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It is mid May and my heat is still on. We have no control, I feel like they’re trying to smoke us out like termites.

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Falling, Owen Gent

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Oh my fucking god I went on this date with this guy and he said he doesn’t like shows

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So much of what we think of as inscrutable Twitter intellectualism which miiiight mean something to someone is just people having a mid-tier thought and using imprecise words.

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I think like, the death of Vine and Rabbit, Wikipedia constantly needing to beg for money, Discord depending so heavily on venture capital, Facebook turning towards spying on users to generate a return on all the venture capital that got them started, Adobe creative suite turning into a subscription rather than a single product you buy, the strangulation of streaming entertainment as every company pulls their content and makes it exclusive to their service, are all great examples of how like, it really doesn't matter if something is legitimately useful, efficient, or beloved, it is next to impossible for a service to exist if it doesn't make shareholders increasing amounts of money year after year. Which may seem like a "no duh" type of statement, but it's a very simple window into how the profit motive makes products and services worse, not better. And how that's not just a matter of certain companies or ceos being bad and greedy on an individual level, but is an inescapable factor of an economy where existence is dependent on generating capital.

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My mom is really into the occult and spirituality and I guess I am too, as it’s basically my family legacy at this point. But I walk around the streets of NYC talking about whether Baal was and egregore and imagine people going like “only in New York baybay”

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Okay. So. Ur probably right in that it was a vague and difficult to justify comparison, but I wasn’t really talking about lesbians so much as I was talking about the double standard between men and women in regards to gender nonconformity. The point I was clumsily hinting at was that while we’ve hesitantly accepted that gay men *can* be masculine, men are still seen as incapable of producing genuine femininity on the basis that femininity in men is intrinsically monstrous/dangerous/perverted/comical/grotesque/unnatural while women are allowed much more liberty in how they transgress against norms all while still permitted to be women with most, if not all of the social dignity of that “class” left intact. And I stand by that assertion because I think I’m right.

On the topic of some of your other thoughts, any deviant sexuality is going to be seen as gender-non conforming. This is not unique to women. I feel like that’s so obvious, so like if you actually want to say that you find the other stuff I said problematic within your paradigm you can say that lol. “We decenter men so butch-femme has no correlation or association with masc-fem dynamics.” I kind of get what you’re saying which is a kind of moralistic stance: that gay relationships and gay sex shouldn’t be thought of as referencing straight relationships and straight sex, but I think that they often do, indirectly, and I don’t think that’s a bad thing. We are all drawing from the same source material which is hetero-normative. I think the accumulated subconscious knowledge of human civilization wrt gender, built on heterosexuality and its rituals of sexual and romantic power exchange/roleplay are unavoidable and will naturally inflect even how many, but not all, gay men and lesbians feel about themselves and the object of their desires. There is also a definite homo-gender dynamic that is basically impossible to find in straight relationships. None of us should be ashamed of our desires because of our bodies or think of them as less real than the desires of someone else. We are all derivative beings and we also have the ability to create new paradigms. However, I will not refer to something I have seen many times before as new.

Honestly, the attitude with which I actually took some issue and caused me to become hysterical enough to write my original post is this: that any dynamic between two individuals which can be understood as having a traditionally gendered basis, is surely deeply rooted in patriarchal oppression. That’s so cynical and boring and not true! The dynamics and ideals I’m talking about wrt sex and romantic relationships are poetic and issue from the deep wells of the subconscious. It is a spiritual resource to understand not only the self, but one’s relationship to the other as well. Pull from it what you like or just build a bridge over it completely, fuck it, it’s a river not a cage, so to speak. Gender, like power, i believe, is not intrinsically oppressive, nor is its involvement dependent on a penis and a vagina. It’s bigger than our prosaic, academic, and increasingly dogmatic epistemology of patriarchy.

I hate this post with my whole heart topping and bottoming are not related to power dynamics shut up shut up shut up

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This is the cultural conversation

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*takes these*

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Oh word.

gays and neurodivergent ppl are obsessed with cryptids, the fae, liminal spaces, etc because we often exist on the fringe of society and lack well-defined social identities, feeling such acute isolation from the “normal” world that we align ourselves more with things that are literally not of this world. in this essay i will

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I know this is about like patriarchal oppression or whatever but sex for gay men is very much so about power. And I’d hazard, that it’s that way for many other groups too. Like yeah it’s not about who is a more a competent member of society lol, but it IS about being pressed down, being allowed to press someone down, the intimacy of surrender, etc. These are all power dynamics, and a lot of our power structures intersect with our understanding of gender and surprise, people find both gender and power and how they relate super sexy. I just say this because internet spaces have convinced a lot of people that sex is only about pleasure and friendship, but for me and most gay men, and honestly most straight people, it’s really about irrational psychological desires which are not always as ethical as you might want them to be. Like, bottoming can be really uncomfortable and even painful so why do I do it?? As an addendum, I think a lot of people are uncomfortable with the idea of gay men “rehearsing heterosexual dynamics,” but no one has any problem with fem and butch lesbians much more blatantly participating in masc-fem gender expressions. You have to wonder why that is.

I hate this post with my whole heart topping and bottoming are not related to power dynamics shut up shut up shut up

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So do seahorses read fpreg.

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I would definitely watch a crossover of supersmash bros and 90 day fiancé.

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