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random anecdote for father's day: one time during a long car ride my dad asked me, "you're familiar with Murphy's Law, right?" and i was like "isn't that the one about how anything that can go wrong will go wrong?" and he said "yeah, exactly" and i said "why do you ask?" and he went "well, have you heard of Cole's Law?" and i said "no, actually, what's that?" and he said "it's mostly lettuce and carrots with a little dressing mixed in"

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To all creators!!!

CapCut has updated their terms and services and it’s really shit

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They apparently now have worldwide usage rights to what you upload on there. And if that includes a copy righted song, YOU could get in trouble for it.

EVEN if you’re just editing it and NOT uploading/exporting it anywhere they still have the rights to it

And they can use it for advertising and you can’t get them to take it down

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Spread the message so creators don’t fall into this shit

STOP USING CAPCUT

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Uk peeps!! Let’s get this going! 🏳️‍⚧️🇬🇧

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When TERFs moan about chopping off healthy parts, I just think about how technically my top surgery also doubled as breast cancer intervention because I found a lump as I was preparing to undergo surgery and the amount of [ultimately benign] tumors they found in the tissue I had removed would still have warranted fairly dramatic surgery.

I didn't even know I had tumors until I was part of the way through the process of chopping them off anyway. "Healthy"? Or did I find and prevent the early stages of cancer by doing so in the first place?

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so long as we're back to social justice 101 on this stupid website, u need to be aware of the feedback loop that emerges from disproportionate scrutiny: any social group that is placed under extra scrutiny, regardless of the actual prevalence of any particular behaviour, will appear to engage in that behaviour more often.

you see this most blatantly with racialised groups (more cops in black neighbourhoods = more arrests in black neighbourhoods = "omg look at all the crime in these neighbourhoods!" = more cops in black neighbourhoods etc). even if the rate of crime is the same (putting to one side the criminalisation of poverty which is also an important related factor), one group gets away with it way more often and a new generation of racists is indoctrinated with the crime statistics which "prove" that some groups are simply more criminal in nature. we see a similar phenomenon online with particular groups (trans women being a huge example) being subjected to mass stalking, their every move documented by weirdos and broadcast as representative of the group as a whole.

tl;dr - overscrutinising groups based on existing bigotries creates a recurring feedback loop, reproducing those bigotries across generations and nominally justifying them. this is bad, and you need to remember that you are not immune to it.

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i think one of the reasons why people hate transandrophobia theory and any mention of the specific hatred & oppression trans men face, is the same reason why it’s frowned upon in the university (and other less formal study spaces) to study Black masculinities, and the experiences of Black men & boys, rather than just only focusing on Black women & girls. It is often seen as anti-feminist to focus on the experiences of Black men & boys. I think this is a similar manifestation of radical feminism, and I often wonder what it means for me as a transmasc mixed Black person who studies sociology. I’ve been curious about studying Black masculinities but I’m even more curious and wanting to be intentional about studying Black transmasculinities, and combatting the erasure of transmascs/men. We are dying. And being essentially forced into the frontlines of queer combat on the basis of us being men— that we should be tough, we should be protecting everyone, that we wanted this. And that we are disposable.

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youre monogamous? oh… it’s ethical, right? ethical monogamy? okay good for you! i mean pretty much every monogamous couple i’ve met didn’t work out but maybe you guys will beat the odds! haha. so is it a sex thing? you guys have sex with- just each other? huh. how does that work? i could never do monogamy, i’m too jealous, i’d worry my partner would leave me for someone else instead of dating us both… how do you deal with the jealousy? is it hard? like, how hard? extremely? do you think you’ll break up? i mean in the long run these things rarely work out,

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people should remember that the word "hunk" exists

no, unless he's a young father, that's not a dilf, that's a hunk. If you want to call a childless man a dilf, at least make him middle aged

no, that's not a bear, that's a hunk. Bears must be fat and hairy

no, that's not a himbo, that's a hunk. Himbos must be dumb, beefy and kind simultaneously, if he's just dumb and beefy that's a hunk

like, cmon people, there's nothing wrong with a humble hunk. Why are you so mean to him?

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thinking about when my professor told me how the boards of companies/orgs/etc. will sometimes hire on a CEO/whatever who they know will basically take a chainsaw to existing infrastructure, let them fuck as much shit up as possible, and then promptly fire them as soon as they've accomplished what the board wanted them to do. then they can point the finger at that guy & look like they're the heroes and the problem is resolved because he's gone now. and they still get to keep all the changes they wanted that nobody else did.

anyway I think it's fun and all to watch the two most divorced men on the planet publicly divorce each other. and also. maybe keep that in mind, is all.

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you resisted the forcefemmification beams for too long

Nope. Completely incorrect and wrong.

This is a decision that I made for myself. I made this choice because it's who I want to be. Not because someone else wanted me to for their own pleasure.

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I'm a trans woman. I'm used to the idea that TERFs will misgender me, call me an MRA, and say "men are inherently oppressors". This is textbook radfem nonsense.

Someone said these things to me today. But it wasn't a TERF, no. It was a non-binary user who claimed they were fighting against transmisogyny. However, they were overtly transphobic to trans men.

When I stepped in to defend trans men, they dropped the pretense of caring for trans women by misgendering me and calling me an MRA. Because that's the thing about people who hate trans men: They're transphobic. They can pretend to be trans-positive all they like, but their hated for minorities will eventually erode the facade. So stop tolerating any hatred of minorities, step in, and cut out these creeps as soon as possible.

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Woah mama just reminding my followers that TERF ideology is fundamentally evil and not welcome anywhere near my blog hummina hummina hummina

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Happy Pride everyone. Reupload as a full long strip was very blurry

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you cannot talk about the homophobic murder of jonathan joss without including in the conversation that he is indigenous.

american indian men are at the 2nd highest risk of death by murder compared to all other ethnic groups. in their lifetimes, 82% of native men report having experienced domestic violence. yet the overwhelming majority of perpetrators are non-natives (88% of native men and 92% of native women who reported violence said their attacker was non-native). what’s more, tribal governments are often stymied in their attempts to bring justice against non-natives, meaning that many of these cases go unresolved.

this was an intersectional attack. the fact that he is indigenous matters, even if the motivation was homophobic, because it made him even more vulnerable and disposable in the eyes of his killer.

as always, look into MMIWP to learn more, and speak up for us. miigwetch, take care

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this is from a "manipulation advice" video and it's just so fucking funny to me. why didn't I think of responding to insults like this