good relationship.

2.KINDNESS, COMPASSION, ACCEPTANCE

Treat others the way you want to be treated. This is the essence of a truly spiritual life. We all yearn to be treated lovingly — with kindness, compassion, understanding, and acceptance. We need to treat ourselves this way, and we need to treat our partner and others this way.

Relationships flourish when both people treat each other with kindness. While there are no guarantees, often treating others with kindness brings kindness in return. If your partner is constantly angry, judgmental, uncaring and unkind, then you need to focus on what would be loving to yourself rather than reverting to anger, blame, judgment, withdrawal, resistance, or compliance.

Kindness to others does not mean sacrificing yourself. Always remember that taking responsibility for yourself rather than blaming others is the most important thing you can do. If you are consistently kind to yourself and your partner, and your partner is constantly angry, blaming, withdrawn and unavailable, then you either have to accept a distant relationship, or you need to leave the relationship. You cannot make your partner change — you can only change yourself.

3.Focus on learning instead of trying to control your partner

When conflict occurs, you always have two choices regarding how to handle the conflict: you can open to learning about yourself and your partner and discover the deeper issues of the conflict, or you can try to win, or at least not lose, through some form of controlling behavior.

We’ve all learned many overt and subtle ways of trying to control others into behaving the way we want: anger, blame, judgment, niceness, compliance, caretaking, resistance, withdrawal of love, explaining, teaching, defending, lying, denying, and so on. All the ways we try to control create even more conflict. Remembering to learn instead of control is a vital part of improving your relationship.

For example, most people have two major fears that become activated in relationships: the fear of abandonment — of losing the other — and the fear of engulfment — of losing oneself. When these fears get activated, most people immediately protect themselves against these fears with their controlling behavior. But if you chose to learn about your fears instead of attempting to control your partner, your fear would eventually heal. This is how we grow emotionally and spiritually — by learning instead of controlling.

4.Create the us time

When people first fall in love, they make time for each other. Then, especially after getting married, they get busy. Relationships need time to thrive. It is important to set aside specific time to be together — to talk, play, make love. Intimacy can not be maintained without time together.

5.Gratitude instead of complains

Positive energy flows between two people when there is an “attitude of gratitude.” Constant complaints create a heavy, negative energy, which is not fun to be around. Practice being grateful for what you have rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Complaints create stress, while gratitude creates inner peace, so gratitude creates not only emotional and relationship health, but physical health as well.

5.Fun and play

We all know that “work without play makes Jack a dull boy.” Work without play makes for dull relationships as well. Relationships flourish when people laugh together, play together, and when humor is a part of everyday life. Stop taking everything so seriously and learn to see the funny side of life. Intimacy flourishes when there is lightness of being, not when everything is heavy.

6.Service

A wonderful way of creating intimacy is to do service projects together. Giving to others fills the heart and creates deep satisfaction in the soul. Doing service moves you out of yourself and your own problems and supports a broader, more spiritual view of life.

If you and your partner agree to these 6 choices, you will be amazed at the improvement in your relationship!

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How To handle fight or disagreement properly in relationship ?

So after all good answers that members have contributed these question on Quora   “ what Couse fight in relationship ?”  . I think it also important to know how handle fight properly when it already stated .As you know that fights or disagreements are unplanned they just happened unexpectedly and unintentional. So it is beneficial to know how to handle them properly .

So below are my 10 rules or tips that we can use to handle fight / disagreement in relationship .Some of them maybe hard to follow for the first time but the more you practice them the better you will be in terms of solving disagreements with your partner.

1.If you feel a slow burn, STOP! Often when you get mad it feels like an eruption. You feel a rush of anger or rage that sweeps your entire body and mind. It may feel like you lose your train of thought or you forget what you want to say. You want to explode at the other person. Stop! It’s not the right time to talk.

2.Remember this is not your enemy. Right now, your survival system sees your beloved as a threat, the enemy, and a source of pain. Only survival counts. So you may feel inclined to say anything, fight with all your might, win at all costs. It’s a big mistake!

3.Avoid mental/emotional associations with your love or marriage relationship that don’t serve you. When you get upset you are “activated.” Your survival system has begun making associations, or links, between your beloved and those who hurt you in the past. An inner voice may be saying things like: “This is what all women do.” Or: “This is what my Dad used to do, and I don’t want to be in a relationship with my dad.”

4.Take a “time out.” Ask: “Am I too upset to resolve this right now?” If the answer is yes, you need a break and some distance. Notice, I didn’t say storm out. I didn’t say, slam the door, bolt to your car, and burn rubber as you speed away. Keep your head and say, “I am too upset to talk about this right now. I need a break and to get out of here for a little while. Let’s talk later.” Sometimes tiny skirmishes dissipate naturally. If you feel the anger dissipate naturally, let it go.

5.Stay on the topic at hand. “Emotional vomiting” is off limits. This is not an opportunity to unload all the upsets you have not been holding in. Let some things go. If you use this as a dumping ground you will start a painful fighting cycle with no end.

6.Let your partner save face. If you are fighting over who’s right and who’s wrong, you will both lose. In a one couple’s counseling session, the woman kept correcting the man’s memory of the facts. Then she complained about how mean he was getting when he asserted his memory. She didn’t see that he needed room to save face and feel like he was right, too. She needed to drop the facts. Ask yourself, “Do I want a harmonious love relationship or to be right?”

7.Both partners must get a full turn. To start say: “OK, let’s take turns. You go first and I will listen, and then let you know what I have heard you say. When you are done, it will be my turn to speak.” If he says, “I am angry that you leave the counter dirty,” say, “What I hear you saying is that it makes you mad.” Then you can ask, “Why does this make you angry? How else does that make you feel?” When you have heard your partner’s point of you, it will be your turn to talk about your feelings. Make a sincere effort to fix upset areas.

8.Try to stand in your partner’s shoes and see the world from his/her point of view. Wanting to understand does not mean you are “giving in” or being weak. It means your love or marriage relationship comes first. You want to the bottom of the conflict so you can resolve it. Being understood is the number one diffusion technique in any conflict. It can prevent years of marriage counseling. You can say, “What I hear you saying is …” Drop your pride and be willing to say that you apologize even if you don’t think you did anything wrong. Intentions are not always interpreted as they were meant. You say, “I am sorry, I do see how it could have come across that way.” Only then will they be open to hear your point of view.”

9.Offer a heart-felt apology. It doesn’t matter that you didn’t intend to do anything wrong if the other person in your marriage or love relationship feels offended. You can say, “I am sorry. I do apologize for that. I can see your point of view and imagine how that would feel.”

10.Do not under any circumstances call names. When you call your love a bitch, bastard, whore, asshole, idiot, stupid, and so on, you are being abusive. You may win the current battle but your marriage or romance will suffer. Don’t be surprised if you need marriage counseling or your love relationship suffers.

Keep in mind, both of you have a right to feel the way you do. What counts is being heard and understood. Your friendship, love or marital relationship can grow, deepen and be a place of safety, love and expansion when you follow these simple rules.

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Helping a friend in a toxic relationship can be a little bit more tricky than helping yourself .That is mainly because once you start to talk about it with him chances he can think that you are jealous about his relationship . That why i have created this four steps you can follow if really serious about helping your friend in a toxic relationship.

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Small ceiling fans are min fans that you can hang on ceiling in your small room with blade span ranging from 29 to 36 inches .These ceiling  fans  specific designed for small rooms such as bad room, kitchen ,garage and more  .

They comes in variety of colours  and different cool features which make them best suit for small rooms.

This is the list of 7 best of them + additional important information you need to know before choose one .

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Respect is crucial in any relationship for it to be successful , without it there can be a lot of fight and conflict in the relationship .This article is about signs of disrespect that can be observed from a man.

That does not mean women don’t disrespect , they do disrespect in fact most of the signs listed below are similar to the ones that can be observed from women