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troubleshooting your chastity lifestyle - part 1/2

i will often get messages from followers about problems that they are having in their chastity relationship. lets start the new year by trying to fix some of these problems. instead of responding to everyone individually ill be spending the next few posts answering some of the common problems people are having.

many keyholders have expressed frustration that they aren’t quite getting the submission and/or the loving attentive and affection husband that is promised by chastity. or they are getting it for a little while and then it goes away. i’ve noticed some common mistakes that people are making…

1, avoid the “lock it and leave it” mistake. chastity is NOT something that can be passive! keyholders must play an active part in the game being played. the surest way to fail to achieve all the benefits of chastity is to just lock your partner up and ignore him. in fact, this will likely have the opposite effect causing frustration (the bad kind) and resentment.

you should be doing something every single day that engages him with reguard to his chastity. this can be fun exciting things that take time and effort or this can be as simple as a comment about his cage, a joke or a tease about it, grabbing his cage in the kitchen, or demanding a picture of his cage when he is out of the house. for the love of god though, you need to do at something!

2, avoid what i’ve heard people describe as “traffic jam chastity”. this is when you don’t keep him locked, teased, and denied long enough. understand that in order to get to the sweet spot of chastity you need to have a minimum amount of lock up time (plus constant teasing). this will vary by each couple but it is certain that only having him locked for a few days at a time will result in failure. i suggest at least 4 weeks at a time. ideally more! it takes time for him to build up sexual tension and frustration and to convert that into constructive emotions and actions. if you’re unlocking him too often then you will never reach the promised land and every time you unlock him, you’ll have to start over.

some keyholders are worried about being “too strict” and keeping him locked for too long but you should remember that if you’re already in a chastity relationship then he wants to be locked up! unlocking him is likely the opposite of what he wants. still, if you are worried about how long you keep him looked and denied then play this fun game: chose a number of weeks that you think is reasonable to keep him locked for. maybe like 6 weeks to start. write it down. tell him that you’ve chosen a period of time for his next chastity sentence. tell him that he has to also choose a period of time and write it down but if he chooses a time period less than what you chose then you will double the your number! (ie if you chose 6 weeks and he chose 3 weeks then he will be locked for 12 weeks! oof…) but if he chooses more than what you’ve chosen, then that will be his new sentence (ie if you chose 6 weeks and he chose 7 weeks then he will be locked for 7 weeks). this is a fun game that also let’s you know exactly how long he thinks is appropriate.

3, As the keyholder, you must set clear rules and expectation. you have to make and enforce your will. do you want nightly back rubs? make it a rule. want him to clean the house? make it a rule. want him to give you and orgasm. demand one. i’ve been giving many examples of things you could do to keep chastity spicy. pick a few and do them on your terms. he is probably starved for this kind of attention and if youre not giving it then no wonder he is acting out! chastity is a give and take and the more effort and energy you put into it, the more benefits you will receive from it.

more FAQs and trouble shooting to come.

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How to fully control Your sub in 9 steps

1:  You  need to get into his head.

-Learn his fantasies and what turns him on.  Use this information against him and to Your advantage.

-Find out what humiliates him, and to what level.

-Make him show his loyalty to You regularly.  Reward him, even if it’s just with positive attention when he does.

- Aside from family, close friends and work, give him 0% privacy.  Don’t hide this process from him, make him partake in handing it over to you in ways that demonstrate how he is “losing the privacy.”  

-Make him need You for everything.  Point out how You help him, how You guide him, and how You accept the negative things about him that others may not.

- Hypnosis, especially while they are sleeping can help transfer messages, ideas and ideals about You deep into their faggot head.

2:  Punish him often for everything, no exceptions!

- Don’t let him get away with anything!  When You let your sub get away with something. You are telling him that You don’t care for him and that what he did was ok.

- You can Spank, paddle, or whip him.

- Humiliate him past what is easy for him.

- Long term bondage

- Corner time

- Food restrictions

- Writing standards/lines\

- Write a book report or essay.

- Ground him/take away privileges.

- Wash his mouth out with soap.

- Make him do anything he hates.

- Get creative and make the punishment match the crime.

- Never use separation or the threat of leaving/ending Your control over him as a punishment.  That is counterproductive to the end goal (trust and service) and is detrimental to the faggot.

3:  Routinely discipline him.  This is different than punishment.

- Spank him once a week, just because You can, not too hard, not too soft.

-Humiliate him often.

- 5-10 minuets of corner time a day can do wonders for him, like a sub’s meditation.

- If he is stressed, give him a break and put him in some comfy bondage for a while.  You may or may not want to integrate impact play with this.  For lots of subs, some pain can really help elevate their mode for the rest of the day or longer.

- Routine discipline will save You time and energy in the long run.  You will have to punish him less as a result.

- Taking care of You can be part of his discipline.  Have him do Your laundry, cleaning, etc.

4:  On some level, even if it’s small, keep Your sub horny for You.

- Talk sexy to him.

-Sexualize non sexual things/activities You are interested in. He will see whatever it is You’ve sexualized as such and be more interested/eager to engage.

- Have Your sub do some or all of Your body grooming. This can be Your baths, Your nails, shaving, trimming, waxing, etc.

- Scare him by telling him when and what You’re going to do to him in the near future.

- Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual.

- Make him give You orgasms.  This is different from sex.  This is a service.

- Let him rest on You to smell You as You watch TV or read.

- Give him underwear/items of Yours to smell as he sleeps.

- Hypnosis, especially while Your sub sleeps can help with this too.

5:  Control Your own feelings of guilt.

-      Your sub needs You to be strong “with” him.  You may show vulnerabilities in Yourself for other aspects of Your life. When it comes to him and Your control over him, be firm!

-      Some meanness and cruelty will be needed from time to time to help break Your sub down.

-      Your sub may not want everything You give him/ do to him, but he needs it.

-      Letting Your sub get away with insubordinate behavior because You feel guilty adequately and severely addressing it is weak.  You need to control that shit.

-      Sub faggots need a real man who is close to them to guide them.  Sometimes real men need to show the fag that they are inferior.  This can’t always be done by talking.  And if it is done my talking, the talking can’t be politically correct/kind.

-      Humiliation/breaking him down, teaching him to serve long term, these are all things he needs.  You are filling his needs.

-      Remember, You both need to be happy.  But happiness comes from different places for different people.  If there is communication, and Your sub has communicated that he needs this life to be happy, then You are doing him a service and loving him by breaking him down and controlling him.

-      A good sub is hard to find. Don’t let the guilt of giving him what he needs stop You from doing so. What he needs may be overwhelming for him and he may break. If he does be there for him.

6: Humiliate/degrade/break him down on some level daily, some days more than others.

- Have him wear a small butt-plug for a time, wifi enabled if possible.

- Have him be naked or close to it, around You and or Your friends.

- Make him wear a collar or other symbol of inferiority.

- Make him wear a chastity device sometimes.

- Teach them “tricks” like sit, drop to their knees to kiss Your crotch, etc.  In public or with friends randomly call out a trick every now then. Make sure Your sub does this flawlessly without hesitation.

- Make him masturbate for You.

- Slap him in the face.

- Spit on him.

- Treat him as an inferior in public.  (Ex: he carries all bags, opens doors, eats Your leftovers, holds Your drinks, tie Your shoes  etc.)

- Make him eat his own cum sometimes.

- Talk down to him in front of others

7: Rearrange his life/time to better serve/please You.  Make sure this does not interfere with his time with loved ones or work.

- If You want to change his body to Your liking, do so.  Control his workouts, diet etc.  Make sure and be realistic with this one.

- Make sure he is available during some of Your leisure time each week so he will be able to serve You during those times.

- Put him on a sleeping schedule.  Lots of fags are not able to adequately manage their sleep times.  The better rested he is, the better he will serve You.

- Go through his closet/things and throw away/put away any clothing You don’t like him to be wearing.

- Sign him up to learn new tasks or prefect tasks/skills that will help You.  (Ex: massage classes, cooking classes, pet care, etc.)

- Change their grooming habits to Your liking.

8: Help Your sub be grateful for everything he has.  Make sure You are at the top of that list.  One great way to do this is to deny him things.  Yep, it’s time to say “No.”  Subs need boundaries, and saying “No” is a great way to help them with those boundaries.

- You can take away certain foods, comforts, leisure time, sex, masturbation, etc.

- Make him show his gratitude to You often.  Faggots will show this to You in their own way. Most faggots will need some help/instruction on exactly how to show their gratitude to You.

- Make him explain why he deserves something. If he can’t explain why well enough. Then take it from him.

- You can take things/items from him that You know he does not need, but likes.  (Make sure he can afford for You to take them and that they are not of an additional value such as sentimental etc.)  Let him know from time to time that You enjoy something that You took from him.

- Offer him a reward of getting to have something back. Make what you give him back relevant to what You make him do. This could be sort or long term.  

9:  None of these actions will work without real trust.

- If Your sub is Your partner, let him know how much his sub-ass completes You and Your power.

-  If Your sub is not Your partner, make sure You two are real friends. That You appreciate how his inferiority completes you.  The more You two know about and do with each other. The more thoroughly You can control him.

-Part of trust on the subs part is trusting that You will follow through when You say You are going to do something to him or are going to make him do something.  Follow through always.

-  When a sub fully trusts You. He can submit to You his mind and privacy. Letting You go in and re-arrange/manage his life.

- Subs need constant reassurance.  Let him know that no matter what, he is Yours.  If a serious sub feels disposable. He will look for another Dom who appreciates his surrender.

- If Your life is getting too hard for a bit or You need help with something. Trust that Your sub will be able to take over for You and act in your best interest until You are back in shape.  Giving  sub this responsibility will either make him feel trusted and good, or upset that You are not actively controlling him 100% of the time.  If he gets upset and does not step up and take over for You. Then drop him like a hot potato.

-Talk to Your sub often.  Ask him how he is feeling, and let him honestly know how You are feeling on anything and everything.

- By taking things away from him, You are in a sense rewarding him when You give them back.  Also, nothing he has is his forever.  You need to re-take things and privileges away from him periodically so he knows they are a privilege and not a right.  Think of it like taking a food bowl away from a dog.  Your sub needs be docile enough that You can take his food bowl away from him as he is eating. He will not make a fuss and patiently wait until the food is returned

-Please note: Do not ever deny him from being with Friends or family.  Make him realize that the only reason You allow him to have constant contact/interaction with good friends and family is because he “helps” them by being a good friend or family member.  Make sure the he understands that the happiness that comes from being with them is “second” to the happiness that he brings them.  Basically, he needs to understand that if he pulls away from loved ones. While he is under Your control his loved ones will suffer. That is why he is allowed (and encouraged) to keep and/or strengthen the bonds he has with them.

Please note: The following is a list of things to control a sub only. Please do not implement these ideas if You do not care about and are not committed to Your sub.  This list is not all inclusive of how to treat Your sub.  This list leaves out the important kind necessities that Your sub needs such as reassurance, love, respect, being protected, allowed to be protective of You etc.  These ideas are for a long term 24/7 arrangements, not a scene.  Not everything will apply in every case, and there may be things on the list that will work for You.

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Cum day

Today, my Master let me come after 2 weeks of chastity. He didn’t let me touch my dick, He wanted to control my masturbation. So He made me jerk off with His Hands.

Master had been telling me I could jerk off a lot of “tomorrow” and then when the day was arriving, He said He changed His mind. I guess that’s the fate of slaves. Masters chose, slaves obey.

Thank You Master to let me cum today. Thank You for Your generosity

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Maintenant tu vas etre bien docile et obéir

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SLAVE HUMILIATION TRAINING

Humiliation will only work if it is part of its decision to submit.  

It can’t be forced on it against its will and be expected to improve its self-image or have positive results.  

Humiliation training for a slave boy has many purposes.  

Slave humiliation training is by its very nature, psychological humiliation.  One of the primary reasons for using it is to force the slave to push the “choice decision” it has made to obey its Master and be subject to his will.  Care must be made to now push humiliation exercises  beyond its consent or it would be worthless for training.  Humiliation forces it to realize how deeply this decision is and how obedience is not always easy.  In some cases, it can also provides positive reinforcement.

For many there is great satisfaction and emotional release in undergoing and surviving humiliation training.  It gives the slave boy a sense of accomplishment and it can draw it nearer its Master emotionally.

Humiliation of a slave can have a positive or negative psychological effect. So know your slave and use caution.  As its Master, you are responsible for its growth and development. It is simply another tool to use in its training.  Some slaves have a strong negative and counter productive aberration to some  techniques. But some are very well trained by humiliation.

Care should be taken to avoid emotionally or psychologically overload of the senses that can cause the slave to put up and emotional wall to protect the self.  Humiliation is often used as part of discipline training, scene play and punishment.  Often verbal abuse is used to set the stage before punishment.

Humiliation training is not the same as the slave boy being hurt and deeply humiliated by lies told to it or dishonesty. That is a whole new ballgame outside the scope of training discussed here. It is not bdsm but abuse.  It will have a positive effect on the Master slave relationship where being hurt from lies and dishonest will certainly not. Forcing a slave to suck your dick in a public place does not necessary destroy Master/slave trust as would a lie or dishonesty.   Yes, you can and should be intense but use common sense.

Examples of slave humiliation training:

Act as objects (furniture, ashtray, footstool, art, etc.)

Address Dom’s as Sir,. – I don’t consider this slave training humiliation only good slave behavior

After sex, making sub lick off your cum and its juices from your penis  – well for me it’s not humiliation 

Age play.

Anal plug – Using an Anal plugs under its clothing. For some slave’s this is effective humiliation, and for others it is just fun or feels good.

Ask for drink, food, cigarettes, etc. – this is natural.

Bathroom use control – this is natural.

Blindfolds – by itself I don’t consider it slave training humiliation.

Bondage that exposes body and/or places in odd positions.

Boot worship at odd moments – this can be effective slave training humiliation if used in public.

Caged in private and alone.

Carrying a doll or toy around – can be effective slave training humiliation in public.

Crawl on all 4’s.

Cum or urinate into their food – effective humiliation for many.

Curse words (Whore, Slut, Worthless, etc.)

Dancing/stripped tease.

Displayed in cage.

Eat from a pet dish.

Eat from floor.

Eat without utensils.

Enema.

Eye contact restrictions.

Feed submissive from hand.

Foot worship.

Forced nudity(most slaves are keep nude at home.)

Forced masturbation where Master chooses in public places.

Forced shopping for BDSM toys.

Forced slave auction.

Forced to go to bathroom in front of others.

Gaging.

Golden shower.

Inspection of body cavities in private.

Inspection of body cavities in public.

Ignoring slave.

Handcuffs in public.

Handcuffed to a shopping cart while shopping.

Harem–serving with others.

Having food chosen for it.

Having clothing chosen for it.

Hold ping pong ball or coin against the wall with its nose while kneeling.

Hood.

Human Garbage Can.

Immobilization.

Lead on leash.

Leave bathroom door opened.

Leave note with embarrassing instructions.

Made to urinate in front of others.

Maid services.

Make sub wear underwear that you’ve urinated on.

Mask.

Nipple clamps under see thru top.

Orgasm control and/or denial.

Pet roles (act like a dog, cat, etc.)

Presenting in private and public.

Send shopping with note and hand it to clerk.

Serve others (supervised or unsupervised).

Shave head.

Shave pubic hair(most slaves keep everything but head shaved.)

Slap face.

Slave positions (kneel, stand, etc.)

Spanking (public.)

Speech restriction.

Stand in corner.

Swallow urine.

Suck dildo in car, so others can see.

Take pictures or videos.

Verbal abuse.

Wear a cat collar with a bell on ankle in public.

Wear diapers.

Wear Masters cum on your face without wiping.

going commando

Wear collar everywhere.

Wear clothes that are ripped or mismatched.

Wear a sign around neck or write on body (slut, slave, etc.)

Undress in front of others.

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Home alone: white slave protocol

When the slave knows it has a guaranteed extended period alone at home (e.g. an entire evening which is usual) it will observe the following protocol:

The slave will be naked wherever possible at soon as it comes home. During colder periods it will permitted to use a blanket to keep warm, and may wear socks.

The slave will wear at least one of: a chastity device or a cock ring; a padlock and chain or collar

The slave will eat all meals on its knees, without using hands; if Master requires it, the slave will sprinkle its food with piss or cum

With the exception of sitting at its desk to work, the slave may not use furniture for sitting on; it will use the floor

The slave will not stand to urinate, however …

… The slave will not use the toilet seat to sit on

The slave will where possible notify its Master in advance of periods alone at home, so that such activities as please Master can be assigned.

Master will respect occasions when the slave needs to work at home. Nowithstanding this, the slave is required at least to wear a cock ring if it is not possible to observe all or any of the above protocol.

BBC rules

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That's it boy. You won't be able to see anything with those dark lenses, however, I'll have fun seeing your look of fear and despair 😈

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CAGING - birthday preparations - rubber shorty, gag, gasmask, socks, sneaker, chastity, straightjacket & cage…

Finished. Down and in the cage. Safely fixed. Now you can celebrate. Little bit electro? Okay, but now: light off, are still a few hours. See you later…

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