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look i also made an identity crisis uquiz

https://uquiz.com/GIkZHX

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comfort movie nr.1. billie is just too precious :((

Billie and Emma dir. Samantha Lee, The Philippines 2018.

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Personally, I'm not a huge fan of the "not like other girls" trend or more accurately the hate that people who display that behavior get. I specifically don't like the idea that growing or "healing" from that phase means accepting femininity and enjoying being feminine.

I thought about trying to explain the concept without addressing the elephant in the room but it's way too obvious if you think about it for more than two seconds. This is a trans masculine narrative, it always has been.

What are these people being mocked for exactly? A failure to associate with their female peers, perform femininity in a socially acceptable way if at all, and being loud and "annoying" about that distinction. Instead of this being labeled as some sort of gender incongruence that could be explored with compassion, it's labeled as internalized misogyny or a character flaw that needs to be worked through.

I don't know folks, refusing to shut up about not being a girl or at least like any you've ever seen seems pretty transgender to me!!!

Obviously not everyone who claimed "not to be like other girls" ended up being trans or even gnc. But personally, I didn't even know being trans was an option. I went through the whole arc. Practically just a boy as a little kid, tomboy in elementary school, "not like other girls" in middle and part of high school, then I supposedly I "healed" and started dressing more feminine later in high school. I even identified as sapphic for a while.

But I'm not, I didn't like dressing feminine and I wasn't into women. I can't stress enough how much responses to the "not like other girls" trend like "omg they're gay and in love" or "you'll enjoy being feminine when you get over your internalized misogyny" delayed my transition. It made me unnecessarily cringe at early parts of my life that were just me trying to tell someone, anyone, in any way I could that there was something not right with my gender.

I really think we need to retire this concept. If someone is being rude or misogynistic about their discomfort with womanhood or femininity, by all means call that out. But if someone's just being kinda cringe about it? Leave them alone man. And maybe analyze the biases you have that make you feel like that behavior is cringe.

Regardless, just know that there never has been and never will be anything wrong with trying to tell the world who you really are. Even if it was just you insisting that "you weren't like other girls".

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im so funny

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Gender is a game and I'm losing it

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Need to be mindful for our feathered friends!

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Post Credit: Impact on Instagram.

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Developing countries are not ‘developing’ but recovering from European colonialism.

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“ Just gather us all in one place and kill us all with missiles. Let us all die at once as martyrs. Because what you’re doing right now is torture! “

I am still sorry if putting this in blm and stop asian hate offends anyone, but as you know by now, social media platforms are preventing Palestine from trending. And you deserve to know the truth. And Palestinian deserve to be heard

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I love how lonely boy is so accurate

Cursed Creature here

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today im thinking about the huge buff bread guy from kikis delivery service. highly underrated guy

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These parts just ...

Don't blame if you don't believe

While I hack away these parts of me

Close the door before you leave

I'm miles and miles from sympathy

'Cause I've got great expectations to live up to babe

So pack it up and move along

Don't get so much

I hate your guts

That's how it goes

Mess with me once

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every little touch reminds my brain of how you taste

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All people are fake, they’re made out of metal. But I like you. And that is not fake.